AIBU to think if you're healthy you should give up your delivery slots

[Sarah510]

Just thinking it's not really fair if you're healthy, and have a car, to use delivery slots from the supermarket. If you're healthy I think you should just go to the shop… It was different when we were all working and had no time etc etc, but most of us are wfh now and no reason we cant do a trip to the supermarket. Would help sick people and key workers etc by freeing up delivery spots.

If a load of people I don't know on the internet think protecting my family to the best of my ability is selfish than so be it. Healthy people and children are dying of this too.

I don't think I am selfish. There are lots of selfless things I do for others. Doing one think to help yourself doesn't make you selfish and cancel out the other selfless things you do too.

I know you’re not breaking any laws

I also know that you’re trip to the supermarket does not carry the risk of death in the same way that it would mean for me

And that my restrictions have a minimum of 10 more weeks to go, with no trips out of the house for anything other than essential medical appointments that have to be face to face.

I have found so many posts and messages on MN to be so illuminating if both the best of people and the most selfish

BTW: for avoidance of doubt, I have never said that people should forego online shopping, I have said that stretching your weekly shop do you have a delivery every 9 or so days rather than 7 would free up a lot of slots.

I’m putting this because it is so horrible to read blatant selfishness on a thread which also contains so many posts from those who are exceptionally vulnerable and still struggling

It really needs to be policy. Otherwise if a random healthy person selflessly gives up a slot, it could very easily be snapped up by another healthy person.

I do think there is a need to prioritise people though. We need a slot for 80yo FIL or we have to continue with a regular 200 mile round trip to drop off food for him.

I am sorry for you vampire, I hope you are ok. We are trying to stretch our shop to last a week, two young children and a husband at home, we are eating lots. If something runs out it is not replaced until our order comes. We are not making unnecessary trips out. I think once a week click and collect is reasonable. However, I know others who have deliveries booked for every four days, now I think that is selfish, no-one needs that much food.

I understand you might be a greater risk, but I am at risk too and so are my family and I am not willing to take that risk. If this was just a virus killing the old like originally thought it would be different.

Our supermarket have just offered us a alot because we are 'loyal customers', should we take that

• a slot

I guess the difficulty is that we now know that we are all at risk, some more than others, but it is not all black and white.
And it is difficult to accept putting you and your loved ones at risk to protect someone else.
We are not going out of the house at all, wfh while looking after 2 DC, a run in the park once a week... and a weekly ocado delivery. To be fair we always have this weekly delivery (no car) and it would seem crazy to start going to the shops when we are told to stay home!

If anyone is really struggling to get deliveries, a website called next door.co.uk very helpful. Our local site has details of lots of places e.g. farm shops, independent shops etc that have now switched to delivery only. Also if you go onto Deliveroo they have a grocery section, with deliveries ranging from free to £4.

We’re in the high risk but not extremely vulnerable category, don’t have a car and have had online delivery since it first became available. I think the extremely vulnerable and elderly should have priority for slots, which I think every supermarket is now doing. I would give up my slots for people in those categories. Other than that, I’m keeping them.

I am still doing deliveries with Ocado, because we seem to be able to get slots. I have extended from our normal once a week to every 10/11 days to free up slots for others. My rationale is that whilst I am WFH full time with the children, DH is a key worker who is highly likely to get the virus and pass it on to us. I don't want either him or I going to the shops and potentially giving it to others. When I read these threads I do worry that our neighbours must think we are really selfish as we are fit and healthy. We are just genuinely trying to so the right thing though.

I'm sure my neighbours think we are being selfish by having deliveries. However, other DC and I are on the vulnerable (not shielding) list and have made sure we have had no direct contact with anyone else since the lock down began. We have ordered a few bits each time for our elderly parents and dh has dropped them onto their doorsteps and run. We've also managed tobrder a few bits for our dc who is also vulnerable. So, rather than taking a delivery slot from one shieldingbperson, we have used our delivery slots to ensure that five vulnerable people do not have to endanger themselves by visiting the supermarket.

