To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

[BuzzingtheBee]

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

That reminds me - I actually love wind chimes but would never put any up because it's bound to annoy at least one of the houses in the vicinity and why should they have to put up with my personal taste?

Children yanbu. Music yabu. Your music your taste - keep it in your house.

@Daisypond same reason they play music in bars and at parties and in pub gardens and a million other places where people chat and relax. It helps create an atmosphere

@BaileysforBreakfast

For clarity, we live in a 3 bed semi detached, no houses at the back and the music was via the iPad through a tiny Bluetooth speaker, not myself or DH DJing.

The building work going on two doors down made more noise.

Agreed re wind chimes. I love them but its a constant sound which seems totally unfair to force others to live in

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will. Happy for our neighbours to do it too!!

your children have not had 'so much taken away from them' They are in a (I assume) loving, safe home, with plenty of food, a nice garden to play in, they just have to stay inside for a few weeks. Get a perspective.

The vast majority have said they dislike other people's music, yet you think it is still OK.

I said upthread one of my neighbours 2 houses along plays loud music all day long. They also have noisy kids, lots of screaming.
It is the music that grates. A lot. The thump thump thump is relentless. I want to relax in my garden, I can't with that bass.
When they turn it right down, I can still hear it, but it doesn't bother me.

Volume is everything.
Occasional party, fine, everyone has one occasionally. All day on a weekend when eveyrone wants to use the garden, no.

The thing is, I have never complained, and I am friendly with these people in the street. They have no idea what PITA they are in their garden. So all you people saying it isn't a problem and no-one minds and no-one complains, well I suggest they mind a lot more that you think!

I just remembered living next door to this woman who would hoover and mow the lawn and chat on the phone in her garden anything from 8am at weekends.. but whenever our kids were playing outside or we played music she'd huff and puff audibly and make us feel really uncomfortable.

Difference is, children need to be outdoors to a certain extent in order to get exercise, fresh air and vitamin D.

Your music will be absolutely fine if travelling through the medium of earphones or kept on a low volume inside the house with all windows shut. It won't get rickets, it won't develop behavioural problems, it won't even put on weight. It'll be fine.

So on this point you are absolutely free to think of others. Makes life easier, doesn't it?

same reason they play music in bars and at parties and in pub gardens and a million other places where people chat and relax. It helps create an atmosphere
Not needed and not done in every pub. I tend to actively avoid pubs, bars and shops that do this as there is really no need.

same reason they play music in bars and at parties and in pub gardens and a million other places where people chat and relax. It helps create an atmosphere
All those are places where people can choose to go. In places where people have to go, they generally don’t like muzak forced upon them. It doesn’t create a nice atmosphere. In fact, it’s the opposite. Having it played at you when you are trying to chat wrecks the atmosphere.

So you want your neighbours to endure your music, when they have very little option but to be at home?

Be considerate. It was a nice day, ever think your neighbours would like to enjoy their gardens without your music playing? Doesn't matter that it wasn't loud, no one wants to hear anyone else's music.

Ohhh this is one of those threads...

"AIBU to play music in garden"
Yes you are

"Well I am not going to stop..."

Why the hell bother posting then, op!?

lastqueenofscotland I'd rather hear punk than what some of my neighbours play. One summer it was Mumford & Sons. The same album, over and over, every day for fucking weeks.

I dont mind the noise of children, but detest listening to other peoples music.

So the people saying no music in gardens ever... surely every once in a while is okay as long as it's not loud?

It's one of life's little pleasures surely?

Sure, occasionally, like for the kids to dance to, or the previous poster's easter hyms. I wouldn't begrudge a neighbour quiet music that they are really listening to and enjoying.

For me the trouble is when people want it on in the background - say I can easily hear 8 gardens from mine, (2 each side, and the ones opposite them across the back fence) if each played 3 hours music on a sunny lockdown sunday that would be constant sound, often clashing with each other.

Somewhat against the grain, kids' noise annoys the hell out of me (I don't have my own, so yes, I'm sure I just don't realise/empathise/whatever).
Playing and laughing is fine, but it's when they shriek.
But I'd never complain, especially not now people are cooped up so much, unless kids were for example screaming in at my windows or bouncing a ball repeatedly against the wall.

Other people's music is a bit annoying, but again I'd never complain as long as it's at a 'social' volume, not blasting out of giant speakers so you can feel it pulverising your insides.

I think at the moment we all need to be a bit more considerate, but we also all need to cut each other some slack.

Children - fine.

If your neighbours can hear your music, it's too loud.

So the people saying no music in gardens ever... surely every once in a while is okay as long as it's not loud?

no.
It's not okay.
and you know that.

Haha, you wouldn’t be “happy for other neighbours to play their music too” round our way OP. A bunch of neighbours, myself included, have developed a common strategy for our nuisance neighbour who has noisy kids (fine) and crap music (obnoxious) blaring for most of the day in our terraced gardens. Or they used to...

We asked nicely (that’s the 4 different neighbours that they’ve given a migraine to). They ignored, mostly with the same excuses OP has trotted out here.

So then we just played them at their own game. They put on their crap, we put ours on out the window, plus sub woofer and LOUDER. Or my neighbours do. That seems to have persuaded them to turn it down for now.

If she starts up again, we will continue and then move to the next stage...we’ll put our loud sounds on in the evening. See how CF neighbours like having their routine and peace disturbed by other people behaving like selfish dicks.

I can heartily recommend this strategy to deal with noise polluting nobbers who won’t consider their impact on others even when asked nicely.

Happily the vast majority seem like reasonable people who do give a shit about others in these stressful times, so such drastic steps aren’t usually required. Handy to have in the back pocket in case of back garden noise bandits though.

Some people really have neighbours from hell, and we've found a lot of those on this thread!

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I love your style!

I have also heard about the need to start urgent noisy garden work at dawn every single time the neighbours have been loud and late. Every single time. Eventually morons will get the message.

Depends on lots of things, as an example kids playing doesn't normally bother me but my neighbours son went through a phase of bouncing a ball on the wall at the side of my house which was the boundary with their house. It nearly drove me mental, you could feel it through the house never mind hear it. So you would need to explain more before I could say if I think it is reasonable or not.

Music in the garden is always unacceptable. It is rude and selfish.

Yep the message seems to be getting through MamaBear. It’s lead to some god awful cacophonys as the neighbourhood all weighs in with their racket of choice for 5 mins, but we’re making our point. Plus it’s funny and we could all do with a laugh!

supervised children no problem what so ever, unruly kids shut out all hours to give mum a break...no. Music so loud everyone else goes in and shuts their windows....No. I used to have a neighbour like this she was always saying how lovely our street was, everyone hated her.