I worry the joy has gone out of life and won't fully return

[MyriamVB]

Firstly a disclaimer. I realise that many many people, including those in the frontline NHS staff, those who lived through and died in the 2 world wars and conflicts since, have and had it far harder. I also realise that the current restrictions are necessary to protect the NHS and save lives. I realise that there were many suffering people in the world and there will continue to be after this.

Obviously very very few people are enjoying life hugely at the minute. I do worry though that amongst all the solitude, strain on relationships, lack of socialising, boredom and listlessness together with the new authoritarian atmosphere around movements, the whole "I saw someone sit on a bench it's a disgrace" thing plus the psychological impact of necessary social distancing that the joy of life won't come back, not properly. It seems all around me people in necessary lockdown are beginning to be significantly affected by it. Even on here, every second thread seems to have descended into name calling and vociferous disagreement and "you're being ridiculous". Is this it now?

For lots of us, our previous lives don't even exist anymore.

the lives you had less than 4 weeks ago?

I think some.posters on here are just having a laugh. No one can be that ignorant to the struggles of others.

the lives you had less than 4 weeks ago?

Yes!

Alsohuman yes but if you live in an area where they don’t tend to hang out.....I’m sure they were lovely in the park at Easter but the police driving around the park kind of stressed people out so it was mostly just walk or run to get the juice in the joints (sorry, I’ve forgotten the word for the fluid that gets going when you work out).

At the moment I can hear a circular saw.

Or do I mean pavement cutter?

People are allowed to be upset without people trivilising their feelings.

My life now consists of getting up, trying to keep 2 kids entertained whilst keeping on top of housework until midday, followed by spending 8 hours working and then putting the same kids to bed. If I'm lucky I get 30 minutes myself before going to bed.

Yes, I'm lucky to still have a job, but it doesn't make me feel any less shit about the situation.

but the police driving around the park kind of stressed people out

sorry, but that's just you. The police driving around doesn't stress me out. Why should it?

“ the lives you had less than 4 weeks ago?”

Of course. My best friend works on big events. Made redundant yesterday. When will there be a big event? Spring 2020?

No family or friends visits allowed.

Lives in a smaller flat than we do.

Yes, probably a lot of posters are having a laugh at others.

Spring 2021

Don’t even know what fucking year it is.

People are allowed to be upset without people trivilising their feelings.
absolutely

what is less ok is people dramatising what doesn't need to be dramatised, talk about being locked up on house arrest and the world coming to an end.. when really it's not, and they are merely inconvenienced.

Real upset, boredom, anxiety.. is normal. it's not a holiday and the majority of people are just making the best of a bad situation. Pretending that you are suddenly the hero of some dystopian horror novel is ridiculous.

It's usually not the people at the front line and dealing with real issues who are creating such drama.

what is less ok is people dramatising what doesn't need to be dramatised, talk about being locked up on house arrest and the world coming to an end.

But are you in a position to judge what is disastrous for someone else? You don't know what others are going through. What might seem insignificant to you might be insurmountable to someone else and vice versa. How would you feel if you had a problem and the person you looked to for help told you to get over yourself, or listed all the ways someone else was worse off than you or described all of the ways that they were better off than you and that you should buck up?

Tell you what Hearhooves, instead of spraying misery around multiple threads, why don’t you start a “Life is shit, poor me” one all of your own and then it can become a pity party for everyone who’s hellbent on making the worst of life and save the rest of us from reading it?

Also that’s actually a really good idea.

Zebra, I’ll play!

People are spraying corona hysteria everywhere though....

Really? I thought there were other posters on here expressing exactly what I am, including the op. Are you telling them.the same or just attacking me?

Sorry Lilac that last comment was for Also not you.

Possibly synovial?

I’m not attacking you. I’m pointing out that you’re oozing misery on every other thread I open. It would be really nice if it was all confined to one place. There’s a positive corona thread, why not a negative one?

You don't know what others are going through.

and I never said that if you are stuck in a hospital bed hooked up to machines and in the most optimistic scenario is that you'll be there for another month you are not in a horrendous situation.

however, being in the same lockdown as the rest of us, for less than 4 weeks, is what you make of it. The fact that we are ALL in the same situation (or worst for workers) is what makes it possible to comment... If you are in the UK, don't pretend you are on house arrest because I know you are not, I live here too!

cake synovial, thank you!

Alsohuman
Maybe because I am struggling massively at the moment. But, you know, feel free to ignore me. Maybe open the window and listen to a robin sing?

@OneandTwenty well said. Bit too much "woe is me" around from a lot of healthy people whose families are safe and well.

If it's all so terrible now, how are you going to cope when things do actually get bad for you?

@CHIRIBAYA you're taking the piss there right?

however, being in the same lockdown as the rest of us, for less than 4 weeks, is what you make of it. The fact that we are ALL in the same situation (or worst for workers) is what makes it possible to comment.

But we aren't all in the same situation, by any means. How can you even think that?

People that are at home on full pay aren't in the same position as people that have just lost their jobs or even people that have been furloughed and haven't been paid yet.

People in one room in a b and b aren't in the same position as people in a flat who aren't in the same position as people living in a detached house.

People living with serious illness aren't in the same position as fit and healthy.people. People living happily with their families aren't in the same position as people on their own and lonely. People in an abusive relationship aren't in the same situation as people who aren't and any combination of any of the above.

We are absolutely not ALL in the same situation.

Please wake up! Of course you are under house arrest!

The people of the UK really aren't under house arrest.
They can shop, exercise, work outside of the home if needed, make essential travel, even travel for exercise and stop to eat while outside.
Your parks are open, your beaches are open, your cycle and walking paths are open. None of these are open where I live and I still wouldn't say I'm under house arrest.