To wonder what 'the spirit of mumsnet' is.

[Carbosug]

I see threads with vile ganging up, spiteful personal remarks and deliberate distortions of what the op said being allowed stand time and time again. Simultaneously fairly innocuous threads are removed because they're not in the spirit....

AIBU to wonder what exactly is the spirit of mumsnet because it doesn't seem to be very clear?

Yes people have never liked women talking to each other

That really is such a silly thing to say in the context of MN where it means nothing more than a poster has gone against the FWR majority position.

Cant wait to have the right kind of feminism explained to us

Who is "us"?

@HebeMumsnet
Your post didn't really clarify anything.

Now, it could just be me and lack of sleep causing my brain to malfunction, but from what I can gather the spirit of mumsnet is essentially whatever each individual moderator wants it to be.

Where's the consistency?
Where's the ethos? It can't just be to make parents lives easier as the site has grown exponentially and includes non parents and discussions which have nothing to do with being a parent at all.

Greyt

You are being ridiculous. Oh and if you want to attempt to sarcastic or witty, maybe you should learn the meaning of terms such as "woke" but go ahead and insult me because I don't support sexism, Rascism, disabalist attitude, transphobia or all the other prejudice found on Mumsnet.

Oh please @GreytExpectations

No.

Let me clarify for the hard of thinking at the back.

All those of you who seem to hate Mumsnet, its posters and its moderators and its tech folk - there's no need for you to stay.

Clearer?

@GreytExpectations, some of us though, whilst despising all those things, stay in the hope that by challenging the ~isms other people might see the error of their ways.

If I can make even one disablist twat think twice about what being disabled is actually like by talking about what it’s like for me, I’ll have done them and the greater community a favour.

@BirdieFriendReturns I’m literally shaking with fear at your post

If a thread (anywhere, not just here) is having that impact on you then I think you need to seriously consider if you need help and if being here is helpful to you or not. I mean that in the nicest possible way.

Nope it doesnt just mean fwr, it means relationships, it means discussions on prostitution, porn, division of labour, domestic abuse, all subjects women on this site talk about.

Baileys. It is Baileys. Fucking awful stuff yet makes you keep on drinking it.

Langsdestiny
Nope it doesnt just mean fwr, it means relationships, it means discussions on prostitution, porn, division of labour, domestic abuse, all subjects women on this site talk about

It's still a silly comment in the context of MN- clearly 100,000s of women are talking.

The spirit of Mumsnet is never calling another poster "Hun" unless you are being sarcastic.

That is the true spirit of Mumsnet.

I enjoyed a post on the CV forum a few weeks ago. OP picked up a chocolate bar or something in a shop and another poster took offence and said she was “literally shaking” as the OP was causing people to do. OP said no, SHE was literally shaking and poster number 2 said the OP was making her “sob.”

It was all very Mumsnet. I think the post got deleted.

This forum is a reflection of its diverse users. There is no singular spirit here.

I must say I am forever indebted to the wise FWR women on MN from whom I've learnt so much.

Should be die* not do!

Along with “you don’t need to go out to buy sanitary protection, just fashion some pads from an old sheet or leaves.

And the Mumsnetters who try to tell others what they can and can’t do or who want everyone to run their shopping lists past the Mumsnet elite. You can’t buy milk or bread because it’s not essential.

Indeed it is dido and it pisses off quite a few people.

Thanks Birdie for a reminder of the Sistine Chapel thread. I'm howling with laughter.
Or instead of art galleries have a wander around Next Home Furnishing. Harden yourself to the real art by looking at something more bland.

How on earth did a discussion about the semantics of the meaning of the term internet become related to FWR?

One upmanship and faux horror at utterly banal goings on. Plus terrible relationship advice. Think that's pretty much it. 😁

You're right @Carbosug. I reported a post not long back for blatant advertising. I got an email back from HQ stating that because the poster was well established, they did not see it as advertising!

Half an hour later, it's gone. MNHQ message, it was deleted for advertising 🙄.

It's a bitchfest

I was having the exact same conversation with husband this morning. I’m on no other social media except this (well I have a Facebook account that I log into once a year if I remember).

I posted under a different user name about something that was troubling me and I can’t believe the nasty comments! It was really cruel and to be honest it affected me very badly. I’m an anxious person anyway so I think maybe I should stop posting things or just be very vague. I think the more details you give it gives more people chances to attack you. I was going to post whether anyone knows of any “kinder” websites where I could genuinely post when feeling sad and anxious. I’ll still use mumsnet as it has some fantastic resources but just for guidance I need a kinder place to post - anyone know of one? Just a side note I did post a very vague thread this morning under this user name so feel free to check! And the responses have been so lovely and kind and I’m again comforted that not everyone is nasty and cruel on here. I think the secret is be very vague and don’t give too many details.

Step mothers - they are not in the spirit of Mumsnet.

Any criticism real or implied of any aspect whatsoever of SPaG makes you a cunt.

Men who can no longer pay child maintenance due to a genuine change of circumstances and who were able to do so Ok before are cunts who should have guaranteed their income for life before having kids.

Anyone who voted Leave or has anything positive to say about Trump is a cunt.

etc

Slagging off other posters and quoting what they say with your mates on another thread shouldn't be in the spirit.

Except on the Dementors thread which is full of it.

How on earth does one criticise SPaG?

Oh you naughty capital letter, fuck off out of it.
I don't like the way that apostrophe is looking at me. No better than he ought to be, that one.

Or did you mean you like pulling people up about their mistakes like a vicious schoolmarm and get deleted for it?