To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

[BuzzingtheBee]

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

is it acceptable if it's to your taste?

It's not as simple as that, though. Just because you like a particular style of music, it doesn't mean you want to hear it in your garden at that precise moment in time.

@SoupDragon

Oooooooh handbags

FNuts
put some headphones like any normal human being and get on with it.

Making your neighbours life a misery is not improving your own.

@FNuts 🤣🤣🤣

Oh my gosh, I can hear the kids two houses down on our detached street, they are playing on their trampol8ne, and I can hear them over my Spotify playlist!

The shame of the parents!

#sarcasm

@FNuts your street is detached? Detached from what?

#sarcasm

I think it's clear what sort of person does this.

“AIBU?”

Almost everyone: “yes”

“Well I’m not so there”

Fabulous.

I have become very angry at neighbours playing music in their gardens.

So bloody selfish. Why do people think everyone else wants to listen to their bloody music?

Kids can of course play, no problems there. But why do you think you can impose your music on Everyone else. Use headphones. 😡

No idea if you are being unreasonable or not.

Are you TRULY aware of how loud your children are?

Can you ask them to keep the noise down?

Are you actively encouraging noisy games, screaming, yelling etc?

My neighbours are driving me up the fucking walls at the minute, they have two toddlers, and seem to be actively encouraging outside as long as it is not raining, loud games, screaming, tins filled with pebbles etc and NO attempt whatsoever to keep noise down.

I am self isolating for 12 weeks as vulnerable... I cannot leave the house/back yard and so for me there is no escape from this at all.

Whilst I absolutely understand that children make noise and thats normal and fine, this woman has no idea how loud her 'speaking to the toddlers' voice is (we call her Loud Mummy, I can hear her now through my closed, brand new double glazed patio doors, as clear as if she were stood in my own yard) and of course now her eldest is copying her very loud voice and tone in bossing her parents and baby brother around...

It is excruciating to listen to all day, on top of the screaming, throwing things, growling, shrieking, bashing stuff etc.

If I heard her even ONCE ask the kids to keep it down, or attempt to bring noise levels down.. that would actually help... but she never does.

So maybe your kids ARE really loud and you are deaf to your own kids noise and perhaps just making the attempt to ask them to be quiet would help?

Or maybe they aren't actually that noisy at all and your neighbour is a dick. Who knows.

hesgotit

I think OP is my neighbour. That selfish, fuck everyone else as long as I am happy attitude is very familiar.

I had hoped the current crisis would make us a little bit more kind to each other. Clearly not.

@MamaBearLockdown

The thing is that the absolute intolerance is often a one way street.

It is not OK for MY children to play on the trampoline whilst supervised (i am reading a book quietly). They shout over the fence at my children aggressively.

Yet when their child was the age my son is now, they bought him a pogo stick. He used it for at least 2 hours every single day in the front garden and seriously it vibrated through the whole house.

I didn't shout at him, or them, or even resent him. He enjoyed it. I decided not to be an intolerant idiot.

But now that their kids are older teens, they think they deserve special silence to have their daily barbecues with their music on. So they bully little children. The children are then too scared to go in to their own garden.

People suck.

*I have literally never come across anyone either playing music or having a barbecue on a beach. Thankfully.

Both are incredibly anti-social*

I've been on a beach where hipster/surfer types have been having a barbecue and playing (acoustic) guitars. It was early evening, there were very few other people about, the sun was starting to go down and it was rather pleasant.

But if someone's just blasting out their idea of bangin' tunes, then I agree with you @MarieQueenofScots.

Music in your garden is selfish as fuck.

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will. Happy for our neighbours to do it too!!

^^ and that, ladies and gentlemen, is a prime example of inconsiderate and selfish behaviour!

I am fortunate to live in a neighbourhood populated by civilised and considerate people! We haven't been bothered by other people's music since the teenaged son of a neighbour a few doors down moved out in 1993.

What’s the point of having a garden,If according to so many on here if you were in reasonable no matter how you use it

I don't object to garden music if someone's having a party or something, it's an occasional event, it's not mega loud and it stops at a reasonable time. Like a near neighbour who has a party most summers, but they all go indoors at 11pm and after that it's pretty quiet.

But music in gardens generally is just ignorant and irritating. Especially so at a time when people can't just go out to get away from it and many are having to work from home. How could I have phone calls with clients, who are often distressed, discussing sensitive matters if some fuckwit was blasting out Slipknot a few feet away?

@LovePoppy you can use it. You just don’t need to inflict a backing track on your neighbours

@LovePoppy the majority are saying children no problem, music is a problem! Not don't use the garden at all!

What’s the point of having a garden,If according to so many on here if you were in reasonable no matter how you use it

the whole point is being able to use! If no one behaves like a twat, everyone can enjoy their own garden. One anti-social neighbour and everybody's life is being ruined.

In my opinion most people would prefer to live next door to a nice, happy family. Think about the other options they could find themselves living next door to such as a spaced out junkie who sleeps all day, maybe even in his garden! Well at least they'd be quiet so that's all right then is it?

Yep, your opinion. Our junkie/stoner neighbour is the best we've had! He's so quiet. He sometimes plays acoustic guitar. Sometimes he passes out in his garden. Passed out people are nice and quiet. I smell the cannabis often, but it's a small price to pay for how considerate he is. Absolutely bliss! I'd take junkies any day over inconsiderate families.

I'm enjoying my garden right now. One of the kids with me listening to music on headphones. I can hear Bird song, bees buzzing, glorious.

Ive had to listen to my neighbours all weekend.... don't mind the kids noise at all but the music? Urgh having the speaker outside is completely unreasonable, I don't wanna hear it and nor do the other 3/4 house along.

It's ok to say put your own music on but I can't cause theirs drowns mine out completely, i like to sit on my patio with the kitchen radio on quietly but then they stuck theirs on and I can't hear my own!

Completely unfair!