Music in the Garden

[Gruffalomom]

We live in on a relatively modern estate so we all have small gardens backing on to each other.

My DH likes to play music from a speaker when using our garden.

He doesn't have it booming but enough that it is definately audible to the neighbours.

It really bugs me as I feel like we are forcing our music taste on everyone and spoiling their enjoyment of our gardens.

We have several neighbours who play music in the garden and I find it annoying (but not enough that I would ever raise it with them!)

Aibu to think he's not being as considerate as he could be?

God, your DH is that guy..... Every street has one.

He's a selfish dick.

Yep. My neighbours do this and I hate it . Have to shut all my windows and doors as we have 3 of us trying to wfh and it’s impossible to take a call with their shit on .
When I’m in the garden we have a speaker next to us if we fancy music but it’s quiet enough that we can still talk normally over it

I think it’s only acceptable on very rare occasions if you’re having a party, definitely not most days. We play music very very low (you can’t hear it once you get further than 1 meter away) in the evening if we have a bbq and the neighbours are inside, I wouldn’t play it louder than that or if people were in their gardens though as no one wants to hear other people’s music.

Music at a normal speaking level in the garden is perfectly reasonable imo. It's no more annoying than lawn mowers, hedge trimmers, kids playing etc. We put music on in the garden occasionally if we're gardening. We have it at a normal talking level and nothing with too much base.

I'd far rather hear quiet music from next door than their bloody dog barking for hours on end. Or the dirt bike and quad bike engines from the teenagers a few doors down.

Blasting trance music that can be heard 8 doors down like we had from neighbours several houses away over the weekend is completely unreasonable though.

I got told I was selfish and should buy noise cancelling headphones as I had no right to not hear my neighbors music in my garden,

good old mn

Depends on the music

However, I think I am in a minority that don't mind as have a DH who is really not keen on music so we rarely have it on

I love music, so when I can sit in garden listening to neighbours faint radio I chuffing love it!

I hate music in the garden. It’s an unwritten rule that you just don’t do it. Anti-social and selfish.

Wow I'e never had this problem. I would truly hate it it. I live in a poorer/working class area (just to show Im not in Xenia land in a mansion worried about someone talking...) so our gardens are all close together and I wouldnt go put if I could hear other people's music. I don't think anything should benloud enough for others to hear its so thoughtless. I dont see why people are wo selfish. Is it the type that drop litter etc and dont see their acrions impact on others??

The only time ive encountered it is tourists on a beach, and then we've moved to a quieter spot!

If my neighbours play music in the garden they can expect to be drowned out by my kid listening to nursery rhymes on full blast for the next hour. Hope they enjoy it as much as I enjoyed their music!

Everyone hates you Yup, true. Inconsiderate, selfish, twat behaviour. I’d hate you too. He has NO right to impose this on your poor neighbours. It should definitely be against the law. It’s incredibly anti-social.

I hate people who do this. I really do hate them. NO ONE wants to hear your fucking music. It's a trashy, low-rent, scuzzy, shitbag, anti-social thing to do.

Totally antisocial. I just walked past a house where there were children screaming in the back garden and loud music playing, I felt so sorry for the neighbours...people like that are selfish to a tee.

We have a family nearby who have recently started playing music in the garden. It is driving us insane. I don't mind hearing children playing (not squealing!), lawn mowers, you know - normal noise - but listening to someone else's choice of music is horrendous. Now that the children are obviously not at school, we have more and more hours of it. Why don't we say anything? Goodness knows. Trying to keep neighbourly, I guess.

Your DH needs to take note. Do not play music so that your neighbours can hear. It is inconsiderate, selfish and so anti-social.

My upstairs neighbour had a partner who would blast her music out, full volume, all windows open at all times of day and night. It drove me fucking insane. The thing is that he's a lovely neighbour, so I never quite knew how to say to him 'could she perhaps not do karoake at half one in the morning?' She didn't even live there either, just spent the odd few days there every week.

I finally flipped when I got woken up at half five on a Sunday morning TWO FLOORS BELOW their living room with her caterwauling along to Adele. So I went out onto my balcony and absolutely bellowed along with it too. Fully fucking let rip at the top of my voice, and full lung capacity. The music abruptly stopped.

It may not have been the most mature way to address the problem, but I did get quite a few sly grins from the other neighbours in the next week.

So no, OP, YADNBU. Music at a low volume from inside the house - fine. Playing music outside, or at such a level you can tell exactly which Adele song is up next - reason to murder by countersinging.

I'm going to go totally against the grain here. If you are lucky enough to have a garden, use it however you please. Let your kids play out & make noise, play your music ,have a trampoline, have a BBQ. I really like all of my neighbours and they all do the above.

I think playing music/radio out loud in the garden should be illegal.

Music and screeching children.

Your neighbours hate you.

Easter Sunday in the garden could hear three different sources of music from surrounding gardens, so I put my own music on. I like music in the garden occasionally, but not loud or for extended periods...

God my dh does this too. I find it so embarrassing but every time I ask him to stop he acts like it's a really weird hang up that I have. He has shit taste in music too.

I am not a fan of blaring music in Gardens. I live in. An apartment and we have a garden area and ppl in the social flats across the way have music on full blast and it’s so anti social. That said I’ve adopted a can’t beat them join them approach and just put my google home on loud enough to drown them out. Especially as my neighbors Nextdoor have taken to having the tv on full blast with their doors open wide and I can listen to every word! But these are not normal times and trying to be patient with ppl.

It's always inconsiderate , but particularly at the moment when so many people are trying to work, study or educate their kids at home.
He sounds bloody immature.

@Moonshinemisses good for you but some of us still need to work and all that noise makes it impossible to hear phone calls or concentrate .
My poor neighbour works nights and has to keep getting up asking the garden behind to be quiet so he can actually get some sleep before his next shift .
Enjoy your garden but have consideration ffs

You know your neighbours will talk about you don't you? And not in a good way.

@Moonshinemisses all your neighbours do that? How unusual.

I have an NHS shift worker right behind me and an elderly couple to one side. All large gardens. I still think that they would consider me a selfish prick if I played music in my garden whenever I felt like it. And they would be correct, so I don't.