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To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

597 replies

BuzzingtheBee · 13/04/2020 22:27

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

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FlamingoAndJohn · 14/04/2020 17:26

Isn't his speciality not giving a fuck how he negatively affects others?

And thinking he’s brilliant and he is right while everyone else is wrong despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.

FrancisCrawford · 14/04/2020 17:30

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LouDing · 14/04/2020 17:32

Depends on how loud the kids were being and how loud the music was.

Kids - I did complain about my neighbors kids this weekend. Screaming and squealing and arguing so loud in the garden, I could hear it from ALL rooms in my house and couldn’t hear myself think. Playing normally at a general play volume - no problem whatsoever.

Music - shouldn’t be loud enough for anyone else to hear it. Imagine the racket if everyone started to turn up their music over their neighbors!

Lemonblast · 14/04/2020 17:34

Having been subjected to 80s rock anthems ALL FUCKING WEEKEND YABU 😉

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 17:41

People moaning about music- ridiculous. It’s day time and as long as it’s not blaring, regardless if you can hear it in your garden it’s tough. People are allowed to play music, if you don’t want to hear any music at all move to a detached house away from others....if you can’t afford that luxury then it’s tough-people can’t live their life around neighbours opinions!

If you can't afford the luxury of being able to play your music at a level that is unacceptable to others then you buy the detached house, otherwise it's tough and you can't ruin your neighbours peace!

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 18:00

Then there are people who will do something they know is annoying until someone tells them to stop.

sadly this thread proves that there's also a category of imbeciles who do not stop when asked to!

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 18:02

Why should the people who want the silence (apart from the sounds of their little darlings playing) be the ones in the right.

I despair and feel so sorry for people who have neighbours like that.
Their noise is fine, but they are the first to complain if someone else disturbs them.

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:13

@mstswift if it was a normal volume and not blasted like everyone in the YANBU camp has said then sure why not?

It's the same thing... why should I have to live around your opinions... why should you have to live around mine... because that's what a community is. You can't have a blanket rule for everyone you have to find a balance

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:13

@bootshakin this cunt wouldn't mind your religious music. Knock yourself out!

daisypond · 14/04/2020 18:17

if it was a normal volume
What is a normal volume? It’s not normal to play music outside at all. So, zero. An adult shouldn’t need to have a music accompaniment all the time like an overgrown baby with a dummy and an attachment disorder.

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:20

Mamabear you have literally said in this thread along with many others that the noise of children playing is fine, but then complained about the noise of people's music.

Regards the "if the neighbours can hear it it's too loud" comments... if you're in a small terrace how would it be possible to not have your neighbours hear your music if played outside? If you can hear it they can hear it.

I feel sorry for those of you who don't appreciate the joy of a Friday evening in the garden with a mate and a bottle of wine and some quiet tunes playing. Anyone who can't put up with that every once in a while from a considerate neighbour has to be incredibly intolerant and frankly totally selfish

chickenyhead · 14/04/2020 18:20

nor should they need silence and to control other people.

All I have heard all day are ambulances. Music might be a relief.

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:21

You know, like the volume from your phone. You can hear it but probably not all that well over a conversation. Background noise

FNuts · 14/04/2020 18:21

@FrancisCrawford

Momentary bangs, i.e. bangs every so often, perhaps 1 or 2 a minute, the total duration of which was 90 minutes.

MarieQueenofScots · 14/04/2020 18:21

It's the same thing... why should I have to live around your opinions... why should you have to live around mine... because that's what a community is

You can still listen to your music without inflicting it on others though.

Then everyone is happy.

What you’re actually saying is your opinion is more important, and you are going to have things your way.

FNuts · 14/04/2020 18:22

@carriebreadshaw

Common sense approach, huzzah

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:23

@chickenyhead you're so right... any happy noises from any of the houses round here are a joy at the moment. Breaks up all the misery and boredom

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:24

@msriequeenofscots no, what I am saying is that we should all have a bit of our own way

Mammatino · 14/04/2020 18:27

feel sorry for those of you who don't appreciate the joy of a Friday evening in the garden with a mate and a bottle of wine and some quiet tunes playing. Anyone who can't put up with that every once in a while from a considerate neighbour has to be incredibly intolerant and frankly totally selfish.

I think that scenario sounds lovely, the banging choons pulsing through the gardens from dusk till...well dusk is truly awful and soul destroying. Just be mindful, no one plays loud music around here, they all enjoy the gardens with the lovely kids too. Don’t forget the shift workers, the nurses,doctors, care workers, supermarket workers (all key workers)who are trying to sleep through the lovely sunshine so they can go back on shift.

CalishataFolkart · 14/04/2020 18:30

@carriebreadshaw

I can understand and appreciate that level of music. What people are complaining about is when it is louder and can be heard in someone else’s garden.

@FNuts the level that @carrie is talking about - like from a phone, not able to be heard above normal conversation - is that the level your music was at when you were putting slabs in a skip?

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:30

@mammatino I totally agree with you. I was really responding to those with a "no music outside ever at any volume" view

MarieQueenofScots · 14/04/2020 18:32

no, what I am saying is that we should all have a bit of our own way

And you can. Listen to music in a way your neighbours can’t hear you. It’s not rocket science.

You get the music, they get the peace and quiet. See? Everyone gets their own way.

Mammatino · 14/04/2020 18:32

Ha I was agreeing with you too 😁

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:33

The neighbours would be able to hear it though as we're in a small terrace... our garden table is literally 2 metres away from theirs separated by a flimsy fence. Only slightly audible but some on this thread are outraged at any music at all!

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 18:33

@Mammatino Grin

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