To blame the parents who are moaning about their kids crap birthdays in lockdown!

[Fishcakey]

You gave them unreasonable expectations! When I was a kid the four of us round the table with birthday cake was the norm. Maybe we got a takeaway. Nobody had parties at bouncy places for 20 or midnight pool parties with stretch limos. Get a grip parents. Surely unless your kid is a spoilt brat it will be happy to get a present and a cake?!

Why can't the children have their celebrations after lockdown though?

Well, in quite a few cases because the grandparents/aunts/friends they were looking forward to celebrating with are dead.

Seriously I am an unsociable cow! I just keep reading 'oh it's not the birthday we planned' and thinking oh get a grip, you're not dead

That's not really a moan though is it, it's simply stating a fact. No one needs to get a grip, people are perfectly capable of recognising that the absence of a birthday party is a first world problem. It doesn't mean they can't be disappointed.

Massively hypocritical for you to accuse others of aggression by the way

What a thoroughly horrible thing to say.

You only get one 21st birthday. And my dd's didn't turn out the way it should have been. We won't ever get the opportunity to make that up to her.

So YABU.

my mum grew in poverty with 2 adults and six kids in 2 rooms and a shared bathroom on landing with people downstairs - doesn't mean I want that!
kid's parties are one of the many things we miss in lockdown - nothing wrong with that.

Are you as spiteful a bitch in real life as you are coming across on here?

I teach 6th form. Since lockdown started, 5 of them have turned 18. I think it's fair enough to be pissed off that this had impacted on your 18th.

@blacksax would you like to referee the corona games? With me and @Anonuser1

You only get one 21st birthday. And my dd's didn't turn out the way it should have been. We won't ever get the opportunity to make that up to her.

Oh dont be so ridiculous. A) there is nothing for anyone to "make up" for, it's life. No one is to blame, shit has happened and you are dealing with it and B) when her celebration happens, it will mean more because you wont just be celebrating her birthday but also the fact that you are all there to celebrate it.

Oh don't be so ridiculous Charmed, I'm sure. There's no need to be so unkind. You don't know anything about what she's been through.

@livefornaps Count me in. See you there.

Just because a child/parent is upset about having to change birthday plans doesn't mean they're all spoilt brats!! We don't go overboard on birthdays but I'm still a bit sad that 2 of my children have already had their birthday during lockdown and my 3rd child's birthday is tomorrow, my husband would usually have booked the day off but instead is going in extra and working longer hours as he's a key worker . They're missing their friends and missing family who they'd usually see a lot especially on birthdays. Cut people some slack and let them be upset about what they want.

DS is 13 soon and never had a party, however, he has been waiting since he has been five to go to a particular rest near us that doesn't admit under 13s. He has SNs and every time we drove past he said he was going there for his 13th birthday with his best friend from school. Obviously not happening and I'm gutted for the child because he never has asked for anything birthday related.

He is also missing my mum and Aunt we spent a fair bit of time together. Both are older and one is in a nursing home with dementia slipping away further each day. So no family tea either. Im not surprised he's gutted if he wants a cry about it fair enough better for his mental health in the long run

I did give my DS reasonable expectations. He was told he was getting a party, which was booked before lockdown began. Therefore he was disappointed when this couldn't happen. He also always has a family dinner with all his cousins, uncles, aunts and grandparents for his birthday. This has been the case for the last 9 years. Therefore it is perfectly reasonable for this birthday to seem a bit boring to him.
However, he didn't complain and we made the most of it and tried to make the day as much fun as possible for him.

It's not just about not being able to have a bouncy castle or a limo or Build A Bear. It's about not being able to see your friends and play with them. You sound very lacking in empathy or do you just not like people?

Forget the sodding kids I want a party for my birthday

Fuck off, people can be sad about birthdays and the lack of celebration. I'd didn't get to celebrate a birthday recently with somebody we'd planned to go out for a meal with because they spent their birthday in hospital dying so yeah, people can be sad about not celebrating a birthday with their children and other family members.

No it has been shit. My son turned 11 just after his school closed. He potentially won't go back to primary school again, not see some friends again.
He had to cancel his party, his day out with his dad and his birthday meal with family. He didn't see his grandparents like he normally would. His cake got cancelled. Some presents didn't arrive in time as I had to order last minute as going shopping for them got taken away from me.
He was bery understanding to a point. And then maccies closed, the one thing he wanted when he was told he'd lost the above.
None of that is my fault. We did what we could to make it fun but it was disappointing.
I choose to make my kids birthdays special because that's my chiice.

My almost 14 year old doesn't care that he will have his birthday in lockdown. As long as I can get him his favourite cake, some ginger beer and a vindaloo he's happy.

Not very nice thread op. Goady. Stop judging little children. The older ones will handle it just fine.

My kid is going to be 21. My 21st was a bit more memorable than this shite (and I like lockdown) so what if parents set the bar high?

I do t think that seeing some of your friends to celebrate is an unreasonable expectation.

Being upset about a party not happening doesn’t make parents or kids spoilt imo. My 2 year olds party was cancelled, we were having a teddy bears picnic in the house, so I did a party just me and the kids. Afterwards when we were eating the cake my four year old turned and said, “Mammy why is nobody here?” 2yr old didn’t care, but I was sad. And I’m allowed to be sad about it.

Nasty goady post OP :( not nice in the current climate.

My youngest DD (11) was disappointed that the birthday plans we had made were cancelled. And no not a huge whole class extravagant party just a sleepover with her best friend, cinema and a trip to the local ice cream parlour that also has farm animals and llamas. We made the best of it, played board games and ordered in pizza and Ben and Jerry's. Doesn't mean she still wasn't a bit flat though.

Maybe try inject a little positivity into your own life rather than attacking other people.

I never had a Birthday party or cake ever. Kids parties get more expensive and ridiculous every year. I was really shocked at my DKS last party, the amount that other parents spent on presents for them. Then one year my DD isnt able to afford one, she is so upset and crying.I will ask them the ones they remember.