What is your view on this situation

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95]

Before Christmas me and my children's dad had discussed buying them an outdoor climbing frame with swing slide etc for the summer. MIL was there at the time and said the kids would love it. About a month later SIL gets one for her kids (my kids hadn't at this point) not an issue the kids go to each others houses to play so they can play on each others once we had one. I found one and me DC Dad brought it, put it all together and that weekend my daughter was due to stay with MIL. I dropped her off and she had asked what we had been up to that day. I said we had been putting together the kids outdoor thing, had a 10 minute chat then I left. I had only pulled away from her house 90 seconds at the most when I had a text message on my phone reading 'she's gone now, don't forget the rice your not going to be happy when you get here' this message was obviously intended for the SIL who lives next door to MIL.

I immediatley was angry because my initial thought was she is going to now be talking about me for buying my kids something similar but in no means the EXACT same.
I sent a message that it was out of order and that I won't let my kids be apart of a family like them, then blocked MIL and SIL number.
Aibu to of cut contact now with them both for me and my kids regardless of what there dad says.
Sorry if it don't make sense lol

@conduitoffortune

OP doesn’t look unhinged, she is unhinged. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Have another one OP

Don’t do crack, kids.

What, only the OP’s sil is allowed a climbing frame? Is there a limit of one per extended family or something? I mean, I know there’s a pandemic on, but seriously!

I really hate it when an OP gets piled on and mocked viciously and relentlessly just for being a bit different from the mumsnet norm. She hasn't done anything wrong and you should all be ashamed of yourselves.

Hang on...... You wanted to get your kids a climbing frame, your SIL got a climbing frame for hers, so did you, your MIL said SIL wouldn't be happy, you left, MIL texted wrong person, you assume MIL must HAVE been talking about you and that SIL must HAVE been angry and at some point a curry was or was not on the floor.

Riiiiiigggghht.

Yeah, no - that's not NC material. That's just random.

I can recommend a good therapist...
You're getting some harsh responses, but your post does make you sound like a bit of a lunatic.
How is your husband coping with your level of crazy during CoVid. I would lose my shit if my OH behaved towards my mother and sister like this for such a risible reason.
Get. Some. Help.

@SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95
Yep, they were probably about to start bitching about you. You were hurt, you were angry. I get it. Sounds like your MIL has been stirring things for a long time (I don't mean curry).

This divisive and petty behaviour does drive people bonkers, particularly if we grew up with it in our own family, feeling hopeless and helpless. Betrayal hurts - especially when it comes from people who should be watching our back, not stabbing it.
Ideally, you wouldn't want any contact with such people, and you were acting as the adult by saying I've had enough of this. But because you were shocked and hurt you weren't as grown-up as you might have been in dealing with it.

My guess is, you're posting now because there's been pay-back time - How dare you break contact!!! It must be very hard for you, sweetheart. But you ARE the adult now, you can buy what you like for your kids, and you can leave these people to pick on someone their own size.

Can you smile sweetly and suggest you all move on?
Can you restrict contact to only what involves your children?
Can you remind yourself that you deserve better but this is the best they can do, so shrug it off next time?
Can you explain your feelings to the dad and say you want to support him and the kids in their relationship with the ILs but will he watch your back?

So are there actually people on here that can understand what she is saying???

Did MIL snap and fart when she was clearing it up?

After yet another shit nights sleep but sleep non the less, I've re-read the entire thread and think I now finally understand.

YABU to cut off contact over this.

The issue is between you and your in-laws and the children should not miss out.

You need to tackle them in a calm manner if it bothers you that much.

But don't take it out on your children because that's what you'll be doing.

What the fuck are you on about? Re-read your post OP, they make no sense at all

😂😂😂

After reading your replies I can't believe how bat shit crazy I actually sound

I dont think the photos are uploading I've tried twice but they don't seem to be appearing on the thread.
It doesn't make sense now I've read through what I've wrote

Grr I really want to upload the curry snaps now to show you all but I have no idea how. I've added them on a post but they don't seem to be posting do they need to be approved by mumsnet?

I had only pulled away from her house 90 seconds at the most when I had a text message on my phone reading 'she's gone now, don't forget the rice your not going to be happy when you get here'

Did she remember the rice though?

And surely you can buy whatever you like for your children

Think she did although I did ask why she would be needing the rice if the curry was all over the floor 😂 were they going to eat rice and nann breads with no curry sauce. God I sound like a nutter, I'm not. SIL would slag me off if my son had so much as the same socks as hers. She is a whiny brat as somebody already said.

Would the naan bread help mop up the sauce, save getting the mop out?