What is your view on this situation

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed95]

Before Christmas me and my children's dad had discussed buying them an outdoor climbing frame with swing slide etc for the summer. MIL was there at the time and said the kids would love it. About a month later SIL gets one for her kids (my kids hadn't at this point) not an issue the kids go to each others houses to play so they can play on each others once we had one. I found one and me DC Dad brought it, put it all together and that weekend my daughter was due to stay with MIL. I dropped her off and she had asked what we had been up to that day. I said we had been putting together the kids outdoor thing, had a 10 minute chat then I left. I had only pulled away from her house 90 seconds at the most when I had a text message on my phone reading 'she's gone now, don't forget the rice your not going to be happy when you get here' this message was obviously intended for the SIL who lives next door to MIL.

I immediatley was angry because my initial thought was she is going to now be talking about me for buying my kids something similar but in no means the EXACT same.
I sent a message that it was out of order and that I won't let my kids be apart of a family like them, then blocked MIL and SIL number.
Aibu to of cut contact now with them both for me and my kids regardless of what there dad says.
Sorry if it don't make sense lol

Can you please break this down so we understand.

And does the climbing frame have ANYTHING to do with it?

Have you apologised yet?

Hard to see how you could be considered unreasonable when you have posted such a well considered, clear and concise record of events.

YABU. Even if the text was about the climbing frame it’s a major overreaction to stop your kids seeing their gran/aunt

In the current climate, I think it makes sense to maintain connections and be a bit tolerant (unless completely toxic) - you never know when you might need to call on family/friends.
Your reaction does seem a bit OTT - clearly the text wasn't meant for you, but doesn't necessarily mean it was about the climbing frame.

Eh?

Wait a minute...

Don't ask me how but I just forgot about 'the current climate'

When did all of this happen?

Because it couldn't have been in the last three weeks.

Say what?
Curry or climbing frame - it must have been bloody months ago anyway?

🤔 anyone else lost?

I've read it several times now and still can't understand a thing.
You went to see MIL. After you left she texted SIL to come over. And totally randomly you assumed they want to bitch about you buying a climbing frame?
Even if this was true, I don't think even the most anti-MIL Mumsnetters would tell you to go immediately no contact..

This allegedly happened in January and you wait till now to pose the question?

Your mil was lying about dropping the curry.If she had dropped a curry on the floor she wouldn't need or want rice would she? I think the message was about you but I'd have just called her out on it rather than block.

I think the OP is to be applauded for getting curry and climbing frames in her op, even though I don't have a clue what they are on about.

See, NOW it doesn't make sense-what does the curry have to do with a climbing frame!

Right.... of course.

So, when was this? Recently was it?

Sharon...is that you?

SIL must of been going round to MIL house for tea and they must of been having curry as the text was first of all reminding her not to forget the rice and then second of all informing her she wasn't going to be happy once she got round there.

After 10 minutes MIL must of realised she had text the wrong person because then she text again saying your not going to be happy I dropped it all on the floor.

I presumed SIL wasn't going to be happy because my kids also had a climbing frame (MIL said so herself along the lines of oh don't say that she won't be happy) so yes I did assume they were going to be slagging me off behind my back because the curry scenario seems unlikely when it wasn't even on the cooker heating up when I left let alone on the floor.

Massive apologies are owed by you. Sil was obviously going round there for lunch , you found a bit of a loon tbh.

This is pretty batshit.

I'll indulge.

When did this happen and how did MIL message you if you had blocked her number?

So what have you done since January? Have you apologised for your ignorant behaviour?

I am confused but on a separate note why are you taking your DC to your MIL house during a lockdown?

I think understand, you've suspected that MIL and SIL say nasty things about you behind your back, and now you have proof.

The fact that SIL 'won't be happy' about you buying a climbing frame for your dc similar to one she'd bought herself does sound rather toxic.

Your dc should still be able to visit these relatives with their DF, but I can understand why you wouldn't want anything to do with them - they don't like you & the feeling is evidently mutual