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Original poster

Neighbor has visitors and a Bbq on the go

143 replies

RibenaMonsoon · 05/04/2020 13:07

She bloody works for the NHS as well!
What the hell is wrong with some people?!?

The visitors are her sister, sisters DH and nephew. They seemed to be doing things in her garden, now she's lit up a Bbq.

I know there are morons still doing this but I would have thought an NHS worker would know better.

She seems visibly miffed that DS is in the garden splashing about in his water toy making a fair bit of noise. Keeps glaring at him.

I don't know whether to say something or just silently seethe. Am I being a total arse being so angry? I appreciate all of the hard work NHS workers do and stress they must be going through right now but surely they aren't above the rules?

OP posts:
Whattheduck · 05/04/2020 16:29

Ffs employee not employer

Maggie9000 · 05/04/2020 16:33

@lmcneil003 is a troll and has shown to be so on several threads. Ignore.

BatShite · 05/04/2020 16:34

She bloody works for the NHS as well!

One of the people who is ignoring lockdown
(and being very vocal about it!) mostly among my friend group is a NHS worker. His rationale is basically, I am around people all day at work where I need to be, its not reasonable to then expect me to isolate when I get a few hours/a day off. His socialization group is those who work in the hospital with him too..so they are not 'tainting' anyone else as they are together all day anyway. Basically, they finish double shifts, then all congregate in one of their homes for a few drinks and chillout time. They say, that basically work, isolation, work, isolation would fuck with their mental health.

I get where he/they are coming from, I really do. He has to be around people all day, its slightly silly to then put him on lockdown for hours off. I also understand why its been done, but I do get where people like this are coming from.

FourDecades · 05/04/2020 16:35

Try and get a photo of them too as by the time the police contact you, the party will be over

BaileyBailu · 05/04/2020 16:35

NHS workers aren't necessarily smart or selfless. I know an NHS worker who for some reason still lives with her DP and 2 DC at her parents house and her dad has terminal cancer. What's the point in him isolating for at least 3 months not even allowed to go outside if there's the kids and two extra adults going to hospital, shops etc.

Tootletum · 05/04/2020 16:38

You may have done the right thing, but I'm guessing you won't be on friendly terms after this as she will guess who reported her. Hope she doesn't get too arsy. I'm so worried about antagonising one set of v aggressive neighbours I would struggle to do that. Talked to them once about a parking issue and the next day one of my tyres was flat as a pancake.

Likethebattle · 05/04/2020 16:40

Shades of great don’t apply when their is a fucking killer virus and we have been told to not do certain things!

Likethebattle · 05/04/2020 16:41

grey and there, have been typing fast in my utter disbelief at the stupidity shown!

TestBank · 05/04/2020 16:42

BaileyBailu, would you want to spend the last three months of your life alone? If it's terminal, let them be, they can spend their time as they want.

ChubbyPigeon · 05/04/2020 16:43

@BaileyBailu but where is the elderly FIL supposed to go? They cant just magic up another house

Maybe they work together? I was thinking about this the other day, its pretty much impossible to keep 2ms away from work colleagues in the NHS, whats the difference between being together at work and being together at home? I am following rules but logically if you had a work colleague over its not going to expose you anymore than in the work place.

Nanny0gg · 05/04/2020 16:44

@lmcneil003
I have sympathy and empathy with others.

Apparently the ones behaving badly!!

Scrumbleton · 05/04/2020 16:44

Glad you reported it - fools like y try gat will have us all on complete lock down

ChubbyPigeon · 05/04/2020 16:44

Also yes terminal cancer is just that terminal. They are going to die regardless, might as well spend it with family

LucyAutumn · 05/04/2020 16:48

Well done OP, you did the right thing.

Jimmers · 05/04/2020 16:48

@lmcneil003
I have sympathy and empathy with others.

If you actually had either of these attributes you wouldn’t be so blasè about rules of isolation

maddy68 · 05/04/2020 16:49

Definitely report

Purpleclownsuit · 05/04/2020 16:51

We have NHS neighbours. Family (not from same house) party to do the clap Thursday just gone.

BaileyBailu · 05/04/2020 16:51

Might as well die of CV sooner then eh? It's his house, I don't understand why two grownups are putting him at risk instead of renting somewhere else. The cancer can't be cured but he might still have a good few years left.

BatShite · 05/04/2020 16:53

I was thinking about this the other day, its pretty much impossible to keep 2ms away from work colleagues in the NHS, whats the difference between being together at work and being together at home?
Yeah, this is why I am finding it hard to be annoyed with my friend, who I posted about above. Loads have had a proper go at him on FB, but..I really do see where he is coming from. Its only those he works with who have been together, and they are together at work all day anyway so whats the issue with them being together(but still away from others) when off?

I know its 'breaking the rules'. But his logic..makes sense really.

Nanny0gg · 05/04/2020 16:58

get where he/they are coming from, I really do. He has to be around people all day, its slightly silly to then put him on lockdown for hours off. I also understand why its been done, but I do get where people like this are coming from.

Are they all around exactly the same people ALL THE TIME or do they come in contact with anyone else ever?

MinnieMountain · 05/04/2020 17:00

@BatShite it doesn't make sense because each colleague will have had different exposure at work by treating different patients, being in different parts of the hospital etc. So one might be incubating Covid when another is not wasn't until they socialised.

A have a friend who is a nurse. She's having online meetups with her colleagues.

Original poster
RibenaMonsoon · 05/04/2020 17:00

To answer a couple of questions, apologies I'm doing a roast so don't have time to scroll back and tag.

She's gone in now and the visitors have gone. I've not received anything, no phone call or confirmation email so I hope it went through okay.

Not to fussed about keeping up relations with her as we are planning to move in a few months time. (Once this is over anyway). She's not massively social with us, I get the feeling she's a bit of a recluse apart from immediate family.

She's gone in now and her visitors have gone. So hopefully something happened to break it up. We did go on a walk to entertain DS for half an hour so possibly something happened then. Either that or they just let of their own accord.

Hopefully she won't be doing any more social BBQs.

Thank you all for your help and input.

OP posts:
acsec · 05/04/2020 17:12

My next door neighbours have their son and granddaughter round today?! I thought they were fairly sensible people, they are clearly not!

Anotheruser02 · 05/04/2020 17:15

My neighbour is having a bbq, loud music, friends over. If I report he will know it's me as the other 2 flats in ours are vacant. I really bloody want to though.

AdoptedBumpkin · 05/04/2020 17:25

I'm glad you reported her. Why on earth would an NHS staffer do this?

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