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Neighbor has visitors and a Bbq on the go

143 replies

RibenaMonsoon · 05/04/2020 13:07

She bloody works for the NHS as well!
What the hell is wrong with some people?!?

The visitors are her sister, sisters DH and nephew. They seemed to be doing things in her garden, now she's lit up a Bbq.

I know there are morons still doing this but I would have thought an NHS worker would know better.

She seems visibly miffed that DS is in the garden splashing about in his water toy making a fair bit of noise. Keeps glaring at him.

I don't know whether to say something or just silently seethe. Am I being a total arse being so angry? I appreciate all of the hard work NHS workers do and stress they must be going through right now but surely they aren't above the rules?

OP posts:
ThePluckOfTheCoward · 05/04/2020 15:03

And the most cretinous statement of the thread is ........
they shouldnt be doing this, but shes a nurse and under enormous stain. Dont be busybody. Leave her be.
Unfucking believable.

lmcneil003 · 05/04/2020 15:03

I have sympathy and empathy with others.
I see the world in shades of grey, not in simple black or white terms.

Thighmageddon · 05/04/2020 15:04

Imcnei003 are you usually lacking in a basic understanding of how rules work?

If this person is a nurse then I'd think disciplinary measures should be taken against her. What she is doing is not ok and something to be rushed off asa bit of stress relief.

WineAndTiramisu · 05/04/2020 15:04

@lmcneil003
they shouldnt be doing this, but shes a nurse and under enormous stain.
Dont be busybody. Leave her be.

No, just no. I don't care how much strain she is under, there is no need to have family round for a bloody BBQ. I've seen people die from this and it's not pleasant, I have close colleagues that are now patients in our intensive care unit. I'm not sure how much worse this needs to get before all the idiots actually listen! It's not at if they're being asked to go to war, they're being asked to sit on their arses and watch TV. It's not hard.

tentative3 · 05/04/2020 15:05

@lmcneil003 that's cute but her conduct is likely to impact the rest of us, so it becomes our business. There is no walking a mile in her shoes needed to know she's being an idiot. What's your job lmc? Just curious if you're someone out there everyday exposed to the virus or not.

GabsAlot · 05/04/2020 15:07

mnah-prob varies by police force but one in machester broke up a house party last night

it is up to them to stop these things otherwise they'll all be at it

JoeExotic · 05/04/2020 15:09

Well done for reporting them!

missmeg3leg · 05/04/2020 15:21

Words are beyond me 🤬like others on this thread I’m NHS frontline (intensive care) when will people understand, this is not a dream or a film, I too have colleagues fighting for their lives on the very department they work on, ringing familes to say their loved ones have died or using facetime for patients to say goodbye before being ventilated knowing they will never wake up with added staff exhaustion, pressure sores to nose & ears from long hours in masks & visors all knowing we are at risk everyday, I’m not ready to die doing the job I love as a result of a selfish nation....just stay the f@@k in

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 05/04/2020 15:27

Shades of grey are all well and good when it comes to the nuances of relationships, for example.

However, there is absolutely no shades of grey when dealing with the worst pandemic the planet has seen in several lifetimes.

This virus kills. And if it doesn't kill then it can leave patients with lung problems for years. I am not scaremongering. This is the truth.

You must not deliberately create a situation whereby this virus can jump from person to person. Especially when one of them is working in an environment with lots of potential for infection.

I don't know if I'll see my Dad again. Not will I see him this month , or this summer. But ever. No shades of fucking grey there .

Give your head a wobble McNeil

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 05/04/2020 15:28

Please excuse typos. Angry jabbing at phone keypad Smile

TheCanyon · 05/04/2020 15:28

Our nurse neighbour still has her 80yo dad and son visiting. The dh is a funeral director too and certainly has noticed the difference in protocols. Unreal.

Ghostlyglow · 05/04/2020 15:29

Full lockdown is coming and people like her are going to mean it happens soonerSad

browzingss · 05/04/2020 15:30

If she’s front line/ medical NHS staff she’s risking passing it onto her own sister and her own nephew, that’s pretty stupid isn’t it? I mean it’s quite callous as I’m sure she’s more than aware of the risks

Thighmageddon · 05/04/2020 15:35

I see the world in shades of grey, not in simple black or white terms

I'm currently seeing the world in shades of dead or alive.

Might just be me and every other poster on this thread who think decency and abiding by the rules trumps everything else in the world right now.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 05/04/2020 15:35

OP, I’m glad you reported. Your neighbour is an absolute twat. I think I’d be reporting her to her employers as well.

Hmmmm88 · 05/04/2020 15:37

Not only is she risking picking the virus up from patients and passing it to family she is also risking picking it up from family and passing it to patient's. I wouldn't hesitate for a second in reporting her. It's disgraceful behaviour

SarahInAccounts · 05/04/2020 15:41

I can't believe someone working for the NHS can be so stupid.

Our neighbours are also having a BBQ, just the two of them outside enjoying their garden. There doesn't have to be a cast of thousands.

CantSayJack · 05/04/2020 15:44

Our dumbass neighbour has used lockdown as an excuse to invite varying people round almost daily. Her and her partner have a friend round who is hacking all the neighbours boundary trees back knowing full well people are indoors so won’t say something. They are all stood close to one another. Utter selfish bastards out there.

Sloff · 05/04/2020 16:12

I see the world in shades of grey, not in simple black or white terms

I am seeing the world in plain stupid or completely sensible. There is no grey here.

@lmcneil003 so you think it is OK to kill people, including yourself?

BringMeSunshineInMyLife · 05/04/2020 16:17

Take a picture and email to the Daily Mail- they will publish and shame.

Original poster
RibenaMonsoon · 05/04/2020 16:18

they shouldnt be doing this, but shes a nurse and under enormous stain. Dont be busybody. Leave her be.

I do appreciate she's under strain, but she's being extremely selfish and in doing what she's done, could pass on infection, potentially to those she's caring for in her job in the NHS.
What would your thoughts be should, by her actions, it infects others? Potentially someone very vulnerable. Is that alright? Perhaps we should let that go because she's under alot of stress.

I appreciate you have a differing opinion but I won't be taking your advice.

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 05/04/2020 16:19

I would encourage your ds to make more noise everytime she glares at him

BlessYourCottonSocks · 05/04/2020 16:22

I'd have reported - but has anything happened, OP?

I mean, did the police actually arrive to break it up, because if not it seems utterly pointless for anyone to report.

Thedogscollar · 05/04/2020 16:23

lmcneil003 Shame on you, omg I have never ever read such awful advice. You truly are a selfish selfish human being.

I am frontline NHS midwife we had a severely ill patient on last shift transferred to one of the covid wards probably on a ventilator now.

How bloody dare you waffle on about shades of grey and not in black and white. Christ this is life and death you couldn't get any more clearer than that.

Whattheduck · 05/04/2020 16:27

@Imcneil003 out of interest what do you do for a job ?
You don’t know what I’ve had to deal with just lately as an NHS employer so keep your stupid comments to yourself