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I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

854 replies

EstuaryBird · 03/04/2020 09:32

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

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MarginalGain · 03/04/2020 10:18

For those who are disquieted by the curious new version of the UK we find ourselves in, I highly recommend Brendan Lee's interview of Peter Hitchens.

Rachie1973 · 03/04/2020 10:19

Lol I work in a sheltered housing scheme, as you can imagine we have many ‘shielding’ residents. Yet I saw neighbours complaining that ‘old people’s home’ didn’t come out and clap!

wibblewobblejiggle · 03/04/2020 10:20

I was thinking of doing it but then found myself in bed playing sims and watching TV.

If someone tried to shame me I'd tell them to fuck off.

WhateverHappenedToMe · 03/04/2020 10:20

"Really sorry we forgot, but we were all busy making masks/scrubs/care packages and lost track of the time."

Applesandpears23 · 03/04/2020 10:20

I am vindictive so I would add everyone but her to a new whatsapp group called “street name kind people” and move all discussion there.

MH1111 · 03/04/2020 10:21

Explain to her that you support the NHS by by not being

Morbidly obese
Drinking too much alcohol
A smoker
A couch potato
Unhealthy with your diet choices
Etc etc

Pick and choose or add more, whichever ones help to hold a mirror up to her face....

Supporting the NHS means different things to different people.

FuckPolitenessSSDGM · 03/04/2020 10:21

What @Crabonastick said. Please do that and let us know if she responds. She's batshit.

JonHammIsMyJamm · 03/04/2020 10:21

Mine is an FB group and is full of absolutely self congratulatory bellends. It’s all, “Oh WELL DONE X street”, “Fabulous effort Y crescent”, “Heartwarming display Z Road”. Embarrassing. Horns honking, pans clanking, “even my dog was barking!”. Probably because it was stressed by all the fucking clanking and racket. Not to mention the fireworks. Grrr.

Kraejka · 03/04/2020 10:21

Absolutely ridiculous.
I wouldn't go out and clap next week either - no way someone like me would be bossing me around like that. If I wanted to clap I'd do it inside my home so she couldn't see.

I don't like this enforced clapping thing and people virtue signalling and bullying others who aren't seen to be doing the right thing.
I think it was a good idea at first but I can see it turning nasty over time if people are behaving like this.
The best way people can help and support the NHS is to stay at home as they have been told to do repeatedly. I wonder how many of the clappers are making non-essential journeys and taking the piss with the guidelines we have been given.
I also wonder how many of the clappers have wasted the NHS' time over the years by failing to show up to appointments without cancelling, showing up to A&E for things that are not accidents and emergency etc.
(Disclaimer: as you always need one on Mumsnet so you don't get jumped on - I am sure the vast majority of the clappers have never done things like this but there will be plenty who have)

Clap if you want but don't name and shame people who don't want to/can't for whatever reason.

howsoonisnow85 · 03/04/2020 10:21

So glad someone had the balls to tell her to fuck off- not sure I would!

WildOrchids67 · 03/04/2020 10:21

I didn't take part last night, but then I'm a key worker, working from home and was on a conference call with my team at the time. A few of my neighbours did, but not as many as last week. I agree it was nice as a one off, but loses meaning if it's every week.

Pleasebeafleabite · 03/04/2020 10:22

“Sorry we were all round at mine for a BBQ and forgot 🤷‍♀️”

Mrsjayy · 03/04/2020 10:23

Stupid clapping I knew it would come to this crap. I would have virtually laughed in her face. Nobody in my street had hubs and kids out I guess we so appreciate "keyworkers", enough

sonjadog · 03/04/2020 10:23

No, don't leave! Let us know what happens in the group. I am working from home and need some entertainment!

Thefaceofboe · 03/04/2020 10:23

Omg we had the same last week Blush

1forsorrow · 03/04/2020 10:23

And you can appreciate the people who work in the NHS, whilst still seeing the flaws in the way it is funded, managed and administered. And people who work in the NHS, or other keyworkers, can tell you they don't want your claps they want proper funding. One of my kids is a nurse and I'm too polite to post what their response is to Tory voters clapping for the NHS.

HopeYouStepOnALego · 03/04/2020 10:24

How sad that some people were actively looking round and taking notes of who was not out clapping so that they could then try and 'shame' them. People have all sorts of reasons for not taking part and should not be judged. I think these neighbours shame themselves more by acting as the clapping police.

AhNowTed · 03/04/2020 10:24

"I showed my support the last time I voted"

TeaMilkNoSugarThanks · 03/04/2020 10:24

I'd 'let slip' to a couple of trusted bletherskites neighbours that in line with other war time procedures the Govt is bringing back Mass Observation and you were filing your secret report about new forms of social behaviour. Cough. WhatsApp. Cough.

SuperlativeScrubs · 03/04/2020 10:25

Send her a copy of my thread OP. Maybe she will do something productive after that instead of making a whole lot of noise and bitching about other people Wink

MrsGellar · 03/04/2020 10:25

can you report her?

To who?

@NotSorry That’s not actually such a bad idea, reporting the twat to WHO Grin

MH1111 · 03/04/2020 10:27

OP ask her if she can organise a clap tonight to show appreciation for the people that clap for the NHS 🤔

blueheaven97 · 03/04/2020 10:27

I bet when it gets to November she switches to poppy-bullying.

Patsypie · 03/04/2020 10:27

Oh I hate cunts like this! Ignore

newbie111 · 03/04/2020 10:30

@1forsorrow I couldn't agree more! My SIL who's a doctor and has been working pretty much 16 hour days almost everyday since this crisis started is furious at this absolutely patronising "show of support". We showed the NHS exactly how much we cared by supporting a government that has underfunded the NHS deliberately for the last 10 years so that things will reach a breaking point and the electorate themselves will ask for privatisation of services.