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To be annoyed about my neighbours complaining

597 replies

BuzzingtheBee · 13/04/2020 22:27

About my children playing in the garden? And us playing music over the bank holiday weekend (not loud)? The children only play out when its nice weather so not that much, I’m happy they are outside and not stucknto ipads etc!

OP posts:
LucilleBluth · 14/04/2020 09:47

Nothing winds me up like music in neighbouring gardens. We have a detached house on a quiet estate, I bought the bloody house for that reason. So no, I don't want to hear Keane, KEANE!!!! blaring from the twats over the back. They were also burning something toxic last week.

Their kids are annoying but they're kids and I have three older ones of my own who I'm sure we're annoying at that age too...but I'm sure I used to sush mine when they were being loud grating little trolls. Btw I do think, as a pp said that as your DCs get older you become less tolerant of little kids (and I work with kids). I just want a lovely quiet garden where I can listen to the birds.

So turn your music off op.

Notonthestairs · 14/04/2020 09:51

I find this such a weird reaction to a complaint - why wouldn't you want to get along? Turning your music down is no big deal (wear headphones if you like it louder) and remind your kids to quieten down a bit?
You will continue to live alongside these people for the foreseeable (long term) future why go looking for conflict?
Are you looking for it to escalate? How is that in your interest?

Or do you enjoy the drama?

HarrySnotter · 14/04/2020 09:53

@BuzzingtheBee Why do you need to have music in your garden unless it's a party or similar? You can listen to it inside or outside with earphones if you prefer to be outside. I'm not sure why you think your neighbours should be listening to your music?

carriebreadshaw · 14/04/2020 09:54

@mamabear so it's okay to annoy "morons" with deliberately noisy garden work at what you know is an early time of day... but someone playing low volume music once a month or so whilst chatting to their family in the garden is not okay? Right then.

PickleSarnie · 14/04/2020 10:01

the children have had so much taken away from them

Yes, but the entire country has had the ability to take themselves away from your/their own selfish neighbours music taken away from them.

That’s what makes having a neighbour play music outside even worse at the moment - we have no choice but to stay put and endure it.

sunshineanddaffodils · 14/04/2020 10:04

Music YABVU

ilovesushi · 14/04/2020 10:09

Kids playing - fine.
Music - no way

Quarantimespringclean · 14/04/2020 10:13

Imposing your music on other people isn’t ok. We only have one neighbour and I don’t much like them but I still wear headphones when listening to music outdoors. It isn’t reasonable to foist my musical choices onto them.

AmIAStone · 14/04/2020 10:16

Children playing, absolutely fine.
Music in the garden selfish as fuck. You realise that it is as exactly as loud in their garden as in yours?

OhClover · 14/04/2020 10:19

You are disgracefully selfish OP. You don’t care the impact your noise has an others.

Of course kids playing is fine but I am astounded anyone thinks playing music in a garden is generally fine. Yes for a party once in a while, but on a sunny bank holiday weekend in lockdown? Absolute cunty behaviour. You can enjoy your garden with headphones or without music. Others can’t enjoy their garden with your music, and nor are they allowed to escape to somewhere else. Shameful.

hesgotit · 14/04/2020 10:21

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will. Happy for our neighbours to do it too!!

OP AIBU

MN YES

OP I don't care and I'm going to carry on! I didn't come on here asking for opinions (well you did actually), I've come on for validation that I'm right and I'm mightily pissed off the majority don't agree!

Please remember that OPs children have lost far more, having to deal with far more and are far more important than anyone else and their thoughts and feelings.

Movinghouseatlast · 14/04/2020 10:21

Playing music that other people can hear without any choice in the matter is selfish. It is also cruel, as it has a massive impact on how people can enjoy their own time.

Weirdwonders · 14/04/2020 10:21

Your neighbours don’t want to hear your music, ever. In fact if my neighbours start their shite up again today I’m kicking off.

HMSSophie · 14/04/2020 10:22

Hate music outside - gardens, parks, fucking cars. I have no idea why anyone can think it's anything other than selfish and aggressive to impose themselves on others in this way.

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 10:23

And who cares about neighbours children, who have had "so much taken away from them too" but don't count so have to put up with your noise.

Not every child enjoys screaming and shouting, but hey ho, who cares about them, they are not yours.

Mycatismadeofstringcheese · 14/04/2020 10:44

Are you my neighbour? If so, please stop playing your shitty music so loud. I know you like it, but it sets my teeth on edge.
If I can hear every word from two doors down as it’s too loud.

I did an experiment and put some on some music playing from my phone at half volume. Sitting next to it I could hear it clearly. Several feet away I could barely hear it. A bit further I couldn’t hear it at all, therefor me the neighbours wouldn’t have been able to either.

If you absolutely must have music, have it playing very quietly. A phone on half volume. You still get to enjoy it but nobody else is subjected to it.

If your kids can’t hear the quieter music because they are shrieking too loudly then either they don’t need it on in the first place, or they can learn to play outside with their “indoor voices”.

Vinipote · 14/04/2020 10:56

I don't mind music at a reasonable volume. Screechy kid on constant high volume on the other hand 😬

bluebeck · 14/04/2020 11:03

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will.

Why did you post then if you are intent on being so utterly selfish?

Jengnr · 14/04/2020 11:08

Haha! Mumsnet is so funny. There’s nothing wrong with music outside as long as it’s a reasonable level (even if it’s shite).

If your music was a normal level you’re fine. If it was blasting out then turn it down. Job done.

Penelopelouise91 · 14/04/2020 11:08

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will!

Oh do fuck off you selfish, arrogant, ignorant woman.
Why even post if you're convinced you’re in the right?
Thank fuck you’re not my neighbour

SpiritEssence · 14/04/2020 11:12

Yes let them play in the garden but not with music playing. Loud or not it is annoying

TheWordmeister · 14/04/2020 11:16

The children have had so much taken away from them, Im not going to stop them enjoying music in the garden! And if I want to play music there I will!

People like this just sicken me. I feel very sorry for the neighbours of such inconsiderate twats.

daisypond · 14/04/2020 11:18

Haha! Mumsnet is so funny. There’s nothing wrong with music outside as long as it’s a reasonable level (even if it’s shite).
And so you’re one of the inconsiderate and selfish troublemakers. And it’s not funny.

Macncheeseballs · 14/04/2020 11:18

Jengr - I dont want to hear anyone elses music at any level, 'reasonable level' or not, what ever that means

MamaBearLockdown · 14/04/2020 11:22

Jengnr
You are posting on MN, do you think YOU are MN? Hmm

If neighbours can hear your music, it's too loud. Simple.