I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

Just ignore

I didn't go out and clap and I AM an NHS worker. I had a shower earlier and didn't want to go out in my nightclothes. Plus although I think it's great that people want to do this and I do support all my fellow workers and all the other fantastic people who are still working for us at the moment, (the bin men who collected my bin yesterday for instance) I also find it a bit cringeworthy. The very best way to thank the NHS is to avoid getting the virus in the first place, and by supporting NHS workers by ensuring they are able to get to and from work, they have nutritious meals and they have the PPE they need. And - once this is over - perhaps a pay rise for our nurses and care workers? We can't manage without them.

I knew this would happen, just like it does every year with the self-righteous twats who froth about people not wearing poppies.

FWIW I know some NHS workers who are grateful for the clapping and others who’ve said get stuffed, it’s no use to us. Clap if you want but don’t make this about a mob mentality.

I hate this kind of forced participation. Just because you don't 'join in' at the prescribed time, people think you don't care. Nothing could be further from the truth - I often think of people such as war veterans, 9/11 victims, victims of other atrocities, etc. - but not as the prescribed time. It doesn't mean I think any less of these individuals. I think the NHS staff are wonderful, but I'm not sure what clapping and letting off fireworks actually does for them! Leave the group and do your own thing!

Hands up - I didn't clap, either. I love the NHS, my mum worked for many years as a GP's receptionist and practice manager and we've had nothing but excellent service from them over the years as my parents have aged. BUT everybody rushing out into the street, forgetting (at least in some cases from what I've seen on the news) their social distancing and potentially spreading the virus is a great way of showing appreciation, don't you think? I'll sit here, in my little house and pay tribute in my own way by trying my hardest not to be ill!!
to all those who have been named and shamed...

Send her round to me. I’m in a foul mood today.

“Don’t let Coronavirus turn you into an even bigger bully than you already are, Janet.”

Our neighbourhood prick did this also, “it’s such a shame there are so many no shows, they obviously don’t care enough about our health service - no excuse”.

Jesus Christ do forgive me that 8pm happens to be DD’s bedtime! It’s somehow turned into a show of who cares the most - never mind the fact both my parents are paramedics

It clearly says you can clap from your lounge or whatever , I clapped from my bath because that's where I was at the time ! Fuck them .. !

Christ I didn't clap. I've donated lots of stuff to the hospital this week including PPE and I am in awe of ALL the keyworkers including basic pay cleaners and shop workers.

People posting videos of them clapping are just looking for Facebook likes.

@JonHammIsMyJamm my Facebook is exactly the same. All competing to see which street can be loudest, and who loves the NHS most.

Last night was crazy, people filming the street and saying “oh X isn’t out...they couldn’t spare 2 minutes for our key workers.” Statues of people berating others “hardly anyone out on X street last night, go hang your heads in shame.” It’s gone a bit mad I think.

We didn’t clap last week as I missed 8pm with bedtime for the dc. This week dd clapped at the window, she was in her pjs and baby ds was screaming. Not sure why I have to justify it but that’s what it’s come to on Facebook. I appreciate the NHS and dp is a key worker, but I didn’t want to take them outside.

The video obviously doesn’t show dd at the window so we too have been shamed. As if we haven’t got enough to worry about.

I didn't go out. My ddog was running round like a lunatic at the noise.. I think I would be tempted to say something about virtue signalling and election results. You can appreciate the services without taking part in something that actually achieves little practically. Maybe suggest, as another poster has mentioned, campaigning for proper pay for the essential workers across all the areas that are stopping the country falling apart.

Shes a bully, I think most people would see through it and think shes a twat, ignore it will only escalate if you reply , mute the group for a while

Looks like the virus has rewakened the Stasi state in some parts of the UK

I’m married to an intensive care doctor. He’d far rather people voted for the NHS to be better funded than clap. He thought it highly ironic that many Tory voters came out and clapped for an institution they didn’t prioritise in December
So very true.

8pm is also bedtime here, I appreciate the NHS in my own quiet way that doesn't involve clapping while trying to settle 3 children.

This would just make me laugh. There have always been people like this around. It is why I love living in a city and not a tiny village where these people have more impact. And yes these are the kind who poppy shame.
But those talking about shades of 1984 have just never noticed these people before. They have always existed. This just gives them an opportunity to pass paths with others who would not have before realised what they were like.

Oh my god - she's trying to shame people into clapping and bashing a pan with a spoon? She's in need of urgent medical attention, and not for coronavirus

It’s all quiet at the moment but I’ll definitely update.

I shall be going out for my walk later so I’ll be going right past her house, we’re at the top of the cul de sac and she’s at the bottom so our only way out is past her house. I wonder if I’ll see her.......?

Rude. Ignore with dignity.

Flip her the bird @EstuaryBird...

People like this need dampening down.
This is how things started in the second world war in certain places.

Print off these replies and put it through her letter box.
Some people thrive off drama especially when they have little lives.

Looking forward to any updates. She's batshit, who made her the clap police.

I am in a street whatsup group as well. There have been reminders of the clap for carers and self congratulatory messages, but no shaming.

At last, a corona thread I want to follow!