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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

597 replies

BuzzingtheBee · 13/04/2020 22:27

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

OP posts:

chickenyhead · 14/04/2020 15:49

I am sure these are the same neighbours who think that they own the parking space outside their house. Entitled and unreasonable.

In the 10 years I have lived here i have lost count of the number of times that they have knocked on my door regarding cars parked in their space. I don't and never have owned a car.

As shown on this thread, people are bullies.

MarieQueenofScots · 14/04/2020 15:50

I am sure these are the same neighbours who think that they own the parking space outside their house

Ah see I really do. However I’m incredibly quiet and not the slightest bit antisocial

chickenyhead · 14/04/2020 15:51

@MarieQueenofScots

Err...OK, that is nice for you.

FlamingoAndJohn · 14/04/2020 15:52

I think there are two different kinds of people. Those who don’t do something because it would inconvenience someone, annoy them or is just plain wrong.
Then there are people who will do something they know is annoying until someone tells them to stop.

MarieQueenofScots · 14/04/2020 15:54

Err...OK, that is nice for you

Just pointing out that your assumption on types of neighbour wasn’t necessarily always accurate.

FNuts · 14/04/2020 15:55

@FlamingoAndJohn
There are those who enjoy music to a reasonable level and don't disturb others and go about their day.

Why does nobody ever see the grey area here, where it's an entirely reasonable music level? Which they can enjoy?

FlamingoAndJohn · 14/04/2020 15:57

If it’s a reasonable level then it’s fine.
In the case of the op then if the neighbour could hear it then it’s not a reasonable level.

EveryLifeHasASoundtrack · 14/04/2020 15:57

There’s some very intolerant people commenting on this thread. However the vote is currently 31% of people saying kids playing and music is not unreasonable. I’m glad I live by people who think like this.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 14/04/2020 15:59

Weve been out in the garden every day and id love to have my music on but because I hate it when other people do it I dont inflict my taste on them.

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 16:13

I find it really strange tbh at all the - no music in gardens ever! - people can't see that their own behaviour is selfish.

Around this time of year a lot of people would be looking into what festivals and outdoor bars, music events etc. They'd be going to but we've had that taken away from us.

Why should the people who want the silence (apart from the sounds of their little darlings playing) be the ones in the right. There's a happy medium no? I just think that getting annoyed at normal volume music that other people are enjoying every so often is such such a waste of energy and so against all the goodwill and "be kind" and consideration etc. We're supposed to be spreading at the moment

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 16:16

@butterfly98 how would they find a syringe?! I dont think peppermint's kids are going over there to play

Oooooooooooooooo · 14/04/2020 16:20

Around this time of year a lot of people would be looking into what festivals and outdoor bars, music events etc. They'd be going to but we've had that taken away from us
Yeah and the people like me who wouldn’t be going to festivals don’t want to listen to your shit music. Go indoors and listen to it or use earphones, I don’t want to listen to that crap

Butterfly98 · 14/04/2020 16:21

@carriebreadshaw well peppermint said she lived next door to a junkie/stoner who smokes cannabis! If he's also injecting then there is a chance he could throw the syringe over the fence in his zoned out state and not even realise or remember doing so!

Snowdown24 · 14/04/2020 16:24

People moaning about music- ridiculous. It’s day time and as long as it’s not blaring, regardless if you can hear it in your garden it’s tough. People are allowed to play music, if you don’t want to hear any music at all move to a detached house away from others....if you can’t afford that luxury then it’s tough-people can’t live their life around neighbours opinions!

starrysimon · 14/04/2020 16:25

I asked my DH to stop singing in a ridiculous high pitched voice outside earlier because how can we expect neighbours to be considerate of us if we aren’t considerate of them. He also has a habit of playing with the footballs that come over and bouncing them off the fences quite hard. It’s very irritating when anyone does it. I also asked him not to do so because then the neighbour’s children will think it’s an acceptable thing to do if they see/hear him doing it.

It’s give and take I suppose! It’s always a hard one. If my neighbours kids are loud in the garden 24/7, which they are, then I feel able to play music or watch a tv show out there freely because then we’re both making noise. Albeit not the same level as I don’t blast music

Hingeandbracket · 14/04/2020 16:27

It’s day time and as long as it’s not blaring, regardless if you can hear it in your garden it’s tough.
Why?

Why do I have to listen to your music?

BootShakin · 14/04/2020 16:33

I'm feeling religious, I'm going to the garden and play a very loud prayer song on repeat to compete with shit music next door.

Why shouldn't I? According to the cunts here it's okay to play music at a "reasonable level"

Underhisi · 14/04/2020 16:43

"people can’t live their life around neighbours opinions!"

So the music player won't mind a hour of my son kicking the party wall in the house when he gets distressed by it.

MsTSwift · 14/04/2020 16:55

So music supporters if you are playing your music and I come out with some very loud Elgar and drown you the fuck out that’s fine and you’d be cool with that?

theschoolonthehill · 14/04/2020 16:59

’people can’t live their life around neighbours opinions!"

If you are incapable of respecting others, toddle off to a remote house in the countryside.

VivaLeBeaver · 14/04/2020 17:00

Actually good neighbours do take their neighbours opinions into account.

My neighbour asked me to get rid of my cockerel as she said it was waking her up at 3am. Now I could have argued the toss that we live rurally in old cottages which have brick pig sty’s and stables in the garden. I could have argued that it wasn’t waking me up so he couldn’t be that loud.

But no, I’m nice and considerate and don’t want my neighbour upset so got rid of the cockerel.

Although seeing as they’re the same neighbours who play music outside every day I must admit I’m tempted to get 2 cockerels some days!

FNuts · 14/04/2020 17:15

Might have to dig out the old audiology books to give some reference as to what noise levels are, and some context to what is reasonable. Fucks sake, you guys are all Donald Trump.

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 17:18

Fucks sake, you guys are all Donald Trump.

WTF!

Macncheeseballs · 14/04/2020 17:22

Isn't his speciality not giving a fuck how he negatively affects others?

FlamingoAndJohn · 14/04/2020 17:24

Might have to dig out the old audiology books to give some reference as to what noise levels are, and some context to what is reasonable. Fucks sake, you guys are all Donald Trump.

Can I hear it in my garden? Yes? Then it’s too loud. No need to get the books out.

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