To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping
Aberforthsgoat · 22/04/2020 22:17
I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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JKScot4 · 22/04/2020 22:19
Reply and say that you fell asleep with your young DS, it’s not bloody compulsory.
Are they going to be shaming elderly or disabled ppl?
Ughmaybenot · 22/04/2020 22:19
That’s a really shitty thing to do to you OP and it’s not on at all. I know why you feel upset but honestly, you shouldn’t. They’ve just made themselves look like a proper dickhead. I work for the NHS and I don’t go in for the clapping, and I wouldn’t judge anyone else who didn’t.
Whynotnowbaby · 22/04/2020 22:20
How dare they, I just can’t believe the cheek of people who do things like this. What you choose to do is entirely your choice and they have no idea of the factors that influence that choice.
Aberforthsgoat · 22/04/2020 22:21
I just feel like I'm a total outcast on my previously friendly Street now even though only one person posted it and only two others agreed
It's really disturbing how quickly people are ready to turn on each other and "report" each other
dh thinks I shouldn't bother replying but I am tempted
Imboredinthehouse · 22/04/2020 22:22
Just reply “sorry, didn’t think I should leave my vomiting child to clap” to shame them back. Awful.
I’m NHS, no one in my street claps, including me.
Sparklesocks · 22/04/2020 22:22
That is ridiculous. Your neighbor sounds unhinged! It’s not a compulsory activity and you can still appreciate the work that frontline staff are doing whether or not you bang a saucepan.
I would have to reply and shame them back.
Miracles34 · 22/04/2020 22:22
As an NHS worker, I think that's absolutely awful of people to name and shame you. The clapping is lovely and demonstrates the support the NHS is receiving right now. I do think the idea of clapping though could be replaced by better political decisions and funding - unfortunately clapping solves no problem we face right now.
StillWeRise · 22/04/2020 22:25
rise above it OP
a dignified silence on FB
if there are people you know and trust on your street, mention in person how you feel, otherwise ignore
WhateverHappenedToMe · 22/04/2020 22:25
Tell the poster that you were busy making scrubs/masks for use by healthcare staff and didn't see the need to make a high-profile but low-value display of support.
hauntedvagina · 22/04/2020 22:25
Comment to say you were clapping, but you had gone to your mates for a BBQ. Start a proper shit storm.
But really, your neighbours sound awful.
TooTrueToBeGood · 22/04/2020 22:26
If it becomes compulsory, either through social pressure or whatever else, it ends up being completely meaningless. The person that named and shamed you is a grade A fuckwit.
Starlightstarbright1 · 22/04/2020 22:26
I would reply to .
You can not clap because you don’t want to. It no one else’s business.
TimeTravellersHat · 22/04/2020 22:26
Think of it this way - they’ve done you a favour by blatantly showing their true colours.
Dr Seuss comes to mind, “ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
I have NEVER clapped, danced or sang on my doorstep and I have no intention to! I have family who work frontline NHS. I do care. However I think it’s cringe and makes NO DIFFERENCE to the NHS.
Sadie789 · 22/04/2020 22:27
I cannot stand how every biddy and buddy in the street has turned into the Corona Police. As if it’s not bad enough we’re being told what to do by the higher powers like a bunch of monkeys (put a rainbow in the window, clap at 8, stand in the queue, dare ye not sit on the bench...) it’s a thousand times worse when Dave from 3 doors down who you had never laid eyes on prior to the 23rd of March, is now the self appointed boss of the neighbourhood. Our community groups have been outing people for cutting their own bloody grass.
I am fuming on your behalf OP. I would complain to the admin (they are a publisher and you have the right to privacy under GDPR rules among other publishing issues) and threaten legal action.
StoneofDestiny · 22/04/2020 22:27
They are nuts. Ignore. Ignore. Ignore. Don't imagine all your neighbours agree with the posting
onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 22/04/2020 22:29
Please reply or if you don't feel you can - send me the link to this Facebook page and I'll reply for you.
JKScot4 · 22/04/2020 22:29
I guarantee you these twats will be the folk in 6 months time on FB bitching about the wait for a GP appointment or cheeky staff at the local hospital. All their feckin clapping shite forgotten.
ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 22/04/2020 22:29
I don't clap because i dont want to. I told my neighbors i was putting the dc to bed (true, but even if i wasnt i wouldn't be clapping) people are getting so ridiculous over this.
Pipandmum · 22/04/2020 22:33
Just leave it. Don't give one small-minded jackass take one second of your time or thoughts.
81Byerley · 22/04/2020 22:36
There are lots of us who don't follow this ridiculous practice. in fact nobody in our street does it. It doesn't mean we don't support the NHS, it just means we aren't sheep.
YinuCeatleAyru · 22/04/2020 22:36
the person attempting to shame you is a virtue-signalling fuckwit, and this thursday night ritual is becoming disturbingly fetishistic. ignore them. the nhs does not benefit a single molecule from someone standing on their doorstep clapping. more than half the people doing the clapping are probably very keen not to think about the concrete actions they could genuinely take to help the nhs - stopping smoking, eating 5-10 portions fruit/veg a day, getting bmi under control, exercising more, drinking less alcohol, resolving to never again vote Tory. but these things are hard. far easier to clap and cheer for a couple of minutes one a week and post snidely on Facebook afterwards. you keep yourself and your dc healthy and rested - that is a genuine help to the nhs.
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