What is your view on this situation

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95]

Before Christmas me and my children's dad had discussed buying them an outdoor climbing frame with swing slide etc for the summer. MIL was there at the time and said the kids would love it. About a month later SIL gets one for her kids (my kids hadn't at this point) not an issue the kids go to each others houses to play so they can play on each others once we had one. I found one and me DC Dad brought it, put it all together and that weekend my daughter was due to stay with MIL. I dropped her off and she had asked what we had been up to that day. I said we had been putting together the kids outdoor thing, had a 10 minute chat then I left. I had only pulled away from her house 90 seconds at the most when I had a text message on my phone reading 'she's gone now, don't forget the rice your not going to be happy when you get here' this message was obviously intended for the SIL who lives next door to MIL.

I immediatley was angry because my initial thought was she is going to now be talking about me for buying my kids something similar but in no means the EXACT same.
I sent a message that it was out of order and that I won't let my kids be apart of a family like them, then blocked MIL and SIL number.
Aibu to of cut contact now with them both for me and my kids regardless of what there dad says.
Sorry if it don't make sense lol

And surely any indignation about you buying a climbing frame would be met with "yes, remember we discussed that we would be getting one way back in the mists of time. Before you bought yours."

This all sounds like a massive drama over nothing though.

The SIL purchased hers in Jan, there's nothing to suggest that the OP purchased at the same time. Just that it was purchased "after"

So you're a nut job.

If I were them I'd cut you off and tell your children's father to bring them around.

Right- the curry spill is clearly bollocks and didn’t happen. She was covering her ass and that was the best she could come up with.

Yes SIL is clearly a whiny brat and can’t cope with your DC having the same as her DC. MIL clearly takes part in the bitching about you.

Instead of removing them from your DC lives (their dad won’t accept that anyway) face them like an adult, ask what the issue is with your Dc having a climbing frame and ask SIL in future to come directly to you with any issues instead of bitching about you behind your back like she’s in school.

Sounds like you were looking for some excuse to create drama/cut them out?

Why would anyone care that their child's cousins might have the same climbing frame as the one they'd bought? Who would care about that? If anything, I'd take it as a compliment, if I believed they'd been so impressed and the kids had loved it so much that they just had to have one like it.

(It might be different if it were part of a pattern of behaviour. One-upmanship or one cousin having to have everything the other cousin had in a weirdly competitive way.)

I have no words but OP step away from the Gin,.

You are batshit, completely I bet your MIL and SIL are pleased that they do not have to deal with you.

I actually find it quite odd that your SIL didn't know you were planning on getting a climbing frame. It seems it would be the natural thing to come up in conversation while the cousins were playing together on the one at her house. e.g. that's similar to the one we're getting, can you recommend it, any thing you wished you'd gone for, was it easy to put together etc.

I also can't imagine what sort of childish dynamic would exist that would make adults with kids somehow feel slighted that their kids have similar play stuff.

You blocked them both? I think they've had a lucky escape.

Have you got cabin fever?

Regular Columbo you eh. Fucking hell

So MIL poured curry sauce on her floor to fake a cover story? Brilliant What was their reaction to being blocked? Did you pick your DD up or someone else?

Holy shit I'm glad you aren't my SIL

@Soubriquet my thought exactly

Regular Columbo you eh. Fucking hell

Wtf.

You're angry because MIL thought SIL would be angry she'd dropped curry on the floor so you blocked them?

My in-laws family are like this. They make endless bloody drama for themselves over nothing. There's always one party that won't attend any given family occasion because they're not speaking to the rest of them.

Don't worry OP, someone else will soon fall out with another family member over some imagined slight and you'll (or whoever it was who's in the wrong, it's not entirely obvious) be forgotten about.

Ok Sharon let's assume the SIL and MIL were bitching about the fact you had bought a climbing frame, bizarre though that sounds.

Why would you block them both?

What has happened since?

Why are you posting about this three months later?

I've had to re-read this thread twice. I still have no idea why you blocked both of them. Are you usually this unhinged OP?

Hitting the drink a bit early are you not?

Wow

Yes even if they were talking about you having bought a climbing frame unless there is some massive backstory you are overreacting to remove your children from seeing grandparents and cousins

You can make the choice (still a massive overreaction people gossip its a fact of life) but you cannot enforce it on your children

Sharon's back!