To wonder what 'the spirit of mumsnet' is.

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I see threads with vile ganging up, spiteful personal remarks and deliberate distortions of what the op said being allowed stand time and time again. Simultaneously fairly innocuous threads are removed because they're not in the spirit....

AIBU to wonder what exactly is the spirit of mumsnet because it doesn't seem to be very clear?

There are a lot of women's spaces, once that actually understand what feminism is (because the women on here are clueless about it)

I'm involved with a number of feminist communities both on and off the internet. I have to say the FWR boards are populated by some extremely knowledgeable women who are well-endowed in critical thinking and debating skills and have collectively taught me a great deal.

@Hingeandbracket What is this something positive about Trump?

I just managed to log into my old account out of curiosity. I thought I had deleted it or asked mumsnet to delete it completely but obviously I didn’t! (under a different email and user name) just to see that one thread where everyone was laying into me, I haven’t checked it for ages, and guess what it had more replies to my post that I didn’t read before. I can’t believe how crazy and vile some people are! One is saying basically that it sounds like I am lying and making stuff up in response to me clearing up what posters had asked for further clarification from original post! Seriously why do people feel they can make silly accusations up like this.

I really suffer from mental health issues like anxiety, guilt and just generally feeling crap so words like this make someone in my position feel “actually are my feeling valid or are they right I’m lying?” Rationally thinking of course my feeling are right and of course I’m not lying because on a thread it’s hard getting the right words across and then people jump in and accuse you of making stuff up! Whose got time to sit here and do that.

I’m really tempted to log in and reply back but then I feel why respond when I know what the truth is. Gosh! Husband was telling me Twitter is a million times worse, I don’t know as never been on there.

I think my new thinking is I will only use this account for general matter and not post anything to detailed.

Can any kind people offer me some comfort please as I’m feeling really down having read those nasty comments on other account!

I browse and regularly delete my account because something gives me the rage. Recently joined so I could read a thread more clearly that I found via search. I'm getting drawn back in and it's not pleasant.

There's some lovely support but overall people are judgemental in many many ways. So I'd say the spirit is judgement and one-upmanship. Sorry to those who ant actually awful.

Given the inconsistency with which it is applied, I tend to think the 'spirit of mumsnet' is whatever the MNHQ staff member who has their finger on the delete button at any given time, says it is.

@TheCanterburyWhales How that Dementors thread is allowed to stand is beyond me.

@DeepGreen - thank you! It’s really hard for it not to get to you but you’re right they don’t know me or my situation x

user- quite, I keep annoying Hq I'm sure with reporting every single post that quotes another thread, or takes the piss out of other posters but there are so many.

I saw a thread yesterday that made me want to delete my account and never look again, but then I realised that people make comments on here that they would never make in real life, and that I should just forget it and move on. I absolutely agree there is massive inconsistency of what is allowed to stand and what isn’t.
What gets me is when people make erroneous claims and incorrect assumptions and act like they are they are the gospel truth!

It’s not just mumsnet though, it’s the internet which lets unhappy loners find their kindred spirits online and gang up on other people.

There are far worse places for it than mumsnet and I think that the moderation is pretty good, sorry for that.

That’s very true, MagnificentMillie.

To wonder what 'the spirit of mumsnet' is.
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