To think DD isn’t earning enough to live alone in London?

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DD is 27 and earns £65k a year. She currently has a long commute in to London for work each day but following her recent divorce and sale of their home, she wants to move to London for a fresh start. She has no DC, so is looking at one bed flats which appear to be around £1,500-£2,000 a month in rent, not to mention all of the bills on top too. I appreciate that DD earns a very good wage for her age, however, I’m concerned that she will be stretching herself too far by attempting to live alone and paying an extortionate amount in rent rather than house sharing, which seems to be the norm for most young professionals. She seems to think she can easily afford it, but DD has never lived alone and doesn’t really seem to appreciate the cost of living, as ex husband always managed the household outgoings etc. AIBU in thinking that DD will be stretched in attempting to live alone on her salary in London with the rental amounts described?

@lyralalala Not particularly, no, but most of the issues between us are large and difficult to address. The smaller ones are still coming to me. Sorry, derailed the thread there!

@ScreamedAtTheMichelangelo might be worth starting your own thread if you want to mull it over. I had a situation recently with my Aunt (I had abusive parents so I know how sometimes it can be difficult to get “normal” perspective) and whilst there were some extreme views on it a lot of people gave me some excellent food for thought.

@lyralalala Thank you, that's good to know! I might not do that in AIBU just at the moment - mental health isn't great right now - but when things are better, I'll think about it.

She really needs to live in a great big house somewhere nice with good bars etc sharing with similar people.

@ScreamedAtTheMichelangelo AIBU would not be the place- there are specialist topics for discussion of relationships with parents. Stately Homes I think is one part of it.

She really needs to live in a great big house somewhere nice with good bars etc sharing with similar people.

Or by herself, as she says she wants to.

When I moved to south London age 24 with a 7yr old in tow I was on 16k. We made it work, still here and although earning 45k it’s not enough really to buy a home here

She really needs to live in a great big house somewhere nice with good bars etc sharing with similar people

Not if what she really wants us to live alone and not have to negotiate the washing up agreement.

I bought my first flat in London when I was 28, it was truly the tiniest flat ever but goodness, how I loved living in my own.

@ScreamedAtTheMichelangelo

Definitely get yourself over on to the relationships board, it helped me to see through what was going on in my relationship with my mum.

Uh, I know people in London renting 1 beds or studios earning 30k a year. Sure, they don't save much, but it's doable!

I have a family home and earn substantially less than your DD OP and have a DD of my own to pay for school trips and at one pint was paying both a mortgage and school fees with a SAHD as a husband so no second income. I commute into London from zone five. I pay a good amount as a season ticket, mortgage, bills but still seem to make ends meet and have money left over so if your DD is looking at living more centrally and has no one else to pay towards it sounds like she is living well within her means. Chill.