A bottle a night too much?

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Just that. It has become a habit since lockdown. A bottle of wine over the course of the evening 4-5 nights per week.
AIBU to think it's too much?

I like a drink but that's a bit too
Much

Could you have spritzers? I have one large glass a night, but split into 3 spritzers. Still hits the spot (for me, anyway!)

Far too much.

That's 40-50 units a week, so it's obviously too much. One bottle a week will keep you within guidelines for not having an alcohol problem.

Totally get it, feel like a drink every night myself at the moment. Suggest you either choose two days to drink.like that, or have two bottles a week spread out.

OP. It is too much and you know it’s too much. A few things.

1. you have children in your home. Whilst I appreciate this lockdown is stressful for all (I too am indoors with children and it’s just me and them). What will you do if they get unwell and you need to get them medical assistance? You do realise that if paramedics arrive and you’re two bottles down, it could (will) result in a report to social services?
2. I appreciate that the drinking may relax you, but given the current virus, drinking this amount is the worst thing you can be doing to your body. Especially as many are saying, wave two will hit at some point. Mentally and physically you’re doing yourself no favours.
3. It’s a crutch, I get it. It’s easily done given the times we’re in. But find something else that takes the edge off. They say that cravings pass quickly (I remember a friend who quit smoking telling me this). So when you crave a glass, do something for 5 minutes that will distract you. Can you talk to a friend/ family member in RL who can be your support on this?
4. make sure you’re drinking loads of water. If you’re well hydrated (and full from water), you’re much less likely to want and drink loads of vino.

I’ve been caning it a bit too. Reining it in now.

I’ve started to feel decidedly crap.

Way too much. Why don’t you have a glass a night if you enjoy a wine. I prefer a cup of tea myself , but I would say a glass is fine. You don’t want to be binge drinking at the weekend.

I think it might be harder to just have one glass of wine than none at all.

We went for it second week of Easter holidays as dh off and we were decorating which was exhausting and called for a beer ! We drank one beer each a day and just under a bottle a night between us. We both felt quite rough by end of the week. Not drunk at all since last weekend and feel so much better. Weekends only I think. It’s a habit do you can break it.

Why, on these threads are there always posters saying, oh I couldn't do that, I'd be pissed or oh, I'd feel ill, obviously not everyone does feel this way, if they did, they probably wouldn't be drinking the amount that they are.
Are people doing the faux shock, pearl clutching thing just to assume superiority or are they really that stupid that they cannot see that everyone's tolerances, to anything, not just alcohol, are different?

Brilliant post @sassbott

Totally agree

Someone on here suggested having cake or ice cream instead of a drink. Good idea, so then you can look forward to obesity and diabetes instead.

I've made a conscious effort to stick to just drinking alcohol at the weekend during lockdown. It's made slightly easier by having to home school, the prospect of doing that with a hangover is enough to put anyone off!

@YerAWizardHarry it's the home schooling that's been driving me to drink 🤯😆

As well as my ideas up thread for trying to drink less, I agree with someone's suggestion of spritzers and you can put ice in too. You could also buy those mini bottles. I know M&S does third bottles of rosé which cost the same per unit but psychologically you might stop at one, or maybe two! I know myself, I need substitutes or weakened versions or something soft that I like (appletiser), I couldn't just have nothing.

Slimline tonic or fizzy water chilled with some lemon in is my week night substitute for booze

You do realise that if paramedics arrive and you’re two bottles down, it could (will) result in a report to social services?
What an utter crock of shit!

Yes

Yes it's too much. I'm drinking a bit more during lockdown than I did before but before I basically drank nothing and now I drink about 2 glasses of wine a week and maybe 2 beers. I'd be worried about how all the bottles would fit in the recycling bin as ours is only getting emptied once a month!

Yes, it's a lot. I like a drink but feel like I'm going to die after a whole bottle.

I think a lot of people are in the same boat right now and your tolerance and intake sneaks up quite quickly but keeping that up consistently won’t be healthy.
Maybe try nothing Monday to Thurs and then no
more that half a bottle in a day.
Also I really recommend becks blue if you don’t mind beer. On a hot day totally hits the spot and I can’t tell that it’s alcohol free.
Don’t beat yourself up though! Weird times

@CandyLeBonBon if an adult has two bottles of wine, most people would be very drunk. I’d barely be able to walk.
If that adult was in sole charge of minors and then something happened (medical emergency) that required interaction with a professional who had safeguarding duties, there Is a fair to middling chance that yes social services may well be asked to do a welfare check. If the reason said child needs medical attention is because they fell/ bumped head/ had a physical injury. It’s a 100% chance of referral to social services.

Because, being really drunk and in charge of minors, ya know. It’s not really behaviour that would make someone think ‘oh that’s ok,’

It’s far from a crock of shit actually.

I doubt that the hospital staff would think anything bad of you if you had to call a cab to take your child to A &E because you dont have a car but I'm sure theres some sort of red flag when a child ends up in hospital and their parent who is meant to be in charge and responsible has drank a whole bottle of wine and therefore couldn't bring them in themselves

So once you have kids, that's it. You can't have more than more than 2 small glasses of one in one sitting without running the risk of having your child whisked away by social services?

It’s a lot and then a load of extra empty calories on top.

@JRUIN there is a HUGE difference between two small glasses and two bottles? Don’t you think?

And yes, once you have children, there are various lifestyle choices that people need to look at and think ‘is xyz compatible with having children? And are those choices safe for children?’

Such as can I go out and party til 2am and leave children alone? No.
Can I cane recreational drugs in a manner I did Pre children if I am alone with children? Again I would suggest no.
Can I drink a large quantity of alcohol when I am alone with children? In my view, no.

If anyone’s lifestyle choice is doing any of the above when in sole charge of children. That’s a choice you can make and plenty of people do make. It doesn’t change the potential risks though does it? Because if you do arrive inebriated in hospital with an injured / poorly child. Trust me, a conversation would be had about the state of the parent, the issue with the child and whether it should be flagged as a welfare issue. 100%.

This country out of many European countries has normalised unhealthy drinking cultures. If you have an issue with it? Drink as much as you want. I don’t care. Not my body, not my health, not my children.