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To think that people who end messages with ‘stay safe’

301 replies

Whatisthepoint2020 · 11/04/2020 06:34

Are twats?

Maybe it’s because DP is a key worker so doesn’t have the option to ‘stay safe’ but it gives me the rage.

OP posts:
Taddda · 11/04/2020 15:32

Memo to self: end all communications with 'Stay unsafe.'

I like it....in the same as 'break a leg'...far better...!

(Give the op a break, the whole thread is hardly worthy of the blatant bully tactics and outrage displayed...pick your battles people!)

Taddda · 11/04/2020 15:35

@SlipSlidin right back atcha twatface 🤪

I'll take that Wink !

VenusTiger · 11/04/2020 15:39

"To think that" at the start of a sentence annoys me. "Stay safe" is simple and non-offensive.

beautifulstranger101 · 11/04/2020 15:41

And as I’ve said above I have no issue with being called a twat or being told I’m unreasonable

Good! Because you are acting like a twat and are being unreasonable. Maybe take up a more deserving cause such as the lack of PPE or DV victims being abused eh?- far more worthy of your time and vitriol than people signing off with stay safe.

chocolicious · 11/04/2020 15:43

I am part of a group chat consisting of current and retired NHS workers.
Those of us still working are frontline NHS.
We all end posts to the group with "stay safe" and we really mean it. We want everyone to come through this .

Zantedeschia · 11/04/2020 15:48

I say it to colleagues are isolating.

Couldn't bring myself to use it for front line colleagues. "Go out and face the public. Oh, and stay safe." Oxymoron?

I can see where you are coming from.

(Haven't rtft)

biscuitsanddiddums · 11/04/2020 15:53

Um. I use it at the end of work emails at the moment. I’m actively emailing people across the globe who are devastated that I’m emailing them to cancel. (International students). The formal bit of the email is the notification that the organisation is fucked due to Covid and they can’t come. I’m genuinely hoping that they stay safe. Some of them are in more dire straits than we are.
I also used the phrase replying to a friend whose dh just tested positive. I wish them both nothing but safety. Saying ‘don’t die’ would be a bit weird, wouldn’t it? I’m wishing them safety and good health above all else...

I don’t clap though Grin

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 11/04/2020 15:59

I think people should be using the words they actually mean and usually say and not some new phrase that on trend at the moment.

It's not a new phrase. I've used it before – and had it said to me — predominantly when it kicks off at a football match. 'Stay safe', meaning hope you don't get caught up in the mindless madness that's about to hit.

DollyDoneMore · 11/04/2020 16:04

"To think that" at the start of a sentence annoys me.

The implication is that “Am I being unreasonable” precedes it.

funnylittlefloozie · 11/04/2020 16:07

DP and i are both key workers. We work in environments that were physically dangerous even before COVID-19. We always tell each other to be safe, and i really couldnt care less if someone hiding away safely at home thinks i'm a twat for saying it!

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter · 11/04/2020 17:47

I'm a key worker and I say it and I like people saying to me, I find it reassuring so yes, YOU are the twat here. I suggest you piss right off with your stupid, insignificant whinge and focus on something thats actually important right now.

MintyCedric · 11/04/2020 17:50

I can understand why it would wind you up.

I'm luckily not in that position at the moment (school admin so working from home, although that could change), but it does seem like a strange turn of phrase to me.

I'm signing off or starting with 'hope you're well' and 'take care' but I'm sure some people might have their issues with those.

mbosnz · 11/04/2020 17:58

It's all very subjective. I can understand why it could piss you off.

It's something I use, actually mine, at the moment, is 'stay safe, sane, and well', which I think covers all the bases. It's said with the best possible intent, with full appreciation of the risks so many people are taking, and the fact that they are knowingly placing themselves at risk for the good of others, and I hope so much, for each and everyone of them, that no harm comes to them.

I think if you can ascribe the best possible motive to such sayings, trite as they might seem, in the current climate, that would most likely be the most accurate as to their intent.

Taddda · 11/04/2020 18:38

I can understand why it would wind you up.
I'm luckily not in that position at the moment (school admin so working from home, although that could change), but it does seem like a strange turn of phrase to me.
I'm signing off or starting with 'hope you're well' and 'take care' but I'm sure some people might have their issues with those

I'm with you on this - I also use the same 'hope you are well' (I usually wouldn't use this, but do now as it's genuine an relevant), always tend to end with a 'take care'.

I do understand the usage of 'stay safe' to a frontline worker but I'm sure that's also paramount in their thinking and as I'm someone who's currently (as @funnylittlefloozie put it) 'hiding away safely in their home' Confused I wouldn't want to sound condescending....

But that's me....you do you...

justanotherneighinparadise · 11/04/2020 19:48

I have absolutely no problem with ‘hope you are well’ and ‘take care’. Both of those are non demanding and polite.

tallah · 11/04/2020 19:50

I just want want people to be safe. So yeah I'm a twat. But you're a dick!

JRUIN · 11/04/2020 20:24

I think you are the twat for calling people who are just trying to be nice "twats."

HarrySnotter · 12/04/2020 06:29

I have absolutely no problem with ‘hope you are well’ and ‘take care’. Both of those are non demanding and polite.

Non-demanding? I received a text from MIL yesterday that ended with 'stay safe'. When I read it I didn't at any point think 'How fucking dare she demand that we all stay safe. How very rude'.

This thread is literally full of people desperate to be offended or upset by someone/thing. It would be funny if it weren't for the thought of so many trying to be kind to those people with a simple, well intentioned sign off at the end of a communication being thought of as twats, rather than their words being considered in the way they are obviously intended.

stairway · 12/04/2020 07:02

If Matt Hancock told NHS workers ‘ to stay safe’ he’d definitely be a twat. You do wonder how you stay safe in a hospital environment with rationed PPE.

Taddda · 12/04/2020 09:43

Non-demanding? I received a text from MIL yesterday that ended with 'stay safe'. When I read it I didn't at any point think 'How fucking dare shedemandthat we all stay safe. How very rude'.

I don't think it's 'rude', especially coming from MIL, unless you've got some serious underlying issues!?

EmeraldShamrock · 12/04/2020 10:11

I have absolutely no problem with ‘hope you are well’ and ‘take care’. Both of those are non demanding and polite
Talk about overthinking.
It must be a joy having a conversation on a minefield. Poor MIL's. Grin

kennypppppppp · 12/04/2020 10:56

i get a bit larry david and wish the conversation would end sooner than it's appearing.

op - (i always think that means ocean pacific) - i don't think you're unreasonable at all and to me it's like if someone didn't tell me to stay safe then i wouldn't? i find it to be stating the bloody obvious.

i also dislike take care and see you later. when someone says see you later i'm tempted to ask "let me know when and where"

HarrySnotter · 12/04/2020 11:13

@Taddda that was the point of my post. I was referring to someone else's comments.

BubblyBarbara · 12/04/2020 11:22

people should be using the words they actually mean and usually say and not some new phrase that on trend at the moment.

Okay but isn’t it a bit cumbersome for me to end my emails with:

“Till next time, good luck but I’m more concerned about where I’m going to get my next meal from to give a xxxx about you at all and I won’t be thinking about you at all until you call or email me next,

  • Barbara”
Taddda · 12/04/2020 11:34

that was the point of my post. I was referring to someone else's comments.

I agree with the other persons comments to which you were referring...Smile