To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

[BuzzingtheBee]

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

I agree with pp that the noise of children playing is fine and actually at the moment it's good to hear happy voices (as long as they aren't screaming or carrying on past my bedtime) but music is intensely irritating. Music is such a personal choice and even if the neighbour happens to play music I like, it might not be what I want to hear at that moment. We had this sort of noise at a previous house and whenever I saw the neighbours they would always get in first with 'Oh you must be sick of us, we are so noisy aren't we? So sorry' which defused any complaint quite well as I'm too polite to say anything after that.

last weekend the neighbours at the rear of us were blasting out music, shrieking with laughter and pretty much having a party (just the 3 of them)

i found it quite distasteful.

we're in the middle of a pandemic. People are worried sick about relatives. Half the people are working longer and harder than ever in stressful environments on low pay (generally) and the other half are working from home on full pay from their company or on a couple of grand a month from the government.

It's not a frickin festival. i know that makes me sound VU
i usually don't really mind, my neighbours generally play nice music - a bit loud but not OTT>

I can heartily agree with the music complaints. My neighbours play something that has a heavy bass beat and it turns my kitchen into a boom box. I live on a really quiet road and no other neighbours feel the need to play music in their gardens. At least the teenager living in their shed seems to have gone and taken his ghetto blaster with him, so I thought things would get back to normal, no such luck. It really is incredibly aggravating and takes away the immense enjoyment I get from using my garden.

Music is always yabu no matter what it is if played in garden, children yanbu

Why am I stupid? Because I dont agree with you? Why ask for opinions if you aren't going to listen?

I dont care about noises of kids playing OR music in gardens as long as its not all the time.
Id expect people to want to listen to the radio in the garden a bit on a sunny day.
I expect to hear people living their lives. I expect to hear neighbours playing guitar etc. In normal circumstances I expect to hear music from local pubs too at times.
It all depends whether its excessive or not.
People who expect silent gardens are unreasonable. If they complained it wouldnt go anywhere.

Personally I don't mind peiplenpalaying music in their own gardens so long as its within the legal time frames to blast music and they stop at the times they're supposed to, I just play music of my own and it tends to cover the sounds, people should be enjoying themselves when they can right now

I used to have neighbours who tuned in to the local radio station in the garden. I hated it but what I really don't understand is that they didn't listen to it in the house, just when they were in the garden. Why is this a thing?

I wish my neighbor's kids wouldn't be out the entire time as I'd love a bit of peace to read my book out there but I wouldn't dream of complaining - we're all cooped up and they need their exercise and they're just kids. Music is bloody annoying even if you don't play it loud everyone else has to listen to it so they're OK to complain about that.

I would always use headphones in the garden but on Easter Sunday I did, as a Christian, play the two great Easter hymns in my garden (at around 11.00 am) - - just once, mus headphones

Lots and lots of people seem to play music or radio as a background noise - they aren't even actually listening to it.

Minus headphones - sorry

Completely depends on the volume and type of music.

What’s the point of asking if YABU and when 99% of respondents say you are (about music) you gleefully state you will keep playing it anyway?

I did, as a Christian, play the two great Easter hymns in my garden (at around 11.00 am) - - just once, mus headphones

I’m not sure why you need to play them without headphones? Doesn’t God like headphones?

I think (and will probably get roasted for this) that music in the garden depends on your neighbours and your relationship.

We had music in over the weekend (live DJ streams off FB), I texted both sets of neighbours, asked if they minded, one side said yeah fine, other side said as long as it’s not blaring, no problem.

I asked the side who asked us not to have it too loud just to pop out when I put it on just to check they couldn’t hear it, they said fine, no problem, they couldn’t hear it.

All fine.

I did check a couple of times with them that it was still ok, again no problem and they are the kind to say if there are any problems.

The other side later on in the afternoon asked us to move the (small Bluetooth) speaker over nearer their fence so they could hear it.

Playing music loud enough for your neighbours to hear is really bloody selfish.

It's not the same with headphones, you can't chat to your family etc with headphones.

To those saying what if someone was working nights, had a baby etc. I have been woken up soooo many times by babies and people returning from night shifts, people coming in late at night, students etc. No one being intentionally disruptive or disrespectful - just going about their lives. We all have to live together as a community and recognise different lifestyles. I probably have music on in the garden once every month or so... quietly, just chart stuff nothing crazy.

I enjoy it same as some people practice playing the piano or kids jumping on trampolines or having water fights etc. Love and let live I say

children - Ok

Music - not Ok

Why on earth is music in the garden unacceptable?

Yep that's what my neighbour at the back and 3 doors down thinks.
The recordings I made for the council inside my home with doors and windows closed and my TV on said other wise.

Neighbour then accused me of having a 'male guest' swear at her. It was actually someone on a different street.

My bedroom is at the back of my bungalow, as is my living room, there was no where to get away from the noise. I could only watch TV with subtitles because all I could hear (and feel) was their music.

Edersons We had music in over the weekend (live DJ streams off FB), I texted both sets of neighbours, asked if they minded, one side said yeah fine, other side said as long as it’s not blaring, no problem.
Unless you live in an enormous house, I doubt your 'live DJ streams' only affected the people on either side of you. This is the reason why people generally think music in gardens is selfish and inconsiderate. Noise travels.

'Lots and lots of people seem to play music or radio as a background noise - they aren't even actually listening to it.'

This. It seems to have become normal for people to 'need' noise everywhere/all the time, and, increasingly, to impose it on others. I find playing music in public (= where others are forced to hear it), no matter what the genre, extremely distasteful tbh, as well as inconsiderate. It seems to be becoming creepingly normal, though. In summer we go to an outdoor pool in a lovely rural setting and they often play the bloody radio over the tannoy I wouldn't dream of playing music in my garden, not even during a party.

I would be happy with the Children ,However Music is one persons taste and another ones poison! I doubt anyone else would like to listen to Nirvana at a good volume ,so I listen to it on headphones. Likewise I would not want to hear Opera either!

I love hearing children playing.

I hate having to listen to other people’s music. Don’t get me started on bloody jangling windchimes!

It's not the same with headphones, you can't chat to your family etc with headphones.
So why do you need music if you want to chat?