Some people enjoy patronising and depressing others

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Clearly everyone is having a different experience of the current situation. It seems to me from the posts here and elsewhere that MN is full of people searching for threads from people either asking genuinely when others think the restrictions may be reduced, or people expressing mental or emotional.distress due to being locked away, sometimes alone. The pattern is the OP posts, there are a couple of sympathetic/in the case of lockdown speculation dovish opinions then the Depressor swoops, usually with a formulation along the lines of:
If you think these restrictions will be lifted anytime soon you are a naïve fool. Christmas will be cancelled and things will never fully return to normal

In the threads expressing mental distress their standard formulation is a variety of:
FFS pull yourselves together. It's been (insert number) weeks, how the F do you think people coped in the war the. All you are being asked to do is stay in and watch Netflix

There seems to be a remarkably large number of people among this cohort who claim grandparental involvement in WW1/2 and have a partner/sibling serving as a front line NHS worker. These depressors seem to scour MN looking to pounce on people expressing povs like the above.

Flouting lockdown is the new fruitshoot and Greg's pasty.

Ah you see Greggs would be a bit like crisps and hot tubs, whereas toys being for the DC might be more worthy

Honestly mumsnet attracts a high proportion of women with autism, social anxiety and similar conditions who cope better in an anonymous social environment online

I think that online forums do in general, also people who have been rejected socially or who are just not very nice, they come to rely on them for interaction.

And the shitness of the economy will be looped back to the fact that the furloughed were too selfish, lazy and fat to go and pick fruit for free.

Won't it just.

Staff are forced to rub each othe with yum yums and lick the sugar off

Where do I apply?

The neighbour thread is absolutely amazing. Someone said if their neighbours gave her child a biscuit over the fence she would literally ‘cut her down dead’. Are these people ok? I mean how do they actually function ?

Toys for children are permitted under ‘the rules’ as they are necessary for development. Mumsnet would of course prefer it if they were wooden, not ‘plastic tat’.

I think they are the ones who never open their curtains and cross to the other side of the road when you go near them. Or have a stash of vodka bottles in the garden.

@Drivingdownthe101 I remember a thread where a poster said one of those wooden rainbow toys was all you’d need for a toddler. Apparently her toddler ONLY played with that, and books. nothing else was needed. They’re about 90 quid!

Another neighbour one here, loom at the empathy for the lady in the shielding group, and the Op themselves.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3890582-Feel-so-sorry-for-my-elderly-neighbour

Look, not loom

Should i feel sorry for elderly very ill neighbour stuck inside?

"In short, no. She’s not been told to stay home to punish her, it’s to stop her dying. Which is ultimately what would happen if she got the virus. As shit as it is is he needs to continue as she is for her own safety."

One thing I’ve been wondering is how all these people who have been gleefully reporting their neighbours for walking their dog twice a day, or having a 2m socially distanced chat are going to get along when we do get back to normal

I’ve seen some completely shitty behaviour on social media - a huge argument last night after someone posted that they’d seen their neighbour having multiple visitors everyday and had been reporting it to the police but the police weren’t doing anything about it. The neighbour’s daughter saw it and posted that the multiple visitors were carers for her terminally ill mum.

A local business owner has been carrying on like a complete tool - I won’t use his business again

I’m not sure I can forget the revolting way a so-called friend has behaved towards me

It’ll be weird for a long time

In fact, that is a common thing on here.

Someone asks how they should feel about something, then someone replies to tell them they Should not feel the feelings they are, and goes on to tell them why.

It's all a bit weird. Aren't feelings just, well, there? Why would others tell people how they should feel or think? Is it a bit like the thought police?

Springer I have no idea how people will cope. Some people jumped into a hedge when DH was running yesterday and shouted at him (he was just running normally, not close or anything and along a wide cycle track). The mind boggles.

Exactly, you can’t help feelings.

It’ll be weird for a long time

It really will. There was a poster on a thread last week who had publicly ‘called out’ a neighbour for not clapping on a Thursday night. She maintained that she was right to do that throughout the whole thread. Do these people realise they still have to live alongside these neighbours?

Chillicheese123 I can just imagine my 16 month old in lockdown playing with a wooden rainbow all day, every day, for weeks on end...

Some people are incapable of looking at their own behaviour in an even slightly sensible way. It’s all about them.

I have a lot of sympathy for people who struggle with anxiety

I agree with that, but more and more of them want to rip you apart because you don't seem panicked or terrified enough to appease them.

It's the new script.

This is killing masses of young and healthy people! Frankly you should be scared!!

I'm not.

Well it's not about you - selfish cow. Imagine you take up a bed that could be given to someone who caught it through no fault of their own.

Who is at fault for an invisible virus I am not the virus. The virus is the virus. If anyone is at fault, then it's the virus.

And I'm not even flaunting the actual rules. The actual rules are no where near as ridiculous as the ones people make up in their own heads.

Also the armchair experts who could do better than the government...

Chillicheese123 I can just imagine my 16 month old in lockdown playing with a wooden rainbow all day, every day, for weeks on end...

oh god

Do these people realise they still have to live alongside these neighbours?

Exactly. When this is all over, and it will be whatever the doomsday predictors like to think, we will all have to live alongside each other.

My friend has been so horrible about my daughter’s mental health issues and that I’m not following her made-up-as-she-goes-along lock down rules that I don’t think I can ever forgive or forget.

@Springersrock you don’t have to forgive that either, I wouldn’t.

I think some of them genuinely believe there isn't going to be an end to it and we should all be hermetically sealed in our houses forever. They dont like the concept that other countries are easing their lockdowns as it doesn't tie into this narrative.