I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

Set up a new group with all the rebels so you can all have a good slagging off of the silly cow😂

Love some of these responses, your reply to her was perfect @EstuaryBird! Though the neighbour who told her to f off would be my new hero

So to her it only matters if we show everyone else how we are clapping? My DF and DM clapped from their comfy chairs (ill and nearly 80) but to her that wouldnt count as no one else can see?

Same happening on the area FB group I am on . People arguing about people not being out . FGS !

Delete yourself from the group. Don't give her the satisfaction.

Like your reply and the other replies.

No one in my street goes out and claps. We all follow the rules and stay indoors.

YANBU. It's not compulsory. Trying our best not to get sick is. I did not go outside. Was enumerationg all the people I know who are frontline workers. Especially one of my friend's mum who has gone back from retirement, a grandma. That was a lot of people. A lot. Still sinking in.

Someone drove around our village/hamlet (4 streets in total)

The video cuts out when it got to our road and started again in the next road.

It appears that everyone was out in force in every street but ours. Not one single person went to the front of their drives and clapped.

I think it is quite funny especially as we have a “hospital” related facility in the road and not one person from there came out to clap.

who made her the clap police

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

All the ambulances and even police cars drove outside our local hospital with their lights on and sirens all at the same time even beeping their horns to a tune

I'm in a street WhatsApp to share when people need support, general chatter is discouraged.

We went out to clap, not to show our support for the NHS (which I show in other ways) but because this is an incredibly weird time and I think voluntarily being part of something shared is a good thing.

However, if i saw a message like that I would a) leave the group and b) never clap again.

I wonder how many people went out to clap with their main intention not being to applaud key workers, but rather with the aim of being able to identify and point the finger at those who didn't go out, in a bizarre sanctimonious bout of oneupmanship?

Last time I looked it was voluntary. Just because you - for whatever reason - don’t clap doesn’t mean you don’t care. I would just ignore the busybody. Or remove yourself. No explanation required.

Go out with your top off next week and tell her you're doing 'tits out for truckers' instead

I work for the NHs and found the entire thing embarrassing.
I see it more of a means of people connecting with the community around them.

It;s getting like the poppy thing isn't it - you are so nasty and outrageous if you don't wear a poppy and now the same applies if you don't go outside and clap for the NHS.

I don't join whatsapp groups. Also people have no idea what other people are doing - the person might have been saving the life of a dying person rather than being out clapping.

Go out with your top off next week and tell her you're doing 'tits out for truckers' instead

I switched on (from inside) the twinkly Christmas lights that are still up along the front of the house! Was just about dark enough for them to show - do you think that counts?

See, the minute people start "policing" shit like that, is when I stop doing it.

If it's not done spontaneously, but in fear of public shame, then the gesture is no longer meaningful.

Someone in our sports WhatsApp group has gone totally over the top on this, calling it her vital contribution to the NHS efforts and berating those who had not said they were doing it ( ie not said either way). Ironic, really , since she has boasted in the past about not paying tax on her multiple illegal lettings and other business activities. Ugh.

Oh fuck it.
I didn’t go outside yesterday either. I got the same on the village Facebook page.
I was taking an urgent call as part of my NHS job

Put up a link to this article

www.spectator.co.uk/article/the-ugliness-of-coronavirus-shaming

And also #bekind

I have chosen both weeks to clap at home in my
living room rather than go outside. We have young children who i’m usually putting to bed at that time and am usually in my dressing gown which I don’t want to go out in public wearing!

Quite the little hall monitor, isn't she? I take it she's got her jack boots out of storage and is busy polishing them to a mirror like finish. . .

Covicrazy. . .

I actually now see how Hitler managed to get Germany on side with his regime. I used to wonder who the people who gave up Jewish people etc hiding near them were and think ‘no one I know would do that’. But I am actually starting to think some people I know definitely would .