DD punched a wall and is now in agony and can’t move her pinkie, will A&E see her?

[riannonmas]

Had a row with her BF on phone and unfortunately punched a concrete wall not considering consequences. Is now in agony, can’t move her pinky finger and her hand is visibly not right. Ordinarily would take her down straight away but the hospital is a major city university hospital and I imagine (Well, also know based on what I’ve heard through social media) swamped with CV. The walk-in minor injuries centre near us is also now focused on CV and telling people not to come in and only go to A&E if it is life threatening, which DD’s situation isn’t. Otherwise they seem to just want you to suck it up. Don’t want to unnecessarily risk exposing her or our family to CV, especially if A&E won’t see her for the hand injury. She is 17 so I’d only be dropping her off as I doubt they’d let me in. Really I want to take her but DH is against it as is terrified of CV and wants me to look up how to treat it at home.

I think she has been incredibly silly and I certainly think this should have been avoided but it has been quite upsetting to come on here and read people’s assumptions about how she’s a violent abusive danger. The posters expressing genuine concerns about her MH and ability to cope I appreciate but the other stuff is completely baseless and extremely upsetting, especially as I have personally experienced violence from family members in the past.

I’m glad you got her hand sorted. I would Completely ignore the negative responses.

Yes, ignore the sanctimonious twats OP. Hope she does OK and ditches the fuckwit BF.

She’s a kid. They do stupid things and you have to hope they learn from the consequences. Some people seem to be making this so much more than what it is. OP did the right thing by taking Her to hospital, and is doing the right thing in supporting her daughter and encouraging her to block the knob boyfriend.

Again which of you would be happy if your DD was in a relationship with a lad who punched walls when angry with her?

Glad your daughter has been seen,diagnosed and treated.

I must say I am aghast at some of the ridiculous things that have been posted!

These are unsettling,grim times for everyone.So no the poor girl does not need “anger management”,Psychiatric help or anything else!

I hope she recovers well and dumps the boyfriend,dramarama over.

Ignore them OP. Glad it's nothing too serious. This situation is making everyone act differently, it's really fucking weird and I hope DD is ok.

JRUIN

But you forget that the BF is a "knobhead" and a "fuckwit" and seemingly according to some must take responsibility for the DD's actions.

I’m glad she’s sorted OP. Sorry you had to come back to such craziness on here.

@riannonmas
Please don’t take to heart what some are saying. Your daughter is 17. She is stuck in a house with none of her normal outlets available. No where to let off stress, no friends to see, no routine and a very frightening worldwide situation. She did not hit a person, she did not plan on hurting herself. She lashed out in a moment of frustration. If this is a one off don’t worry.
At 16 myself and my bf had an argument, I went to my friends house she was out. I went home to talk to my mum, she was out. I kicked a wall and broke my toe. I have never ever in anyway laid my hands on another human in anger. I work in mental health have a loving 25 year marriage and children. She’s still a teen cut her some slack people.

My child isn’t an ‘abuser’ because she got worked up into a state in her room over the stress of the current lockdown and weeks of verbal abuse and punched an inanimate object ffs.

She feels guilty and shite about the whole thing and certainly won’t be doing it again any time soon. And certainly not to a fucking person.

Ignore the knobheads @riannonmas, they’re just bored.

No-one then. Just as I thought.

Your daughter sounds like a lucky girl to have such a supportive mum. Glad you're back home and the injury is sorted.

Glad your DD has been seen and treated (and that it wasn't a waste of time!)

But you forget that the BF is a "knobhead" and a "fuckwit" and seemingly according to some must take responsibility for the DD's actions.

Hmm I wonder if the BF's mum would describe him as those things? Doubt it. More likely she'd describe him as a wee poppet.

Look forward to seeing the same extended to the next male who punches a wall because his gf upset him...

It's completely different, BillMasen.

Glad she's ok .
It's not the end of the world.

Oh goodness, half the people on here are so worthy, as if they or their children have never lost control and done something silly. The DD didn't hit another person. She whacked a wall in frustration and misjudged the force with which she did it. I once kicked the toilet door open with my foot because I was carrying a tantrumming toddler and I was slightly losing it. I didn't harm the toddler. But I misjudged the force of my kick, and the robustness of the (1970s cheap) door and my foot made a hole in it. I felt very silly, that is all. In fact the toddler was so surprised he stopped tantrumming and was quite interested. It was chance to say how silly mummy had been and how kicking things in frustration wasn't a good idea. I'm not violent or abusive and my toddlers are now nice teenagers who are pleasant to be around even in lockdown. I don't consider any of us dysfunctional. But even the most mentally healthy can lose their rag sometimes. In fact NEVER losing your rag isn't healthy either... OP please ignore all the superior, bored people looking to make you feel bad. I hope your DD's hand mends quickly.

Why thedancingbear?

Thank you to everybody who assured me (rightly) to take DD to A&E and who have offered practical aftercare advice and their experience with similar injuries-the information has been saved.

To those who for some reason have taken it upon themselves to create an entire persona for my daughter in their head even though they don’t know her from Adam, crack on because I’m not checking the thread anymore.

Lockdown is such a frustrating time for everyone, let alone teens. It's more or less impossible to "escape" from stresses - I find directly competitive "tactical" sports (racquet sports) and things like riding where you have to concentrate fully much better as a mental break than "zone" sports like running or cycling which seem to give too much time to think.

Jobs, financial freedom, hobbies, all gone for an unknown period of time, general uncertainty about the future.

The other week DH and I both took a very late night walk (alone, sequentially, probably not the best plan as dark and lonely) because we were both so frustrated with lockdown and lack of alone time!

The BBC says go to A & E if you need to .......

Coronavirus: Plea for public to get medical care when they need it www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-52417599