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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Some people enjoy patronising and depressing others

999 replies

Esprohuy · 25/04/2020 13:11

Clearly everyone is having a different experience of the current situation. It seems to me from the posts here and elsewhere that MN is full of people searching for threads from people either asking genuinely when others think the restrictions may be reduced, or people expressing mental or emotional.distress due to being locked away, sometimes alone. The pattern is the OP posts, there are a couple of sympathetic/in the case of lockdown speculation dovish opinions then the Depressor swoops, usually with a formulation along the lines of:
If you think these restrictions will be lifted anytime soon you are a naïve fool. Christmas will be cancelled and things will never fully return to normal

In the threads expressing mental distress their standard formulation is a variety of:
FFS pull yourselves together. It's been (insert number) weeks, how the F do you think people coped in the war the. All you are being asked to do is stay in and watch Netflix

There seems to be a remarkably large number of people among this cohort who claim grandparental involvement in WW1/2 and have a partner/sibling serving as a front line NHS worker. These depressors seem to scour MN looking to pounce on people expressing povs like the above.

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Willitneverend · 29/04/2020 12:05

Switzerland have announced it's ok for children under 10 to give their grandparents a hug.

My favourite Chinese takeaway is reopening and, I can't believe I'm excited about this, the workmen have reappeared outside our house to restart their interminable, Mr Bull style roadworks.

This will probably all cause DEATH!

Alsohuman · 29/04/2020 12:10

Switzerland have announced it's ok for children under 10 to give their grandparents a hug

I saw that, I bet the dementors go apeshit when that’s announced here.

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 29/04/2020 12:13

I know how this will go.

"AIBU to think that I'm now pressured to provide childcare for my grandchildren by my evil DIL who wants me to die."

And then a drip feed that they are indeed a Swiss grandparent.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 29/04/2020 12:17

That dementor emoticon is EPIC!

Willitneverend · 29/04/2020 12:19

@ChardonnaysPetDragon It's recommending a hug and a quick chat rather than babysitting. But no doubt the dementors will be ready to argue that it will mean the elderly being thrown into soft play centres on mass to have children drool on them or something.

[https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-52470838]

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/04/2020 12:20

@Willitneverend thankfully my favourite Indian never closed so I've been doing my bit!

I've been asked how do I know that someone hasn't coughed in my food but I've trusted them not to for over 20 years so I'll take a chance!

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 29/04/2020 12:21

I know, I'm just having some fun with my AIBU predictions, it's the home of hyperbole.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/04/2020 12:24

Haven't you noticed it's the same people that keep asking for a riot. First Brexit and then the election and now Corona. Then they will be dementing about people rioting

I remember reading that we we shouldn't discuss our shopping with our neighbours as, come the apocalypse, they could be armed and looting our houses.

To be honest I think the truly batshit will always be the same but will just find different things to attach their batshittery to!

BarkandCheese · 29/04/2020 12:28

It’s pretty hard to riot when everyone’s two meters apart.

I think in the very very long term when the recession bites we’ll see protests which end in very localised riots, much like the poll tax protests. While working in central London I used to occasionally encounter these kinds of riots, they were generally a hundred or so people lobbing stuff about and setting fire to bins while many more stood around and watched. I’d get home and see news reports of rioting on the streets of London where the camera angles made it look like all hell had broken loose, whereas they were actually quite small contained events. I’d then get relatives ringing me up telling me how awful and and dangerous London was, while I tried to explain I’d walked safety around the edge or the riot to the station and it really wasn’t what it looked like.

For some reason please want the fantasy of the whole of society falling into total chaos, rather than the reality of a handful of people making a lot of noise and mess .

FallonSwift · 29/04/2020 12:29

I remember reading that we we shouldn't discuss our shopping with our neighbours as, come the apocalypse, they could be armed and looting our houses.

But then in the next breath telling you that if you had anything to loot then you were clearly a panic buyer, and therefore EVIL and SELFISH and because of you 3873873 NHS workers starved to death today.

FallonSwift · 29/04/2020 12:32

@BarkandCheese I had this with one of the XR protests last year.

Was down in London for work, walking to the tube and thinking the streets were quite busy. Then realised that a few people were waving banners and placards. There was a bit of a traffic jam because some people were sitting in the road but police were re-directing vehicles. Otherwise it was all fairly low-key - I literally didn't even realise it was a protest until I was almost in the middle of it!! Watching the news coverage of it that night, it looked and sounded much bigger and far more disruptive than it actually was.

Willitneverend · 29/04/2020 12:34

@ChardonnaysPetDragon Sorry, got wrong end of the stick there. Yeah, we will probably also get people whose MIL wants to hug their children and cause death, because she should just hide in a cupboard until 2040.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat I'm sitting here laughing at the thought of takeaway owners up and down the land suddently deciding to spit in people's food.

Does anyone else remember that stupid meme that was doing the rounds a couple of weeks ago with the giant coronaviruses tumbling along a street?

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 29/04/2020 12:35

No, I wasn't very clear.

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 29/04/2020 12:36

I'm trying to work and also trying to keep away from the fridge, so my attention is a bit shot.

Drivingdownthe101 · 29/04/2020 12:40

Does anyone else remember that stupid meme that was doing the rounds a couple of weeks ago with the giant coronaviruses tumbling along a street?

Yes. Implying that if you leave your house YOU WILL DIE!

Willitneverend · 29/04/2020 12:51

we should have some sort of library of daft memes. Another one I saw recently was that if you left the house you should choose one of your family members to die. WTF.

GoldenOmber · 29/04/2020 12:57

I saw that, I bet the dementors go apeshit when that’s announced here.

Did you see the thread about the press conference where some random member of the public asked if she'd get to hug her grandkids after lockdown was lifted? Loads of people calling her selfish and stupid and one person saying she should reflect on how her grandkids would feel if they infected and killed her.

Coronabored · 29/04/2020 12:59

Winding the dementers up is keeping me sane though Smile

FilthyforFirth · 29/04/2020 12:59

This thread is welcome reading. I am genuinely so sick of the competitiveness misery that people are desperate to sink to and revel in.

sonjadog · 29/04/2020 13:05

I don't remember that meme but there was one I saw on here a few times which was looking down a street and it looked like it was raining corona virus. So that you walked outside at all you would end up covered in it. I was about to write and explain that it wasn't like that, and then thought nah, it would be a waste of my time.

Chockablok · 29/04/2020 13:18

Our little dementor made it to site stuff 😂

GoldenOmber · 29/04/2020 13:22

that stupid meme that was doing the rounds a couple of weeks ago with the giant coronaviruses tumbling along a street?

yes! And a caption something like "Would you be more careful if you could SEE it?" Well no, I'd probably be less careful if it was 6ft wide and neon green and I could just sidestep around it, wouldn't I?

Chockablok · 29/04/2020 13:31

@GoldenOmber my DD who is 5 actually believes there is a giant virus blob making its way around the streets.

We have the BBC news mugshot that must be visable at all times to thank for this 😂

Orangeblossom78 · 29/04/2020 13:46

Is MN going to have the dementor icon in the section with the others?

Yes in India there were these mad virus tuk-tuks and police with virus hats on, quite strange!

They keep saying 'lots of young and healthy people die' but that doesn't seem right from the stats. I do notice the media used to report the age and if underlying conditions etc but not anymore.