At the risk of stirring up hate - I have just gone on Ocado on the off-chance and got a slot for two weeks time.

Mydcaremarvel-yep same email address used for all of them, checking the email and spam box daily.

If I can get a delivery slot then I will, bring “healthy” isn’t anything to do with needing one. It’s about reducing risk, ie not driving a car, plodding around with 2 kids, touching things in supermarkets. There is no criteria to have shopping delivered other than needing food

Had a slot today, next one three weeks.

Everyone has their own justifications.

I went out to the store once 10 days ago. I was very careful. And I still caught the virus and now I’m self-isolating.

I can’t get a delivery from anywhere. I have no local friends or family. It’s very stressful...

We are all healthy, have a car but are worried about picking it up. I would like a delivery slot but cannot get one. I have been going to smaller supermarkets over the last few weeks, once a week. I also had a lot in the freezer. I would rather go to a big supermarket as their is better quality. However, I don't fancy waiting in a large queue for half an hour or so, potentially picking up the virus. I know they are 2m apart but I suspect there is still some risk.

I’m a NHS doctor. If not already no doubt at some point I will be spreading covid in supermarkets when I undoubtedly catch the virus. I most definitely do not want to be giving up my delivery slots.

YANBU
In an ideal world delivery slots would be prioritised for those who need them most, ie those most at risk, those who are having to self-isolate, those who can’t get to the shops without resorting to public transport, key workers etc.
Unfortunately we don’t live in an ideal world and there are plenty of selfish twerps who hog the slots.

Supermarkets don't even give you a choice of click-and-collect or home delivery.

Everybody is potentially at risk, plus no one knows the medical status of their neighbours, or how risk-free they are FOR OTHERS!

People who are on the high-risk Government list are given priority delivery slots... and so they should. Any slots left are open to the general public.
I am a single parent and I might have got this wrong but from what I have heard it is heavily frowned upon to bring children - I would have to leave my 9 year old son at home which I wouldn’t feel comfortable about.
I have also got items for my neighbours and other family (leaving on doorstep) through online shopping so have saved 6 people not having to go to the supermarket and potentially infecting others or getting infected themselves, plus not having to worry about someone standing too close.

It's all very dependent on whether you drive and are home alone with small kids or kids with additional needs: you can't tell them not to go the supermarket with them in tow AND take their slots away.

Other than that no, YANBU.

Just to clarify, my 21 year old son is on the extremely vulnerable list (just finished chemotherapy for blood cancer). He is registered on the Gov. UK website but so far cannot get priority slots. We had managed to book a couple of slots before this got really difficult so we are OK for now, but it is a real worry.

No car, single parent, kids teenagers at home 24/7, online deliveries have been very useful, but always some basic stuff missing so occasional visits to local mini markets unavoidable - and where despite staff best endeavours, half the (enforced limited number of) other shoppers haven't a clue about social distancing.

My idiot of a friend should not I can't see her doing it any time soon. She's got a slot booked but no one in her family is at risk at all. Her husband can drive easily and she works at a bloody shopping centre as support staff (so not in direct contact with customer s ever) so next to a big waitrose every day.

I on the other hand have multiple disabilities but don't count as disabled enough. Both me and partner can't drive due to various conditions. We have a daughter with asthma. He's high risk for various reasons but again not enough to get in the high priority list.

I have another friend who has managed to get a slot up Northern but he's crazy high risk... He's not on any high risk register though that the government has released! If he has an asthma attack he's normally hospitalised and has a lung issue. He's been lucky though to get slots at the moment. He's having to self isolate from everyone in his house including his wife because he's such high risk but yea apparently not enough for the government.

I have one slot left that I booked from habit well in advance as we rely on deliveries and have done for years. Not sure how I'm going to eat though in a month's time unless we can get another one.