Do you kiss your kids on the lips

[louise5754]

Mine are 8 and 10.

Myself, DH, My Mum and Step Dad Sister and Brother in Law kiss my kids on the lips.

My brother and sister in law prefer to kiss them on the cheek.

They prefer not to kiss DH family at all so don't.

If they don't feel like giving family a kiss they won't. It's just something they have always done.

My mum sometimes kisses me on the lips and I kissed my grandparents on the lips until they passed away.

My friend has said she's never kissed her boys on the lips.

Mine are girls not that it makes a difference.

But for extra clarity, my toddler lives giving kisses on the lips. Good enough for me.

Loves

Co sleeping doesn't involve contact with erogenous zones between adults and children ilikebigbuts, so is not comparable.

Ive always kissed my sons on the lips and have still managed to raise them to be be aware of their own boundaries and keep themselves safe.I've also made sure to raise them to respect other people's boundaries.

A peck on the lips in no way has blurred their boundaries and put them at risk.

I'm glad I don’t have the sort of mind that makes an innocent expression of affection into something perverted.

Hmm, let me trawl the internet for a peer reviewed study that may or may not exist because an expert's opinion is not good enough for LaurieMarlow? I think I've wasted enough time on you frankly.

I think I've wasted enough time on you frankly.

So there we have it. Take care

Have you heard of Deflection, UserDeleted?

Sleep, living up to your username, go have a nap, you'll feel better. You'll still be wrong though.

I'll go be wrong with the quoted expert shall I UserDeleted?

So, your actions did no damage, but what were the positives to kissing your sons on the lips? Did they like it? Why don't you ask them?

Its just your opinion and you've backed it up with the opinion of one person. I could do the same. Utterly pointless.

The positives are the same as all kisses I give them - showing affection. And because its not pervy or gross or inappropriate they see it in the way it was delivered. And they have delivered at least 50% of lip kisses at their instigation. They have always liked kisses in any way offered- lips, cheeks, head, raspberries on tummy when small. My oldest prefers cheek kisses now so I follow his wishes. I follow their boundaries as I'm not an abuser, I'm not ignoring their boundaries, I'm not doing something they have ever not liked.

Lip kisses are a dry peck. Its the exact same peck that a cheek kiss aimed 1 inch away is. If you find that wrong then you are in fact wrong yourself.

No, I don’t agree with lip kissing anyone except my husband! If dc initiate it then yes I’d give a peck on lips.

This is what I am failing to understand UserDeleted. If you view cheek kissing as the same, why persevere with the lip kissing? I'm not going to list the cons but some are quite severe so why continue? It makes no sense to me.

I didnt know this was a thing until MN. I kiss my 75 year old mum on the lips, and I kissed my dad on the lips until the day he died.

No, there are no cons in my home. You’re opinion on cons is just that.
Your failure to understand is bewildering. People are different and do some things differently to you. A peck on the lips is as natural in my (and many other) families as a hug. I wouldn't change the way I hug if some people were all ewww about hugs and claimed by hugging my child I was leaving them open to sexual abuse. I just leave people to live with their own eww opinions and get on with my life and showing affection in totally appropriate, non-abusive, liked by my child ways.

Thymelord it really is only a thing on here! In real life people just wouldn't care, I've never known anyone to make a big deal out of it, or even comment at all.
I often kiss ds goodbye on the lips in the morning when I drop him at school, lots of other parents do the same.

Not so UserDeleted, babies can be killed by contracting herpes and other viruses spread by saliva. Coronavirus too. It's fact, not opinion.

Me and DH both kiss DS (age 2) on the lips! He also showers his Grandparents, aunts, cousins, and nursery Keyworker with kisses when he says goodbye to them. He's a happy little boy who's loved by so many caring adults in his life. All of my friends also kiss their small children on the lips.
I think it's each to their own but do worry about people reference to it as "creepy" or inferring it's not natural to kiss your children on the lips. Most people can tell the difference between a sexual/intimate kiss and one that's platonic and child friendly. They're not even comparable. Sounds like the sort of stupid thing someone would say about breastfeeding a toddler.

So don’t kiss a baby when you’ve a cold sore. Obviously. Pretty easy to deal with that one.

As for CV, bit of barrel scraping there, but given the rate of infection, if the child’s going to get it, they’re going to get it whether or not you kiss them on the lips.

Interesting that you mention barrel-scraping and then write this regarding Coronavirus LaurieMarlow...
"given the rate of infection, if the child’s going to get it, they’re going to get it whether or not you kiss them on the lips."

And you have the cheek to call me "tragic"! Oh the irony!

Well they are. 🤷‍♀️

I haven’t noticed any official advice telling people not to kiss their partners, have you?

Yes, 2 young boys, every day.

You know what, no-one's that stupid LaurieMarlow.

Well played. You got me.

Yes, 2 young boys, every day.

I think it's very disturbing that so many people think giving your kids a peck on the lips is sexual. My youngest 8 has this thing where she put her arms around you so tight and kisses you really hard until you try to get away. She thinks it's funny. She loves kisses. DD10 just kisses at night and when she's goes to school. Sometimes during the day but if she didn't want too she wouldn't.

I think it's just different family dynamics most of the time. Normal in our family and circle for young kids to kiss parents/each other on lips. They all grow out of it in their own time. It doesn't feel right to me personally to dissuade my child from showing affection in that way or make it into something sinister (but I accept we are not a family with any history of child abuse, thankfully) and my DD finds lip kissing one of the funniest things around at the moment, so we will let her guide us and follow her lead on this one!