Kids going for sleepover at grans

[Bingeslayer]

Right,first off I'd like to say that we have been following the guidelines to the letter since this all began.None of us have shown any symptoms and have had no reports in the locality of anyone having had it either.

I'm a single mum with 2 dds aged 14 and 7,dd14 has asd and dd7 has seperation anxiety,both have spd dd7 is especially full on,I have pdd and social anxiety,have been coping pretty well the last 5 weeks but am really really struggling this week.Havent mentioned this to my mum as haven't wanted to worry her as with lockdown not much can be done,but I think she can tell from talking to each other,facetiming etc.

She rang earlier and offered to have the children overnight,obviously i said no not worth the risk,but she pointed out how low the risk would be,she lives alone,only leaves for essentials and has also been symptom free.I reiterated no because I wouldn't want to put her at risk but I could really do with the mental break.weighing the pros and cons I think it would be safe enough,my only worry now is I don't think my siblings would agree and it would cause uproar in the family.
Don't know why I'm posting to be honest as if posters agreed it would be o.k I'd still have the sibling issues and not sure i could convince them I'm not being selfish,which I am a bit I know but the children are suffering too especially dd7 as I havent had energy to play for days so she stuck on devices and screens and I know my mum would do activities with her.

You poor poor thing OP i promise you you are NOT and burden and not a bad mum , I wish I could give you a cuddle , you need your mum help , this doesn't make you useless or any less of a great mum , you have mental health issues these are absolutely not your fault and as valid as a physical problem .. You need to let your mum have the children you need a break and a rest , look after yourself , it will get better this will pass and it be ok , it's hard now but equally you can't be expected to do this alone and you need to utilise your family as your mental health is just as important as the virus you can't put yourself at risk of suicidal thoughts x

@Bingeslayer oh I am so glad to see your update and glad you are getting some respite. The sleep will make you feel a lot more able for when they come back and do you the world of good. Take care of you Xxx

I haven’t read the thread sorry but as your child has ASD you’re allowed reasonable adjustments to the lockdown. So it’s fine. You’re not doing anything wrong. Hope you get some peace and relax a little.

Had a long sleep which was lovely and just spoke to kids to say goodnight,as I was speaking to dbil I could hear dd laughing in background,lad shoes happy as she was upset leaving me,I haven't heard that in such a long time,so whilst was lovely to hear it makes me think I've been making them miserable.
My other 2 siblings(one of whom vetoed mum having them) have been radio silent since.

This is a really good update. I’m not surprised your sibling has been radio silent. That was totally predictable. Don’t be afraid to ask again for help or to call your other siblings out.