Some people enjoy patronising and depressing others

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Clearly everyone is having a different experience of the current situation. It seems to me from the posts here and elsewhere that MN is full of people searching for threads from people either asking genuinely when others think the restrictions may be reduced, or people expressing mental or emotional.distress due to being locked away, sometimes alone. The pattern is the OP posts, there are a couple of sympathetic/in the case of lockdown speculation dovish opinions then the Depressor swoops, usually with a formulation along the lines of:
If you think these restrictions will be lifted anytime soon you are a naïve fool. Christmas will be cancelled and things will never fully return to normal

In the threads expressing mental distress their standard formulation is a variety of:
FFS pull yourselves together. It's been (insert number) weeks, how the F do you think people coped in the war the. All you are being asked to do is stay in and watch Netflix

There seems to be a remarkably large number of people among this cohort who claim grandparental involvement in WW1/2 and have a partner/sibling serving as a front line NHS worker. These depressors seem to scour MN looking to pounce on people expressing povs like the above.

I got someone who has dementor characteristics replying that she'd had two relatives dying and hadn't complained

urgh thats so vile, I'm so sorry for your loss

A couple of weeks ago someone was complaining about people buying unnecessary things in their click and collect order. The things they’d seen (presumably peeping into other orders while collecting their own) were chocolate, oven gloves, and...wait for it...padded envelopes. If the country had descended into Mad Max anarchy I picture the poster, arms folded nodding her head sagely, muttering to herself about how the padded envelopes had pushed us over the edge.

@dionethediabolist - thanks. Sorry, I didnt mean to bring anyone down and the thread is cheering me up a lot.

How strange. Surely, for posting things?

I mentioned I was getting some shopping for a neighbour who is elderly and had had a stroke and all they could go on about was that I was handling money from her (it being such a risk etc etc) rather than any good being done by, well, helping her of course.

@AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter I will flaunt my free time and check that out at once. Added personal bonus as my mother is from Yorkshire.

I am rofling at the Dementor hangout being Little Whinging.

I love that Fry & Laurie sketch as well.

I am pleased that the fruit picking thread has now reached the stage of being willing to help pick fruit for free in the name of the national effort.

I know there's a danger of it all becoming a bit meta by turning into whingers about the whingers, but it's amusing and horrifying in equal measure.

Some excellent posts on this thread

I have seen a lot of ‘my friends cousins sister has died OF COVID it’s YOUR FAULT she died OF CORONAVIRUS’ it’s like their death is more important. Like next year when we’re reflecting it will be ‘feeling a bit down it’s the anniversary of my gran’s death’ response: ‘well my gran died OF CORONAVIRUS’ cue gasps and ‘omg hun that must have been awful’ . I can just SEE it

"Just go and pick fruit" is the new "let them eat cake".

@Chillicheese123

If you watch Curb Your Enthusiasm there's an episode where Larry David meets someone who lost a relative on 9/11. Note 'on' rather than 'in' - as Larry finds out the relative happened to die on that date rather than as a direct result of the terror attacks. Cue him being enraged by this guy constantly obtaining people's sympathy by saying 'X died on 9/11' and not explaining that it actually had nothing to do with Al-Quaida. It's funny and awful at the same time.

Oh yes and the "my grandparents lived through the Second World War! This is NOTHING!" like a) this is somehow equivalent to living through it yourself and b) people weren't equally stressed/worried/fed up/'flouting the rules' during that.

@FallonSwift I feel like I’d like that program !

Here we ha e a good one from a very much currently active thread entitled in classic Dementor fashion STOP GOING OUT" on the subject of people going out allegedly more than once a day for shopping:

People are not just going to work, they're going shopping and even visiting people

Note the way "visiting people" which is mostly prohibited, is attached to the legitimate "shopping" to give the impression of a sliding scale of transgression. The capitalised thread title is another classic symptom.

Is it possible to flout and flaunt at the same time, or has that been done?

I could get a mate round for a glass of wine and we could sit topless? If you’re gonna be Facebook shamed you may as well do it properly.

But then I’ve been following the rules to the dementors’ disappointment.

Not altogether my cup of tea (it's so cringey and embarrassing at times and I can't cope with that kind of TV in large doses!).

There are multiple series and I think they are screening a new one at the moment. There is a backstory but you can watch an episode and pick up the gist fairly quickly.

I just wish CV19 threads would stay on the Coronavirus board 😞

The fruit picking threads are hilarious!

Can't believe this thread passed me by, it's like a breath of fresh air. I'm off to read it properly now having just scanned a few posts and been nodding so vigorously my head nearly fell off! .

It's never the person's personal responsibility is it, if someone gets covid, it is never considered that maybe it could have been them who didn't wash their hands or something, it is always that someone else did something out of order / breaking rules to give it to them.

Can we just start posting a dementor gif under posts by said dementors ? As a sort of secret symbol of dementor-spotters ?

Victim mentality

@Orangeblossom78 I actually think that’s a really interesting psychological phenomenon. It helps people cope by passing the blame. If they’re perfect, they can never be held responsible. The thought it just too hard for them.

They need a special icon or something.

There is one going on right now in AIBU about a woman who burst into tears in a chemist and a staff member hugged her and wibu to complain?

Yes you need to complain

Ffs stop being nazis it was an accident she will lose her job

How dare you call me a nazi don't ya know my grandpas sister's cousin's friend was...

2020, the year we started competitively nazi-ing.

I used this phrase on another thread when arguing with their illogical hysterics: so they should be factoring it into statistics that every adult can legally exercise their right to go to Tesco

and I never thought I'd see the day where that would need to be said. It's like the Handmaids Tale. Can you just imagine the Dementors in Gilead 😂