Was ex BU and dangerous to do this?

[Oscarthegrouch47]

Just a quick one to gauge opinion. Would you find it acceptable if your ex left dc age 8 alone in the car while he popped into a supermarket for one item? No queue. Car doors locked. Reckons he was no longer than 5-10 minutes.

I feel really uncomfortable about it but ex is arguing that it was safer than taking him into the shop where there's more change of exposure. Dc is sensible and could be trusted not to open doors. Asked dc and he wasn't phased at all but I could never imagine doing this.

With all the unusual circumstances at the minute I just don't know whether my ex was being unreasonable or if he has a valid argument.

I think that’s fine tbh.

In light of these circumstances, I would have done it.

Fine

It was a perfectly reasonable thing to do.

I was left locked in younger than that. I think it’s fine, especially if, as you say, your son is sensible. . Especially fine at the moment though.

At 8 I think it’s fine assuming he was happy with it and didn’t have any SEN or impairments that made it dangerous. Also assuming it wasn’t hot outside as cars can heat up very quickly.

I don't understand the problem

It's just the same as leaving the kids in the car when paying for petrol

Least worst option so the best thing to do l think

Far more sensible that taking him in to the supermarket.

No problem at all... you said yourself, your DS is sensible and was unphased.

Not a problem imo

I agree with your ex. If the child’s sensible then it’s better to limit social contact

Yes, I would be fine with that.

I often leave dc in the car when paying for petrol but I wouldn't say it's the same as I can always see him/the car. My ex would have had him out of sight for up to ten minutes probably more.

I'm telling myself it's reasonable given the current situation but I can't help but feel really uneasy about it.

It’s OK.

I would do that. I don't see why coronavirus suddenly makes it OK for children to be left alone in the car. It's either OK or it's not. I think it's fine.

I think that’s fine. I think better than taking into the shop. I’d give a stranger danger chat/reminder.

Under normal circumstances, no I wouldn't like it either. But given the current situation, it seems a sensible choice.

What are you afraid might happen?

At 8 a child will generally kick up a fuss if someone tries to kidnap them, and can presumably open a window/door if they get too hot.

What made you uncomfortable? Being left in the car or the car being locked?

Many kids start to walk to shops or friends alone at 8, why being concerned with them being in a car in their own for 5 mns?

Fine unless the child has some sort of impulse problems/SEN and might do something unexpected and extreme like unbuckle himself, release the handbrake and get out of the car.

Being left alone unsupervised in a public place I guess. It's unlikely anyone would have attempted to kidnap him but it's not impossible.

Fine. He would have been unreasonable to take him into the shop.

I never lock the car why would you lock the car?

It's fine