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What is your view on this situation

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SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95 · 14/04/2020 15:26

Before Christmas me and my children's dad had discussed buying them an outdoor climbing frame with swing slide etc for the summer. MIL was there at the time and said the kids would love it. About a month later SIL gets one for her kids (my kids hadn't at this point) not an issue the kids go to each others houses to play so they can play on each others once we had one. I found one and me DC Dad brought it, put it all together and that weekend my daughter was due to stay with MIL. I dropped her off and she had asked what we had been up to that day. I said we had been putting together the kids outdoor thing, had a 10 minute chat then I left. I had only pulled away from her house 90 seconds at the most when I had a text message on my phone reading 'she's gone now, don't forget the rice your not going to be happy when you get here' this message was obviously intended for the SIL who lives next door to MIL.

I immediatley was angry because my initial thought was she is going to now be talking about me for buying my kids something similar but in no means the EXACT same.
I sent a message that it was out of order and that I won't let my kids be apart of a family like them, then blocked MIL and SIL number.
Aibu to of cut contact now with them both for me and my kids regardless of what there dad says.
Sorry if it don't make sense lol

OP posts:
Hercwasonaroll · 14/04/2020 15:27

Do you normally react with such dramatics?

StoorieHoose · 14/04/2020 15:29

Eh? How do you know it's got to do with the climbing frame?

Hazelnutlatteplease · 14/04/2020 15:30

What exactly are you upset about? Whats the climbing frame got to do with anything

spanieleyes · 14/04/2020 15:30

The story makes sense, can't say the same about your reaction!

drunkyhumptydumpty · 14/04/2020 15:32

Wow.
So you went from 0-100 in 0 seconds.
You say children's dad. Not husband or partner. So presumably he can tell you to piss off.

He should. The children should see normality.

ElloElloVera · 14/04/2020 15:32

Even if it was directed about you and the climbing frame, get a grip. You can’t take kids away from their extended family for that!!!! If there’s more to drip feed maybe but not for what you’ve said in the OP.

Gatehouse77 · 14/04/2020 15:33

I immediatley was angry because my initial thought

so you've reacted without any factual information?

Original poster
SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95 · 14/04/2020 15:35

Thanks for the advice 😊

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RedskyAtnight · 14/04/2020 15:36

Why were you looking at your phone while you were driving? Perhaps that was the thing that MIL thought SIL wouldn't be happy about?

Redglitter · 14/04/2020 15:36

Are you serious? Bloody hell that must be THE biggest over reaction I've read about.

First why wouldnt you do what any normal rational person would do and speak to your MIL about it. And what on earth has your SIL done to warrant such appaling behaviour towards her.

Seriously get a fucking grip

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SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95 · 14/04/2020 15:37

The information I received was in the 90 seconds I was gone she had dropped the curry on the floor and that's why the SIL was going to be unhappy. On seeing a photo she sent all the chicken seemed to of been saved and only the sauce fell out of the pan and hit the kitchen floor

OP posts:
ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 14/04/2020 15:38

Sorry if it don't make sense lol

Did you mean to put lol or a full stop?

drunkyhumptydumpty · 14/04/2020 15:40

So....you've really fucked up then?

Have you profusely apologised.

PigInASlanket · 14/04/2020 15:41

Reverses are shit aren't they?

Hazelnutlatteplease · 14/04/2020 15:42

So your upset because your mother in law was worried her daughter might be upset dinner was ruined?

Or you felt that was an excuse? What do you think she was referring to?

Elbels · 14/04/2020 15:42

Your updates make even less sense than your initial post.

You've cut off members of your children's family because one of them dropped curry sauce on the floor?

BayandBlonde · 14/04/2020 15:43

So the text message wasn't about the climbing frame at all but rather a curry Confused

Lanurk · 14/04/2020 15:43

What does the curry have to do with a climbing frame? You sound hard work tbh

maras2 · 14/04/2020 15:43

WTF was all that about? Confused

Redglitter · 14/04/2020 15:43

So.in light of your update have you apologised to them both or is this a stupid reverse thread

Thighmageddon · 14/04/2020 15:45

Can you start again from the beginning? I'm very confused.

onanothertrain · 14/04/2020 15:45

So basically you've made a complete tit of yourself.
I hope you've apologised profusely. In fact I hope they tell you to shove your apology.

EsmeeMerlin · 14/04/2020 15:45

Eh? Your post literally makes no sense. I have no understanding why you have kicked off at your mil and sil

Aquamarine1029 · 14/04/2020 15:47

Wow. You have massively fucked up. Good luck digging yourself out of this.

EsmeeMerlin · 14/04/2020 15:47

Also I think you will find you cannot keep your children away from their nan and aunt if their dad says they can still have contact.

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