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Original poster

To say that dd1 can't get a job in a supermarket?

133 replies

Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 12:17

Because dd2 has asthma fairly badly?

Dd1 is desperate for a job at the beginning of May when she's finished her uni coursework. But dd2 is in the vulnerable group according to the chart on the asthma uk website. I've said no to dd1 working outside the home. Am I being unreasonable?

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Legoandloldolls · 04/04/2020 13:11

My 16 year old was going to get a job once school was over. It's over now but I have said it's not a good idea right now. Hes got nothing to spend his cash on for a start. I think waiting a few more mo this is a bit of a compromise. Beside how much aggressive behaviour will they be exposed too? Not great if it's her first taste of work. Plus the asthma.i wouldn't want to risk it

bluewafflewithmayo · 04/04/2020 13:12

Just sounds like you enjoy being in control of her tbh.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 04/04/2020 13:12

So working in a shop is now like joining the armed forces during conflict. Fuck me, this is so tragic and those adorable people thinking we will all be back to normal in a few weeks time Hmm.

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Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:13

bluewafflewithmayo

Every post you've made today is idiotic, so excuse me if I ignore you.

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AmelieTaylor · 04/04/2020 13:16

YANBU. She doesn’t need the money, she’s just a bit bored. FFS plenty else she can do without hugely upping the risk of bringing it into your home. DH working isn’t comparable - at all.

TryingToBeBold · 04/04/2020 13:17

@19lottie82

But OP says they have plenty of money so no husband doesnt need to. Unless he is the reason they have plenty of money.

hoodiemum · 04/04/2020 13:18

Fruit picking job might be an option? Most are residential, staying in caravans, and start in May. Offers money and a change of scene. She could find some friends to sign up with her, and help feed the country in a different way.

bluewafflewithmayo · 04/04/2020 13:18

Oh dear. Touched a nerve.

krustykittens · 04/04/2020 13:19

I would say no, OP. I am in a high risk group and we are all self-isolating as my husband works from home. DD1, who is starting uni in September (if they are open!), lost her job in a cafe when this started, buggering up all her financial plans. However, she will be living at home and commuting to class so we can manage, it will be tight, but she will be starting her course this year. So while she would love to take a supermarket job or similar, she is putting up with the boredom, so that I stay safe. If you can manage without the money, then your younger daughter's health comes first.

EmmaC78 · 04/04/2020 13:20

Fruit picking is a good suggestion actually, depending on where you live.

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Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:20

Fruit picking job might be an option? Most are residential, staying in caravans, and start in May yeah, think she's looking into that! Thanks.

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AmelieTaylor · 04/04/2020 13:21

Engage brain!

I think if your DH is going out to work then your DD might as well

To say that dd1 can't get a job in a supermarket?
Original poster
Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:22

But OP says they have plenty of money so no husband doesnt need to. Unless he is the reason they have plenty of money

No we are hugely independently wealthy Confused of course he's the reason (and he's a key worker so has to go to work)

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HermioneWeasley · 04/04/2020 13:22

She could do a night shift when customers aren’t in.

Runnerduck34 · 04/04/2020 13:23

I wouldn't be keen either, initially i thought it was a great opportunity for eldest DD back from uni to get a job , now I've changed my mind.
I'd rather keep her safe. We have two people in our household with mild Asthma and 4 out of 6 of us have symptoms of a virus, possibly covid19 which makes it very real.
I do understand her frustration though !

EricaNernie · 04/04/2020 13:25

if she worked in the nhs frontline, she would not be entitled to give up her job, she would be expected to come home, take off uniform, wash hands

YangShanPo · 04/04/2020 13:25

The fruit picking is a great idea i was thinking earlier how awful it would be if crops were lost due to lack of workers. It's a really good thing to do.

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Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:26

Runnerduck34

Thanks. It's doubly frustrating for them as they've just started to be independent now stuck back at home!

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GrumpiestOldWoman · 04/04/2020 13:26

Can I suggest that you are actually protecting both your DD here, one from contracting coronavirus which could kill her, and one from feeling eternally responsible for bringing home the disease, were that to happen.

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Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:26

if she worked in the nhs frontline she doesn't though.

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Tonyaster · 04/04/2020 13:27

GrumpiestOldWoman thanks yes thats what I've said.

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EricaNernie · 04/04/2020 13:28

where is this fruitpicking?
my dd want to do this.
i wasnt keen on my dd working in co op to be fair, due to my asthma but would not stop her

Etinox · 04/04/2020 13:34

DS is home from University having had the final term cancelled and is now working in a local supermarket. The rest of us are working from home, not exercising outside our garden and limiting shopping to 2/3 a week (3 other adults, no underlying conditions) it’s short walking distance, and he has his own bathroom and showers and baths the moment he gets in- I even run the bath and leave all doors open for his return! We’re also continuously temperature monitoring and cleaning everything all the time.

Ragwort · 04/04/2020 13:35

Fruit picking is on fruit farms Hmm, presumably most people know if they have farms near to them?

My DS has applied to supermarkets (no vulnerable people in our home) but has been rejected due to ‘so many applicants’. He is also looking at fruit picking jobs.

EmmaC78 · 04/04/2020 13:35

Erica - if you look up the HOPS website you can register on there. They are still looking for people from May onwards.