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Husband says he will leave if I get a tattoo

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Peyton2020 · 18/04/2020 22:03

Hey everyone this is my first time posting here and I’m just looking for a bit of advice.

Me and my husband have been married for 10 years we have a 3 year old together. before we met I already had 3 tattoos on my wrists and ankle

Last night I told him I wanted another tattoo, which he went crazy at saying he would leave if I got another one. He said that they disgust him and that he wouldn’t be able to look at me if I got one.

The tattoo would be on my forearm and it will be roses, a stop clock and my daughters name and birth date.

I really really want the tattoo, but if I get it I risk my marriage. I don’t know what to do

Please help :)

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BanginChoons · 19/04/2020 14:14

OP is he controlling in other ways? I hope he isn't as controlling over your daughter as she grows up.

EmbarrassedUser · 19/04/2020 14:16

@Peyton2020 That tattoo sounds hideous and really chavvy, don’t do it 🙏

However, your husband is a bit of an arse for saying hello leave you for getting it.

Hagbeth · 19/04/2020 14:17

I’m with your husband. It looks cheap and tacky. My daughter got a “sleeve” and It’s awful Sad

ICantBelieveInYou · 19/04/2020 14:22

I presume anyone saying "I'm with your husband" hasn't actually read the OP.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 19/04/2020 15:15

Crimsonnightlotus, in my humble opinion, absolutely yes! Their worst nightmare would be a thread of scant replies (if any), with your body, your rules/LTB and nothing else in the post that would inflame the situation.

As always, Mumsnet frothers don't fail to deliver exactly what is wanted. The frothers then get up in arms. Bonkers!

What was that saying? Don't waste your time wrestling with a pig... you'll just get hot and sweaty and the pig enjoys it. Grin

Crimsonnightlotus · 19/04/2020 15:21

Thanks for insight, LyingWitch. I love good argument, but not to entertain others.

puffinandkoala · 19/04/2020 15:26

I think my husband would leave me if I got a tattoo too.

I'd probably leave him if it were the other way round.

So shallow I know Grin

I believe the majority of mumsnet don't like tattoos, so many may be on your husband's side with this one yep, don't like piercings either. In fact I can't understand having anything done to yourself that hurts which isn't a medical necessity.

QueenofSwearing · 19/04/2020 15:28

@Midnightmusing your sister sounds like a judgmental arse.

Sonichu · 19/04/2020 15:33

"I presume anyone saying "I'm with your husband" hasn't actually read the OP."

Why would they? They just see the word "tattoo" and start foaming at the mouth. If OP is a troll then this is excellent bait.

Busymum45 · 19/04/2020 15:39

Get the tattoo, it's nothing to.do with him

lmcneil003 · 19/04/2020 15:46

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Carouselfish · 19/04/2020 15:51

Go somewhere expensive, get a good artist. Your body your choice but also your body, don't go cheap!

lalafafa · 19/04/2020 15:52

They're awful, wait until you're 65+ with saggy skin and an old lady hair do.

Buster72 · 19/04/2020 15:54

Mixed feelings really it is your body ultimately but the tatoo you described sounds tacky. Perhaps that is what he is getting at.

Chiyo666 · 19/04/2020 16:05

Do it. Fuck him.

orangejuicer · 19/04/2020 16:13

Not rtft but let him go. Only you decide what to do with your body.

AdoreTheBeach · 19/04/2020 16:19

I’m not a fan of tattoos at all. However, if you already have tattoos and you had these before meeting your DH, why would he be objecting now when he knows you like to have tattoos? They’re part of you so in this instance, I think he’s being unreasonable (well, unless it were all over your chest and face - yuk)

Sonichu · 19/04/2020 16:22

"The husband is being unreasonable, but for the OP to break the family over a tattoo is madness."

Yeh, the OP is at fault. Definitely not her husband who is threatening to break the family up "over a tattoo".

Pika09 · 19/04/2020 16:25

and people wonder why MN is the laughing stock of the internet Grin

hesgotit · 19/04/2020 16:28

@lmcneil003 oh how unusual for you to come on being a male apologist again! 🙄

LaMarschallin · 19/04/2020 16:29

Do it. Fuck him.

Actually, that's a good idea. It'll probably cheer him up and take his mind off the tattoo.

Alsohuman · 19/04/2020 16:33

Anyone who would jeopardise their marriage for a tattoo should really rethink their priorities.

hesgotit · 19/04/2020 16:36

You're right @Alsohuman why would anyone break up a marriage because of a tattoo? The DH should be totally fucking ashamed of himself........ oh sorry you mean the OP must obey her DH or it's her fault.

Obey has been taken out of marriage vows, for very obvious reasons!

rayoflightboy · 19/04/2020 16:38

@lalafafa That woman looks fantastic.Shes happy,her family are happy,whats not to love.