Acceptable time to sleep after night shift.

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I work 2 night shifts a week. After the first a go to bed for most of the day as I am between 2 Night shifts. I work between 12 and 14 hours shifts both nights

After the last night shift and since being in lockdown my husband seems to think I should go to bed at 10am when I get in and be up and ready for doing stuff at 12noon such as homeschooling and playing with our six yea told DS. He says because I am not at work that night I should power through.

I have done this for 2 weeks now, got up today to find they had got all the stuff out for baking and I was expected to happily join in.

My husband is a teaching and only working a day a week at the moment

Aibu to expect to be left a bit longer

No way! I do permanent nights too, 3-4 hours always and then its waking up in zombie mode until bedtime.. 2 hours is shit and he has NO EXCUSE to be waking you. OH does childcare and school runs if hes off when I've finished my shift..

Tell him when he does night shift, he can decide on when he sleeps.

Unless there is a reason he can’t look after your child, his opinion on how much sleep you need is irrelevant.

I go to sleep the second I get home (I leave at 8am I’m asleep for 9am)

DP does 12 hour continental shifts and the day of his last night shift we just consider a write off. He sleeps 8am til 2pm ish and then the rest of the day is a bit of a zombie. He goes to bed early these nights too and sleeps right through.

Your partner is being a dick.

OP, you know what you need to do to be able to functions with these night shifts. Your DH can shut up, he doesn't get to tell you what to do.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. As a comparison, my DH lets me zonk around the entire day after a night shift. So come home from nights about 10, sleep till 3/4 and then I laze around the day after. Nights are crap for getting back onto a normal day cycle.

Tbh if he’s only working one day he really seriously needs to give his head a wobble. And that’s even without the risk of causing seizures - in this case, he should be doing everything to avoid that out of basic human decency.

My dh has done this 2 nights like you and sleeps all day. He has never done anything else with the dc whilst doing so.

You need to rest in the day

He expects you to have 2hrs sleep after working 12-14 hours when he's present and perfectly capable of looking after the kids? You should be able to sleep as long as you need.

Your DH is a pathetic nasty man. Why do you put up with that ? He has no respect for you whatsoever

Honestly, i worked nights for years and I would have left my husband if he behaved like this. I’m not just saying that, I really would have. If he was only permitting you to have two hours sleep at night, police and the courses would consider that abuse. He is an absolute rotten fucker.

I've worked many nights - combinations of weekend nights , four consecitive nights and sets of seven.
I went to bed after eating dinner in the morning and got up about four. Not to say I wouldn't also need even more until
Six, still going to bed normally after last night

*courts, not courses

Your husband is massively unreasonable.

Your husband is a twat. Two hours sleep is not even close to enough.

People who haven't done nights seem to think it's a day off

Does he agree that he should only have 2 hours sleep after his day at work then 'power through' to the following day?

I'm a nurse. I've been in community for years so haven't done a night shift for nearly 20 years, but when I did I'd sleep 9am to 5pm, so 8 hours. Your husband's mad if he thinks you can homeschool the kids on 3 hours kip.

Dh works nights In healthcare and has done for years. Gets home at 0645, comes straight to bed and sleeps until sometime between 1200 and 1400 whether he’s working that night or not. IMHO your dh is being totally unreasonable.

Have you said anything to him about this now OP?

I work days & nights (12 hour shifts) sometimes i work nights together.

I remember my DH when i had nights together commenting that i 'had slept for long time' i had 5 hours fucking sleep, i would like to see you fucking try it.

It pisses me off when people say youre lucky to have days off when im fact youre working.

I worked last night. My dh looks after DS.& lets me sleep however long i like. I slept 4 hours. Dont get me wrong out of necessity re childcare etc sometimes i get no sleep after my night but im.not decitated too its because i have too!

Not ok !

Op I worked nights 9pm till 7am - 2 nights a week on a rolling shift pattern.

In my last night I would get in and go to bed around 8.30. I'd get up around 3pm.

2 hours is not enough and it will make you ill ! Tell him to stay up all night and get 2 hours! He is being massively unreasonable and unrealistic! You need proper rest after nights . The first night shift always killed me because I could not sleep during the day - the second one I'm afraid 6 hours at the very least! Nights are so hard !

Ffs
Sake op
Put
Your foot
Down!!!!

I work 13 hour nights and that's what I do. Usually get 3/4 hours between shifts and then either dont sleep or get 2 hours max after last shift and then get back on with my day. Personal choice though

YANBA, I’m finding it hard to get my sleep after my nights like you. I used to find it hard getting up at 2:30 to get the kids from school. It’s a new kind of hell not sleeping properly at all as can here the kids screaming and then getting up at about 1 as my oh thinks I should be up as well and sends the kids in to wake me up. I’m only on the bank and as we are not spending much money at the moment I might cut down my hours as I can’t function on this sleep it effects me for days afterwards.

I can't quite figure out if he's evil or just incredibly stupid.