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To think that people who end messages with ‘stay safe’

301 replies

Whatisthepoint2020 · 11/04/2020 06:34

Are twats?

Maybe it’s because DP is a key worker so doesn’t have the option to ‘stay safe’ but it gives me the rage.

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cushioncovers · 11/04/2020 10:16

Maybe we should add 'hun' on the end of stay safe just so the twattery is complete. Wink

EmeraldShamrock · 11/04/2020 10:16

I'm a twat too. I only add the stay safe since the pandemic. I genuinely want people to stay safe not become infected and smother from coronavirus.

MamaBearLockdown · 11/04/2020 10:17

People wish for you to stay safe, and they are twats? Hmm

Some people can still take offence of anything and everything.

EmeraldShamrock · 11/04/2020 10:18

Worse my boss sent an email to say he hopes everyone has a great bank holiday weekend. Oh yes it is fucking fab.

cheeseandpineapple · 11/04/2020 10:19

Stay safe is short hand for conveying empathy and solidarity. Can understand if someone is using it but is still doing risky things it would be annoying and not in the spirit of what’s intended.

Tell them that you’ll only be able to “stay safe” if people like them respect the isolation rules...

StCharlotte · 11/04/2020 10:20

YABU

Spidey66 · 11/04/2020 10:20

It's only like saying "take care".

Some people will get offended about anything.

lotusbell · 11/04/2020 10:21

To be honest, it's those with attitudes like yours that are more annoying - "DP is a key worker so doesn't have the option to 'stay safe'."
Same as those who change their Facebook profile picture to say something like 'I can't stay safe, I'm a key worker'.
We get it. Not all of us can have key worker jobs, stop belittling those of us who are at home and not in a key role. Everyone is doing their best and while NHS staff are obviously at the forefront of all this and rightly so, deserve huge recognition, there are hundreds of others working in key roles that do it without a song and a dance.

Tajiri · 11/04/2020 10:24

I'm frontline NHS and have used this to my colleagues.

I am scared for them. Absolutely petrified. Sad

I have seen first hand what this virus does to people and it is heartbreaking. I don't want to nurse anymore colleagues and I certainly don't want any of them to die without their loved ones with them.

TARSCOUT · 11/04/2020 10:26

Hmmm I didn't do the whole #bekind thing as I felt it was just another fad.I am however ending emails with stay safe because I genuinely do mean it. Also clapped.once then didn't do it again. I have been a 'customer' of the NHS for years so have always supported them. I do make a point of thanking shop workers because I see them face to face.

Nomorepies · 11/04/2020 10:28

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ on the poster's request.

SlipSlidin · 11/04/2020 10:29

The op has gone very quiet, I’m sincerely hoping she’s taken on board what an utterly miserable and pointless gripe this is.

Paddington68 · 11/04/2020 10:30

If they ended them, 'hope you die a slow and painful death of Covid' that wouldn't be nice.

Gigabitten · 11/04/2020 10:31

I have been doing this but only in emails to people who I know have to go to work, so are exposed more than most of us.

If some want to take offence to it and think I'm a twat, then that says more about them really. I don't give a monkeys either way. My intentions are good.

Whywhywhynow · 11/04/2020 10:33

No it isn’t a new phrase bandwagon.
I genuinely want people to stay safe. I’m not a twat. What you’ve said is way more offensive than ‘stay safe’.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 11/04/2020 10:34

Wouldn't that apply to all sort of greetings and wishes and announcements?

Happy Birthday
Have a nice day
Have a safe journey
Good Morning
I am pregnant
God bless

So should we stop everything like that because somewhere someone in some circumstances might feel insulted, triggerd, feel excluded, has low self esteem, judge the speaker etc.
(reminds me of a low level Fahrenheit 541 situation )

beautifulstranger101 · 11/04/2020 10:35

No- they arent twats. WTF else should they say then? FFS- its a nice thing to say, but if you want to get worked up about people's good intentions then crack on. I'm glad i'm not your friend. Geez.

bengalcat · 11/04/2020 10:36

It drives me round the bend too as a keyworker but I just smile and say thanks - after all they mean well .

Herecomethedaffodils · 11/04/2020 10:38

Ha I have literally just sent a message in a friends Whattsap group and ended it with Keep Safe. I write it because I mean it. They're my friends and I want them to be safe and well. If that makes me a twat, in your eyes, then I'm a twat. But I can deal with that. It's nice to be nice, so OP, just in case you ever come back to this post, Stay Safe 😊

Hoarder123 · 11/04/2020 10:38

I am in complete lockdown (in week 4) because my husband is on the shielded persons list. My daughter is on the shielded persons list, as are several of my friends.

If my husband or one of these friends catch the Coronavirus, they will die! They have been told that they almost certainly will not be ventilated and have been asked to have a DNAR put on their medical records.

I want my dh and df, as well as everyone else who gets the Coronavirus, to stay safe and survive this Pandemic, but you think anyone who says ’stay safe’ to these people are twats!

I do say “stay safe” to my friends and family, because I really mean it. You think I am a TWAT! I know which one of us is a TWAT, and it isn’t me!

MadameMeursault · 11/04/2020 10:39

I say “stay well” is that ok?

ThinkPink71 · 11/04/2020 10:43

I think its hilarious....every email i receive 'stay safe' zzzzzzzzzz

WorraLiberty · 11/04/2020 10:43

I say “stay well” is that ok?

No, because the OP's DP is a keyworker and doesn't have the option to "stay well"...

zigaziga · 11/04/2020 10:45

I say thing like “hope you’re keeping well during this difficult time” which I view in much the same way as “stay safe” - it’s just a way of acknowledging that the world is a bit weird and scary at the moment simply because sending an email without acknowledging that could be a bit rude.

DH is a key worker, kind of ... in the sense that he still has to do his job coming into contact with lots of people in a very public place. I don’t consider him running some kind of gauntlet every day or facing a firing squad. We’re both very, very glad he’s still out and about each day.

Aragog · 11/04/2020 10:46

I just think people are saying it because it’s the ‘in’ thing to say & they don’t mean it

But most people DO mean it.

And 'stay safe' is more shorthand for "I hope you and your family are able to keep/stay safe this week or until we speak to you again" in my experience.

And for many that sign off has a bit more meaning right now than 'best wishes' or 'kind regards' 'see you soon'

FWIW I don't know anyone who used 'be kind' as a sign off at all.

How may people do your really know who don't hope that their friends, family or colleagues son't 'stay safe' during this period?!? That would be far more odd!