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AIBU?

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To not have a takeaway, roast dinner or dry up every week?

329 replies

Peanutbutterismyjam · 11/04/2020 11:39

I was talking to a good friend yesterday about Easter, especially with the current situation. She mentioned that she's gutted she can't have her usual lamb roast dinner this Easter. I said we had a dinner last weekend so doubt we'd have one for Easter. Conversation then extended into roast dinners every week come hell or high water, weekend takeaways and fry ups, etc.

She has a takeaway every Friday, cooked breakfast every Saturday and a roast dinner every single Sunday, even during a heatwave. Her family have been this way since she moved in with her partner. They now have two boys 9 and 7. Neither particularly enjoy a dinner but will eat meat and Yorkshires with gravy. They can afford a takeaway most weeks but aren't loaded. It works for them.

We, however, rarely eat these things. I don't enjoy greasy food first thing in the morning, it repeats on me. I will have eggs on toast occasionally. Takeaways are for days like Mother's/Father's Day, rare night off, celebrations. I like a dinner but not every week. I find it a huge faff, a good couple hours of cooking, lots of washing up, and all eaten in no time at all. I'd honestly rather have pasta for a quick/easy/lazy meal. To add, my children are still small. My 3 year old has a restricted diet (ASD) and doesn't touch meat or veg, the baby will. Neither like pancakes, despite a few attempts, I won't give them takeaways yet due to salt content. They will however, happily wolf down homemade pizzas, and peanut butter on toast instead of a fry up.

Light-hearted conversation but she was fascinated with the that we won't be having a roast dinner tomorrow. We are having roast chicken, homemade flatbreads, tzatziki, and, Greek salad with feta.

So, AIBU to not have takeaway, cooked breakfast or a roast dinner every week? Do any of you? Just curious.

OP posts:
Notso · 11/04/2020 14:18

It blew MIL's mind on Mother's Day when she found out we were having a take away curry rather than a roast.

I hate cooking a roast on a Sunday though. For me they are for a weekday when I can prepare and cook the majority of it uninterrupted.
I love a bacon sandwich or bacon hash browns and beans.
We've had a take away every week since the restrictions, it's wearing thin for me tbh.

Leflic · 11/04/2020 14:21

I think roast dinners, takeaways and fry ups are all delicious. It makes sense to have on them on the days you have tine to enjoy them .Thats going to be the weekend for a lot of people.

However I can’t afford takeaways. and whilst I usually have bacon and eggs in, sausages would be “ a meal” not to be wasted as part of a meal. Mushroom, hash browns, black pudding, etc are additional expense.
So I don’t but that’s because I’m poor. ISO woukd given more money.

PineappleDanish · 11/04/2020 14:21

Eat what you like.

Nobody cares whether you're having roast lamb or flatbreads.

SunshineCake · 11/04/2020 14:22

I do not see the point of this thread at all Confused.

SueEllenMishke · 11/04/2020 14:23

Yep we have take away at least once a week and Sunday roast every week. It's my favourite meal of the week and i enjoy cooking it.
I don't judge others for not doing it though so each to their own. 🤷

thebridgelooksbroken · 11/04/2020 14:25

@Rose789

frozen roast potato and parsnip and Yorkshire’s ready made mash and pre cut veg. Roast in the bag chicken.

That just sounds horrible. All of that processed food. So bad for you.

Quarantimespringclean · 11/04/2020 14:28

A roast chicken is by definition a roast dinner although your choice of side dishes are not traditional British choices. The feta cheese is very high in sodium so might not be suitable for children.

A well cooked English/Irish breakfast will not be greasy. If it is repeating on you it was probably poorly cooked. It might also contain beans for fibre, plus tomatoes and mushrooms for more fibre, vitamins and minerals. In many ways it is more nutritious than (equally delicious) peanut butter and toast. Peanut butter btw is about 50% fat so actually more greasy than bacon or sausage.

You come across as being pretty complacent about the superiority of your dietary choices.

OscarWildesCat · 11/04/2020 14:31

Strange post, you so sound a bit like you think you are superior?. Eat what you like, let her do the same - easy.

