To think this wedding (as it's been planned) won't be going ahead!

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Oldest friend is getting her dream wedding in early July - In Europe with friends and family (from all over the world - including me, one of her bridesmaids) she is adamant it will all be over by then and the wedding will go ahead as planned. AIBU to think it won't, suppliers may have gone bust, family / friends may not be able to travel / some countries may still ban international travel - the list is endless. Of course she can get married, have a beautiful wedding but it might be wise to explore some alternatives?
I'm heartbroken for her, but don't know how to softly break it to her that I (as well as many other guests, may not be able to travel as planned) or AIBU and a bit of a wedding grinch?!

Nope. I've postponed my UK July wedding!

No way will it go ahead.

I had to cancel my July wedding and rearrange for next year.

I’m wondering this, but regarding a wedding at end of August! I can’t imagine international travel will be as it was by then. Personally I’m hoping it is cancelled as I would feel worried about travelling, and being at a large wedding.
I doubt your July wedding will take place.

Not a chance. She's deluded. She'd be better off arranging an alternative date next year.

Not a wedding but we are due to go to Kos mid august and I'm not losing hope yet!

It might be able to take place in some form, i.e. 1/4 of the invited guests. It's a shame she can't see the situation for what it is and make some decisions.

It must be gutting.

Am sure she is aware it may not go ahead - but she’s trying to remain positive - it’s a long time away yet! And nobody knows what the situation is gonna be by July - so I don’t see what she can do yet except wait a bit longer to see how things progress?

Not really any of your business though - stay out of it! It will either happen or it won’t - she mighty postpone or change the plan. Don’t start meddling though!

Yeah, not happening. I feel for her but it’s just not realistic in that timescale.

July really isn't that far away.

Kapten the OP is her friend, of course she will be concerned. Why is it 'meddling'

We are supposed to be going to our mobile home in France in the summer holidays, I can't see that happening at all this year tbh so no, I dont think the wedding will be able to go ahead.

Friends are on the brink of cancelling their UK wedding in August.

Because it’s the friends wedding not the posters! Leave the bride to make her own decisions - there is no harm being excited about something and holding out hope that it may go ahead! I’m holding hope that my August holiday will go ahead and it annoys me when people keep telling me it won’t happen! I know that - but I can’t do anything yet at it’s all paid for and can’t cancel unless travel is not allowed / the flight gets cancelled - so I have to wait it out til closet to the time!

The wedding situation is the same! I don’t see the point in getting overly involved just yet - more than 3 months to go yet!

I'm supposed to be getting married in July and am holding on to the hope it will go ahead.
I'm out of work, as many others are, and this is something to look forward to. Leave her to keep the dream alive for the time being, she'll welcome your friendly ear when/if she has to cancel.

We are due to go to a wedding in July. If lockdown is over by then I think it will go ahead but don't think many people will turn up. I may stay at home with the kids and just send dh as it is his cousins wedding (that is if he would feel comfortable).

I wouldn't rain on her parade just yet, let her come to the likely conclusion she will have to cancel herself. Be there for her when and if that happens.

I agree with KaptenKrusty of course the OPs friend knows it might not go ahead but is hopeful it will. Why would you be so keen to burst her bubble?

I highly doubt it will go ahead. Say nothing to her the realisation will hit her soon.

She has a case of head in sand syndrome.

The uk and Europe are not going to be back to free roaming by July. Lockdown eased a bit yes, back to normal with do whatever you like, hug who you like, have a large gathering- No

Do not, repeat Do not be the one to tell her this isn't going to happen.
She will shoot the messenger.

My wedding is the end of June (Local wedding only 2o mins down the road) in Ireland, I have spoken to the hotel numerous times in the past few weeks, all weddings in May for the hotel are cancelled however they are not cancelling June weddings, mine is a small wedding (140 people) by Irish Standards. I am praying it goes ahead and watching all other countries as they go through their restrictions etc . We are caught between a rock and a hard place as nearly everything is paid for. All we can do is keep an eye on things and if it comes to it we have to reduce numbers etc or even postpone. A lot can change between now and July, just keep out of it and be a good sounding board for her. There is nothing you can do

Don't be the one to 'softly break it to her'.
Unless she's really dim or deluded, she'll soon cop on.
Feel very sorry for her and anyone else in this predicament. for the bride to be (whenever)

I can’t see any summer weddings going ahead. Events like that are just perfect for spreading a virus. Even if they were ‘allowed‘ I expect half the guests wouldn’t feel comfortable going anyway. It gutting for them but there’s nothing to be done really.

No. We’ve deferred our daughters July wedding.

Its still 2 and a half months away. She has plenty of time to see what happens and act accordingly.

My daughter’s friend has cancelled her wedding. My daughter and partner would be unlikely to be able to get there anyway as they are in lock down abroad and hardly any flights available.

It is highly unlikely we will still be in lockdown by July. (Frankly given the hints from Government, it's unlikely we'll be in lockdown by June). If the other country is also out of lockdown, she is not going to get a full refund if she cancels, and most of her guests will not get refunds on their flights/hotels if they are able to travel but choose not to.

In this situation, she's going to face a choice, go ahead with potentially half her planned guests, or reschedule but have to pay twice and accept those who can't get a refund on their flights for July 2020 might not want to pay out again for a 2021 overseas wedding.

If she's low risk, her family are mainly low risk, I can see why you'd just get on with it and hope if you have to cancel, insurance will cover rescheduling for everyone.

This was always going to be the harder choices, when you can travel, when you can have gatherings, but it's just not advisable to do so.

Which country is it too OP?