To say that dd1 can't get a job in a supermarket?

[Tonyaster]

Because dd2 has asthma fairly badly?

Dd1 is desperate for a job at the beginning of May when she's finished her uni coursework. But dd2 is in the vulnerable group according to the chart on the asthma uk website. I've said no to dd1 working outside the home. Am I being unreasonable?

thank you @EmmaC78

YANBU. I’ve stopped 18 year old DS doing his part time job at Dominos (which is take away only) because he works in a confined space with a load of other teens and there’s no way they can practise, and remember to practice, social distancing. It’s not worth the risk of him bringing the virus home just for the sake of a couple of hundred quid which he’ll waste buying crap online anyway! He was ill (as were we all, don’t know if it was CV) and had to self isolate anyway, just didn’t go back. He has mild asthma and hasn’t had an attack for years but still.

Not worth it if it’s not for essential household running costs, especially in a supermarket which is prob the riskiest place to be outside of a medical facility at the moment.

You are being entirely reasonable. If she has plenty of money and is just bored then surely she can wait a few months. It’s just bringing unnecessary germs into the house. Me, DH and DD(3years) all have asthma and aren’t technically shielding but are staying home because of the risks, only getting a fortnightly click and collect for food or getting it delivered because going to the supermarket feels risky. You are entirely reasonable to not want her to go daily and at her age she should be able to discuss this with you properly.

Strangebrew that sounds awful and so scary for you. I have seen customers really having a go and supermarket staff myself and it is horrible. I hope you feel better soon.

Dd1 is now resigned to not getting a job. I suggested a hobby but she looked at me as though I was mad. We have started doing couch 2 5k together which gives her something to think about.

She's doing a healthcare relsted degree but realises volunteering in a hospital is out for the moment. To be fair, she's started chatting to a widowed lady in the village and getting her shopping and started talking about doing some gardening for her which would be extraordinary as she's never shown the slightest bit of interest in gardening before! It's a really weird time for young adults

I’m in a similar position. My son has decided not to work as it would bring more risk into our home, and we can easily do without the cash. I’m WFH and my husband is working outside the house, so I reckon that’s as much risk as we are comfortable with bearing at the minute.

Oh I meant to also add that a relative of mine recently went off sick from his supermarket job, as he said it was unsafe and he was sick of getting abuse from the customers. He’s a man in his 50s. If he can’t cope, I wouldn’t ask a teenager to do it.

But we all need to keep buying food so those people from healthy households need to keep working in the supermarkets.

@Tonyaster Thank you, l'm not too bad this morning. l felt very wheezy and had quite a bad cough last night, but managed 9 hours (!) sleep and l don't feel so wiped out today. Going to have a quick tidy up and have a shower, then have a day on the sofa again.