CottonHeadedNinyMuggins · 11/04/2020 14:34

We very rarely have roast dinners, Christmas Day, New Years Day, Easter Sunday and say... 4/5 in between. Despite this Christmas dinner is my absolute favourite meal (aka posh roast) but wouldn't be half as special if we had it more often.

We do have takeaways quite often (roughly 2 a month) but that's because I'm a carer and by the end of the week I'm knackered!

We have a curry most Saturday nights unless it's June-September (until the heat goes) be it takeaway, home made or a shop one reheated (m and s butter chicken is particularly lovely).

People are very weirdly angry for no reason - quarantine fever?

Seetheprettysnowdrops · 11/04/2020 14:39

YABU

or maybe YANBU

Who gives a fuck

Rose789 · 11/04/2020 14:43

@thebridgelooksbroken
That’s ok you’re not invited anyway Grin

Sparklesocks · 11/04/2020 14:50

@thebridgelooksbroken maybe don’t worry so much about what other people are eating and worry about your own family? Nobody likes the food police 👮‍♀️

mrsbyers · 11/04/2020 14:51

She sounds like an absolute bitch - is that what you want us to say ?

MitziK · 11/04/2020 14:51

A Roast Dinner, whether with traditional English accompaniments or not, happens here almost every Sunday without fail.

I suspect it's against the law back on Dartmoor.

Fluffybutter · 11/04/2020 14:53

Why does what someone else eat baffle you or her?
Who cares ?
We always have a takeaway on a fri , we look forward to eat .
Fry ups ? Not so much and if we do we usually have it for dinner as I can’t eat that much in the mornings and roasts we have when we feel like it and sometimes even mid week gasp
Have a leg of lamb for tomorrow 👍🏻

Fluffybutter · 11/04/2020 14:54

*to it ! Lol what an appropriate autocorrect

LoveIsLovely · 11/04/2020 15:01

Not in the UK but if I was, I'd have a roast dinner and a fry up every weekend.

Getting a takeout probably twice a month.

It's whatever really, I don't find roast dinners particularly greasy and it's easy enough to just put all the vegetables and stuff in a pan and roast it all together.

ohtheholidays · 11/04/2020 15:06

Of course YANBU and your dinner sounds lovely,we are having a 3 course meal tomorrow and I'll be cooking lamb,I think we must be extremely lucky were we live because we've managed to get everything we need so far food wise,we did struggle at the begining for toilet roll and pasta but apart from that we've managed to get nearly everything we wanted.

Like you we treat take aways as a treat but I do like a fry up but I couldn't have it just for the sake of having it and as the weather starts getting nicer a fair few of our roast dinners will be swapped out for something lighter.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/04/2020 15:09

Nobody ever needs a fry-up or roast dinner. Grossly unhealthy and self- indulgent. A glass of water, some raw organic kale and half a tablespoon of quinoa is enough for anybody.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 11/04/2020 15:10

frozen roast potato and parsnip and Yorkshire’s ready made mash and pre cut veg. Roast in the bag chicken.

That just sounds horrible. All of that processed food. So bad for you.

How the hell is frozen veg and a whole chicken "processed"? It's hardly a microwave kebab!

If I make food and freeze it for another day, does that make it processed too?

Oly4 · 11/04/2020 15:12

What is the point of this thread? Don’t people just eat what they want?

Perfectstorm12 · 11/04/2020 15:13

Oh I know someone like you...Huh. What's it like being up there looking down on the rest of us?

Useryokyesno · 11/04/2020 15:14

I'm embarrassed at this stealth brag. Do what you want and let her do what she wants.

coffeeandcreamer · 11/04/2020 15:24

Hoooooomemade flatbreads indeed.

As an aside, I made my own tzatziki yesterday, left it in fridge overnight for the flavours to develop. Used too much garlic, now am sad.

LaMarschallin · 11/04/2020 15:32

I'm another one who dislikes the phrase "it repeats on me".

I don't care if it makes you burp, fart like a dray horse, have rampant diarrhoea or gives you constipation to the point where your eyes cross as you strain...

Just don't eat it if it affects your digestion.
And tell people - if they're rude enough to ask - that it doesn't suit you.

Or pretend an "intolerance" to something.
I'm certainly intolerant to hearing about someone's likelihood of belching.