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To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

597 replies

BuzzingtheBee · 13/04/2020 22:27

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

OP posts:

FNuts · 14/04/2020 12:41

@MamaBearLockdown oh my god, seriously, so we must all be silent on our own property for fear of offending everyone. I've explained context. It's pound enough to hear and have a conversation in normal levels. I'm not blasting out some DMX at full blast

WaxOnFeckOff · 14/04/2020 12:43

Well, we have no idea how the complaints was made or what was said. No idea how old the DC are and how loud they were or the music was and for how long it went on for.

I think we are all allowed to have a level of enjoyment in and on our property. I would include in that children playing, soft music and the occasional party.

I'm quite noise sensitive but appreciate that people are entitled to make noise from time to time just as much as it's reasonable for me to expect to be able to enjoy quiet time.

If kids are out playing in short bursts then I have no problem with them being really loud, same goes for music, short burst of loud are fine. If it's for longer periods (say around an hour) then I'd expect the general level to be toned down a bit. If it's for say 2-4 hours constant then i think overall it needs to be quieter.

Bouncing balls or balls being kicked against a fence do my head in no matter for how long. So for me bouncing balls should have a 15 minute limit and no booting against fences at all :)

and when it's dark, take it indoors.

Pelleas · 14/04/2020 12:44

Jeez, you ever been to a gig festival, night out, club, theatre?

The difference is that people chose to go to those places. Your home is where you have no choice but to go back to, and in lockdown you can't even go out for very long.

I don't understand why people can't see that inflicting their choice of music on others is selfish. I'm not in the 'never ever' camp - occasionally having music, with polite warning to neighbours is fine - but not just expecting others to put up with it week in, week out.

As for talking and sounds of children playing - those are normal human noises which are relatively easy to tune out - very different from the repetitive beat of music. I say this as someone who is childfree so I have no agenda in defending children's noise.

Summersun77 · 14/04/2020 12:44

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Hagisonthehill · 14/04/2020 12:45

I've taken playing my music to block the neighbours.Nicer when there's non.Im happy with children playing and hearing the birds in the background.

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 14/04/2020 12:46

Kids fine, music is not. If you can hear it in your garden so can your neighbours unless you live in an isolated mansion. Totally selfish when people have no means of escape.

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 12:47

FNuts
So what? It's still anti-social, and dismissing your neighbours is still selfish. You don't get to decide what is or isn't acceptable based on your own preferences. Just be quiet.

Where does it stop? You decide what time it's ok or not to bother your neighbours too? You decide on the activities that are ok?

The context is that you are rude and selfish. If you have neighbours, behave. You must be an absolute nightmare to live next to.

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 12:49

We’re just not intolerant wankers like you clearly are and don’t mind a bit of everyday noise

until someone like you moves next door, and you realise that other people noise is not as fun as you thought when it's theirs. Easy to call others intolerant wankers when you are the disturbance, you'll change your tune when you become the victim.

MarieQueenofScots · 14/04/2020 12:50

We’re just not intolerant wankers like you clearly are and don’t mind a bit of everyday noise

You’re just getting classier and classier.

No wonder you fit in so well.....

Summersun77 · 14/04/2020 12:52

“Victim” Hahahaha get a grip. My neighbours one side do occasionally have the radio in the garden. It’s fine and doesn’t bother me. My neighbour the other side doesn’t, but she does have two dogs which bark sometimes. I don’t complain because a bit of noise is expected. She’s elderly and they keep her company. My husband mows her lawn for her. We all get on great. Live and let live.

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 12:53

Anyone else loving the maturity of @Summersun77 ? Two brilliant additions to the thread
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@Aesopfable no it isn’t and you know full well it’s not. I was asking @MaccaPacca81 anyway not you.

@hesgotit shut up*

You can tell the kids are getting extra screen time!

Summersun77 · 14/04/2020 12:55

glad you’re enjoying my posts @hesgotit off out to enjoy my garden now. Might even put the radio on.

IdleLiz · 14/04/2020 12:56

Our neighbours kids are out from 8am every day screeching non stop. (Not playing and laughing).

I don't know why their mum doesn't tell them off. Maybe she just zones out.

It goes right through us. It's like a screaming competition. No words just screaming at the top of their lungs.
I assume it's some sort of game.

Give me shite music over that anyday.

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 12:57

@Summersun77 be careful when you're on the swing, don't go too high. Also play nicely with your big brother and make sure you share nicely!

Davespecifico · 14/04/2020 13:00

I think the neighbours may have complained because the music was loud. I get the impression from the OP’s response to her question here, that she probably wouldn’t really care whether what she was playing or its volume irritated the neighbours.

Summersun77 · 14/04/2020 13:00

Not going on the swings, going the turn the music really loud and scream to annoy the neighbours

FNuts · 14/04/2020 13:03

Incidentally I'm going back outside in an hour to finish more garden jobs, is it ok if I go outside? Cani put some music on to motivate? How about some 60s tunes? Would that be acceptable? Is it just that 'the music isn't my taste therefore you must not have any' or is it acceptable if it's to your taste?

FNuts · 14/04/2020 13:04

The world would be great if it wasn't for people fudging it up

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 13:05

@Summersun77

Not going on the swings, going the turn the music really loud and scream to annoy the neighbours

Enjoy, you don't live next to me so not sure why I would give a damn? But that's a superb attitude. You think you're getting back at MN by playing loud music in your garden.... absolutely hilarious!

Enjoy yourself 🎵 🎶

dontdisturbmenow · 14/04/2020 13:06

My neighbour the other side doesn’t, but she does have two dogs which bark sometimes

OP said her kids were in and out from 11 to 7pm each time it is nice.

Are you saying that you'd be happy with your neighbour's dog barking on and off for 8 hours every time it's nice outside and you want to enjoy your garden.

I agree with the poster who says that those people making noise don't get it because they have neighbours who are considerate. If they had neighbours just like them, who don't care and just want to focus on their own enjoyment, they would be the fist to post here posting about their F** neighbours.

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 14/04/2020 13:07

Children no problem, music NO

HarrySnotter · 14/04/2020 13:07

@Butterfly98 I'd be embarrassed to admit on a public forum that I didn't care about anyone else but myself but hey ho.

Jeez, you ever been to a gig festival, night out, club, theatre?

Wait .... You think that's the same thing? 🤣🤣🤣 This thread just gets better.

MsTSwift · 14/04/2020 13:07

I was tight lipped when I could hear shit music in our garden as we live in a thoughtful Lovely little street where no one would do that then realised it was my own darling 13 year old 🙄

SoupDragon · 14/04/2020 13:07

The world would be great if it wasn't for people fudging it up

And that includes you.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 14/04/2020 13:09

The only, ONLY exception for people playing music in their garden are my neighbours, who since lockdown started have been playing 'You'll never walk alone' every day at midday. That's quite lovely. But that's it. It's over in three minutes, and I see a lot of other neighbours come out to listen to it.

Anything else is antisocial, selfish, and will not help any of this get through this.

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