Husband says he will leave if I get a tattoo

[Peyton2020]

Hey everyone this is my first time posting here and I’m just looking for a bit of advice.

Me and my husband have been married for 10 years we have a 3 year old together. before we met I already had 3 tattoos on my wrists and ankle

Last night I told him I wanted another tattoo, which he went crazy at saying he would leave if I got another one. He said that they disgust him and that he wouldn’t be able to look at me if I got one.

The tattoo would be on my forearm and it will be roses, a stop clock and my daughters name and birth date.

I really really want the tattoo, but if I get it I risk my marriage. I don’t know what to do

Please help :)

I don't think tattoos have to be meaningful - a couple of mine certainly aren't, but roses just seem.. a bit lazy.

I can’t imagine wanting to have something permanently drawn on my body unless it WAS something very meaningful to me.

isn't that scale used for industry in general - I'm sure when I asked for a car insurance quote that was broadly the grading? I might be wrong, it just looked familiar.

I'd imagine so. I know I've seen it on house listing websites and similar.

Well that will be based on information extrapolated from the national viewing figures data and on feedback from sample audiences when testing pilot shows etc.

Possible, but the version I saw used 'lower middle class' and similar to describe each band rather than the letter signifiers (Mumsnet will tell you that social class is entirely different from profession/earnings) and also seemed to be conflating data from a number of sources. I doubt it's veracity. I think saying that because you work in a call centre on a zero hours contract you are 'lowest level' (below WC apparently) and therefore enjoy Jeremy Kyle and The Sun, is a tad offensive.

*its not it's

@LaMarschallin wild birth? I need to hear this

JudyGemstone, I really love to see it, but totally understand it's outing so you can't post it.

@Thymelord Stupid isn’t it. I have a full sleeve, one on the side of my torso, one behind my ear and I will get more.

I’m an A.

I’m with your DH on this, tattoos are so dated.

@Strokethefurrywall Love yours, it's beautiful

I don't like tattoos so don't have any on me. A marriage should be a partnership. Making a deliberate appearance change that your partner really hates is not much of a partnership.

BTW - when I see a child's name and birth date on a tattoo I assume the child is dead. Because if the kid is alive you presumably use its name a lot and celebrate its birthday.

I’m with your DH on this, tattoos are so dated

So you would divorce a husband for... following an outdated fashion?

ICanBelieveInYou, why do you need to come to that conclusion? The PP just stated her/his opinion. It's not always black and white, or as extreme as you seem to think. Some tattoos are great, some aren't. I don't want to look at it everyday on my partner if that looks horrible, but I generally love tattoos. I may have had a different opinion if I truly hated tattoo in general. But if I divorce my dh over that is dependent on our relationship. By saying just because the PP agreed to OP's dh you assume that pp thinks exactly the same as him, you have shown yourself as very narrow minded and prejudiced. Nothing different from people who hates tattoos.

very unique

So not just 'a bit unique' or 'semi unique' or 'common as muck' then.

Very unique. Even more unique than unique. Wow.

I'd be getting on my bloody forehead if my partner tried to control me in this way.
YOUR BODY, YOUR CHOICE.

Your choice, but you need to heed the consequences of your actions. If you get one and he leaves, that's your fault.
Like me, he thinks tattoos are for tramps and sailors.
Is it worth having your daughter growing up without a father for a tattoo??

For tramps 😂.
It's worth her daughter growing up without a father who thinks he can control what happens to someone else's body.

How do tramps afford tattoos though? 🤔

SpillTheTeaa, if your responce is to get the tattoo on the forehead, your responce is meaningless, because I know you wouldn't. And your partner is different from OP's. You are taking tattoo as a joke, so nothing different from those who hate them.

@Oldestchild90s Good question. Some people just have swiss cheese for brains.

ICanBelieveInYou, why do you need to come to that conclusion? The PP just stated her/his opinion.

Eh? PP said she's with the OP's husband. OP's husband who said he would divorce OP if she got a tattoo.

So quite a simple conclusion to come to.

I bet the OP is having a lovely time watching the fur and feathers fly... and on her very first thread too. What a hit this one was!

But don't start whining when your a single mum with kids living alone.

I'm a single tattooed mum living alone with my kids. I love my life, and have never been happier or more successful. I also get to choose and plan my next tattoo without considering some controlling mans opinion. Win/Win 👌

On the plus side you could find yourself with a lot more free time. Every other weekend maybe more if he goes 50-50 on childcare. Lots of opportunity to enjoy your tattoo, maybe find another partner who likes tattoos.

Lots of opportunity to enjoy your tattoo, maybe find another partner who likes tattoos

Or even just a partner who wouldn't leave you over something so insignificant!

Yikes on bikes! Surely he realised that since you have multiple tattoos already, that you might want more one day. And what kind of person ends their decade long marriage over a perfectly nice tattoo? I'd get if it was an offensive tattoo, but what you want sounds lovely.

Oh, LyingWitch, is this one of those thread that op expects disagreements among posters and enjoys the outcome?