To post a letter back?

[Claplikeaseal]

Sorry, it's another clapping thread.🙄

So every Thursday some of my neighbours go out clapping, banging saucepans etc. Which is good for them. However, my DD is 2 and I suspect has some sensory issues because loud noises of any kind distresses her.

She's usually in bed but of course when the noise starts it scares her, she covers her ears and cries. So, naturally, I don't go outside to clap and comfort her. I probably wouldn't anyway, simply because I feel there are many other better ways to support the NHS which I do make an effort to do.

Last night I received a letter about how the "community" had noticed we hadn't been clapping and they were upset we were letting the "community" down and they hope we make an effort next time 🤨. There was more, it was nearly a full page letter but that's the gist.

I know who posted it, my partner opened the door. WIBU to post a letter back? Basically telling them to fuck themselves but in a way in which will make them think twice next time? I now feel uncomfortable and like all the neighbours are gossiping, but then I don't feel I should have to defend my actions as it should be my choice regardless of my reasons.

The NHS staff I know want PPE, not idiots clapping and bashing pans on their doorsteps.

We dont clap out of pinciple, also my OH is usually in bed at this time (as are around 20 other people within a 500m radius of our house), due to the fact they have to be up very early in the morning...making PPE

Just waiting for our gobshite neighbour to say something he always does have to comment on everything

Definitely just ignore them .
We have pots and pans , cheering, fireworks and even fucking street dj’s and projections !
If anyone even dares says a word against them then they’re shot down and torn to pieces on social media .
Was so sick of seeing the posts from these arseholes that I deactivated my Facebook for the foreseeable.
Has made me realise how much I hate my neighbourhood now which is a shame as always thought it was quite nice until Clapping Gestapo started .
Will be looking for a new house when this bull shit is over

Perhaps a post on the community Facebook page expressing how unhappy you are with the harassment and your concerns that people think this sort of stasi behaviour is appropriate.
Oh my god , do not do that you will be publicly mauled!

That's such a odd thing to do! No surprising as people are naming streets on Facebook but to do do individually and post a letter...way to much time on peoples hands

Our road (a quiet Surburban Street) started off well .lots of gentle clapping and cheering .Now seems to have gained momentum and last night we were treated to Fireworks as well! Dog barking like mad

Yep, on top of that we had motorbikes revving for the length of time. Its just getting louder every week

I’d be tempted to stick a note back through her door or maybe just a note in my window saying that I don’t clap because the NHS workers I know appreciate the £150 donation I made more than me standing on my doorstep clapping.

I wouldn’t though, I’d just ignore it.

How pathetic of your neighbours. I hate all this virtue signalling, I do go outside to clap partly just to have a chat with any neighbours that are out. (About half our road does clap ... no one cares who does or doesn’t). My DH & DS don’t clap, they think it is a waste of time.

Our local FB page is full of people falling over themselves to suggest ways to raise funds for the local hospital ... what they don’t seem to realise is that there is a perfectly good local League of Friends which has been quietly raising money for years for the hospital. Do all these virtue signallers support their coffee mornings and Christmas Sales? I very much doubt it, the League has an ‘old fashioned’ feel about and people probably don’t feel it’s ‘cool’ enough.

Sky news has just now picked up on a thread from here that was posted a couple of days ago ..
Can’t believe even a major news channel are at it now!

I'd be tempted to write a letter with instructions how to locate your go fundme page to raise funds for ppe. That you look forward to the community input and you will be able to see who doesn't make a donation.

Then remember to share the link and her letter on a local facebook group to ensure everyone has a chance to help.

I would do as @STAYTHEFUCKHOME suggests - her response is absolutely perfect!!

@Fluffybutter

What thread is this? This is happening so much lately!

Include a copy of original letter if you can when you do yours.

@Jux - do you honestly think it's that simple? That to 'cure' toddlers with sensory issues in order to stop them becoming beside themselves in distress at the sound of loud noises, all you need to do is tell them about it, keep them up later than usual and then take them outside, where it is going to be very much louder, and expect their sensory issues and distress to just disappear? I don't think I have ever heard such a foolish idea. Why should OP have to join in with the clapping anyway? It's not compulsory and after the awful letter she received why on earth would she want to go out and clap with the bellends that sent her that letter?! So the neighbour thinks she did the right thing in writing it? Utterly ridiculous suggestion.
OP, I'd be hopping mad like you and I would be dreaming up all kinds of responses. I probably would end up staying quiet but I certainly wouldn't forget what this cow has done. I'd probably tell all my other neighbours about it too though to be honest. She is the one who deserves to be shown up, not you. I hope your little girl is alright.

OP, I’m glad the posts Herve have helped you feel better - it’s so hard when you have a child with sensory issues. If you haven’t read it yet, can I recommend the out of sync child by Carol Stock Kranowitz - we found that it really resonated with our child’s behaviour and there are lots of helpful tips on things to try and help your child cope with their sensory issues. All the best x

'Dear neighbour. I could not give a fart in a Force 12 if you are disappointed' in me as

A) I am not 9 years old
B) Your opinion means nothing to me

Kindly keep your sanctimonious kibitzing to yourself in future.

PS - if you need help with the big words I'm sure there's someone with a higher IQ than yours who can help.

Love ya, babes'

Luckily we dont clap in my village but instead we flag every Saturday as a praise for all hard working key workers.. its ofc volenterily and I doubt any notice if some dont flag...

She'll only feel more superior if you feel the need to explain yourself to her. I'd ignore her, she's not worth any effort.

I'm not clapping. So many NHS workers have said they don't like it, lots of parents have said it upsets their children and lots of pet owners have said it causes issues. I understand some people are finding it helps them so they should carry on but I'd rather not. I do support all the essential workers but I'd rather donate what I can afford.

Did they have anything to say about last night op?

say it silently with flags, banner or bunting?!