To blame the parents who are moaning about their kids crap birthdays in lockdown!

[Fishcakey]

You gave them unreasonable expectations! When I was a kid the four of us round the table with birthday cake was the norm. Maybe we got a takeaway. Nobody had parties at bouncy places for 20 or midnight pool parties with stretch limos. Get a grip parents. Surely unless your kid is a spoilt brat it will be happy to get a present and a cake?!

Back in my childhood days, we used to spend 26 hours a day down the mine and in your birthday, you got a lick of coal

@livefornaps I hope you were suitably grateful

I'm one of those parents. It's our little ones 1st birthday next month and potentially won't be sharing the day with family and friends.
It's only making me a bit sad obviously- probably as I'm irrationally emo about her turning 1.

We will celebrate after but it's not quite the same.

my birthdays were lovely. Genuinely

Are you sure about that, OP, because you sound resentful.

And referring to a child as “it” is just repulsive.

It is what you make it. My son was 10 on Tuesday. His autistic so we explained several times over the weeks before that it would not be like normal and that we will celebrate when safe too do so with family. However I wanted to make it as good as could be. He got a football kit and a lunch box for when he goes back to school. We also ordered a party food box on amazon and fries carton. I got one of those retro milk bottles with a straw at a supermarket and made him his very own happy meal at home. Game of footy in the garden. To him it was the best birthday ever.

@ThusSpoke honestly really nice days.

@TriciaH87 This! You made it a fab day and he loved it!

My point was, if your kid is pissed they aren't getting their massive party for 300 isn't it your fault for making said child think this is normal. Never said the child wasn't allowed to be sad!

But that's not what you said the posts say.

Nowhere near that. I would bet months wages that people that are disappointed, dont have parties usually have 300 there.

If you are going to be goady, a drunk GF at that. At least make some semblance among sense.

@Fishcakey yeah you would and have ..
Such a fun sponge , I can’t believe you begrudge kids a nice birthday .

I think you're over thinking it! Most people are just a bit sad (sadder than the kids usually) that life events are disrupted/not normal

It's disappointing to have to move plans, even if the plans were low key. You'd have to be fairly miserable to object to disappointment at not being able to share a birthday with friends and family.

However, I'm in total agreement with the class of 30 swimming with sharks, limos and professional photographer type crap for children's parties. That does raise expectations and usually is more about competitive parenting than the child.

I was taking my daughters to centre Parcs for their 14th Birthday, its been cancelled which is completely understandable but I and they are disappointed as we had treats planned and different activities all weekend.
I am know we will go again and do what was planned but their birthday will be rubbish, no family or friends to celebrate like we have done every year. I and they can be disappointed.

Lovely back-pedalling @Fishcakey
Not quite cutting it though.
All those spoilt brats crying over not seeing their friends or family members on their birthdays
Such unrealistic expectations...

It was my son’s 12th birthday yesterday and yes it wasn’t the birthday celebration I had in mind for him. I could never envisaged this time last year we would be in lockdown now.
I gave him a cream tea with his brother and used my vintage china which I have stacked away for years. I put a table cloth on the table and made it as nice as I possibly could . I luckily bought individual cakes beforehand lockdown so he was able to blow out one of his candles, didn’t think it a good idea blowing all over a cake right now !
We went for a walk in our local woods and had chips with gravy for tea. A brown papered parcel was left on our doorstep from my sister . He told me he had the best birthday ever
and certainly one to remember 😊

DD was 4 just before lockdown. Birthdays 1 to 3 have been celebrated with cake with family and a day out e.g. swimming, farm. Her 4th birthday was meant to be similar until on her birthday she told me shr wanted other children to come not just adults. We invited 5 children round for birthday tea at the weekend and she loved it. A week later and we wouldn't have been able to and she would have been sad. She would have got over it (as long as there was cake!) but she would have been disappointed. I don't think her expectations were unreasonable and also her expectations came from nursery friends and how they celebrated. Luckily for us thw parties have been low key so far!

ODFOD.

Kids are allowed to be disappointed their party is cancelled. Just like I'm allowed to be disappointed the concerts, weekends away and comedians I was planning on seeing have been cancelled. Expecting "not being dead" to be comfort enough is absurd

You had a takeaway??? We were lucky to have a spam sandwich! (I’m very old)

I think perhaps the OP has lead a fairly sheltered life birthday wise! Parties are normal, going out for the day is normal, having a special day is normal, and the variety in which people do that is massive and normal. My special needs daughter had her birthday just over a week ago, it had been planned for months, it was meant to be the first time in 6 years she got to see her Nanny on her actual birthday (we live abroad), it was a big deal!! She was disappointed and upset, yes Nanny will be getting on the first flight she can when this is all over, and yes we will be making another cake, and yes we'll be going on our day trip, but it won't be her birthday. As a family we appreciate the reason why, but its not our fault and was perfectly normal, that before all this, we allowed her to get excited about something at the time we were able to do whether you (or anyone else) thinks our plans were acceptable.

Kids are just totally over pampered now.

My son wanted an ice cream party, its was going to be over £100 which we saved for, we went into lock down just before his birthday but after we paid the deposit.

Because its a local businesses and unable to open, we are not sure if they are going to survive and we really can't afford another £100 for another birthday party, so yes I am going to moan on an anon forum because I am trying to be happy for my son and keep us all going (as is my partner, its a joint effort)

A spam sandwich? We had a bloater paste sandwich and were bloody grateful.

@LockdownLondon
and...?

You had a shit childhood, what can I say 🤷

I had birthday parties.
My mum (and dad) had birthday parties.
My grand-parents had birthday parties.

It's hardly a new concept.

I'd rather have a child disappointed to miss out on friends and have a fun than a kid happy with just material presents, I know who the spoilt brat would be.

Well LockdownLondon times move on and it’s 2020 not 1940 anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️ Children have more than ever because we are in the modern world

And what? Does it need an explanation