Music in the Garden

[Gruffalomom]

We live in on a relatively modern estate so we all have small gardens backing on to each other.

My DH likes to play music from a speaker when using our garden.

He doesn't have it booming but enough that it is definately audible to the neighbours.

It really bugs me as I feel like we are forcing our music taste on everyone and spoiling their enjoyment of our gardens.

We have several neighbours who play music in the garden and I find it annoying (but not enough that I would ever raise it with them!)

Aibu to think he's not being as considerate as he could be?

As* such

It's* own bloody auto-correct!

"He doesn't have it booming but enough that it is definately audible to the neighbours."

If it's audible to the neighbours, it's too loud. My next door neighbour has speakers booming out of the house all the time. I can usually cope, but with lockdown it really is driving me insane. The Easter weekend was ruined. I couldn't go in my garden it was so bad. She's definitely not the type to take kindly to any requests for her to turn it down.

So just because your neighbours haven't said anything doesn't mean they're happy with the music.

You are definitely right. Your DH is definitely wrong.

My tunes are the best, everyone who hears my beets know they are the best and loves them

No they aren’t. Would you play TV loud enough so your neighbour heard you watching dodgy tv. No you wouldn’t . Why would you inflict your neighbours to listen to your dodgy music choice

@Moonshinemisses Have you got my post mixed up with someone else's? Where did I say that people didn't use their garden in real life? I think you're getting mixed up.

who gets to decide whats 'bothersome'? The police I suppose.

TwoZero do you really set the bar for your behaviour to you neighbours as 'would the police get involved'? That's a pretty low standard. The police aren't there to decide what's a decent and reasonable way to behave to others. Society only works if the vast majority of people are trying to act considerately and follow soical norms, with the police as back up for the extreme situations of harmful behaviour.

An area doesn't have to be 'a bit rough' to have 'a good community feel'.

The music he plays is exactly the same volume in your neighbours garden, your neighbours are playing music purely to show you how pissing annoying it is

do you really set the bar for your behaviour to you neighbours as 'would the police get involved'? That's a pretty low standard. Of course I don't and if you read all of my posts you can see that I am considerate and I do follow social norms: people living near me play music outside when they're going about their daily lives, socialising and enjoying their gardens so I don't see any problem with the music that I play through my speaker at a volume that you can have a quiet conversation over the top of. That, to me, is normal and I have never lived anywhere where it isn't. I mentioned the police because they do take it seriously when called out to break up a party with extremely loud noise at unsociable hours which is something totally different from what I'm describing. It's not my bar for reasonable behaviour but it does demonstrate that I'm not being unreasonable.

An area doesn't have to be 'a bit rough' to have 'a good community feel'. I didn't say that; I said I'd rather live where I do, an area that has a good community despite it being a bit rough, than a "nicer" area where people have no tolerance for their neighbours' noises and, going by the comments on this thread, judge each other as being "chavvy". See this post: yes, the neighbours will judge you for being willing to have sex with such a selfish pig as an example.

Amiastone that's definately not the case. We have a number of neighbours who play music in their gardens much louder and more often than we do - and were doing so before DH's small speaker came into it.

I find them annoying, which is a why I believe DH's music is annoying to others!

I can’t get past ‘the police decide what’s bothersome’
Yeah, I’m sure that’s exactly your average officer’s job... to decide what’s ‘bothersome’!! Some people must have led really sheltered lives to think that’s what’s police involve themself with

Yea I've led such a sheltered life...

Very annoying. I'm grateful my neighbours don't do this.

My neighbors kids constantly play Disney. I have no issues.

I have no issues with it, we have some neighbours who play music quite a bit and it doesn’t bother me. It’s just normal garden noise like you can hear families all around as well