I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

Who’s behind it all though? Which fucker is sat twiddling their thumbs at home thinking “I know, I’ll have the gullible bastards dancing to S Club next”
Upstaged by the queen though. Hard luck.

@SuckingDieselFella
Another thought. Message the whole group saying you couldn't clap as you were on the toilet doing a tricky Number 2. Your family couldn't clap as they were shouting encouragement from the other side of the bathroom door.

This made my day. It gave me the laugh I needed, thank you!

RaspberryBubblegum

Can we start a "Don't vote conservative for the NHS" for next election?

Good idea! Put that caption on a rainbow poster & stick it on your front window - -& her car windscreen--

Tell her you were busy volunteering on the phone bank for a mental health charity that helps people who have been bullied on WhatsApp groups.

Also, I bet she voted Tory and for Brexit.

What an utter hypocrite.

My partner works in NHS and he too finds the whole thing hypocritical and cringe-worthy

can we start a "Don't vote Conservative for the NHS" for next election ?

Yes please!!!

@SuckingDieselFella @LoveLongLife All that stodgy lockdown food!

FFS & here was me worrying I'd be the only one clapping & get ridiculed for it. I quite enjoyed the clapping, more so the clap for everyone. Although as time goes on I think that some people may clap more to let off steam than anything else.

No.

No one should be made to feel guilty for not clapping, that's just horrid. People can appreciate what others do in private, too.
What else does she do to help, I wonder? Or is she the sort that thinks she's done the public display of gratitude, and that's it?!
And am I the only one that thinks if this becomes a weekly thing, it becomes a bit cheesy, and lessens it's intended message?

Send her a link to this thread - consensus is she is a clapping fascist, like poppy fascists, they often do it for the wrong reasons - and it’s nothing to do with people putting their lives of the line for others.

Both the dancing and clapping for kids shit has surfaced on my neighbourhood facebook page, it's taking all my resolve to not post sarcastic remarks.

@notnegan
Oh fucking hell - that is cringeworthy . As if they would understand what was going on.

Ffs, seen it all now NotNegan.

The clap for the kids thing is just ridiculous.

We didn't either...two reasons.

1. I was in the process of getting our 13 week old son to sleep at 8pm.

1. My partner works for the nhs-not in a current critical patient facing role. He says he feels uncomfortable with it, as he would be clapping himself in a way and actually he doesn't feel he deserves that. Especially at the moment when his normal role has effectively been shut down for the duration of the crisis.

I didn't do it and I won't be doing it.
Dh and I are both in the vulnerable (not shielding) group. We have stayed indoors for over two weeks now. I personally think that not going out, not standing closer than two metres to neighbours (terraced houses, doors adjoining) who are still working as they are keyworkers and therefore hopefully, not contracting this illness, might do more good for the NHS as I won't be adding to their patient list.
I really hate this idea that if you don't show, publicly, 'support' for whatever cause is current, you don't care. I hate all the 'frames'on facebook and the hash tags on twitter. There are times when loud, noticeable 'support' is warranted, but I truly believe that there are many people who don't grandstand, yet do a lot more for these causes, in a quiet way. I'd rather be like that than my neighbour who I could hear out there on Thursday night, being very 'supportive' - then yesterday she was back to flouting the rules by having a group of friends and their children round to play for several hours.

Next week do it again also name and shame her.. make a video of it and post it on the WhatsApp group

When's clapping for clappers? These people have given up their time to go out and clap and deserve recognition!

@callo

It will really become a 'thing'

Who has 'the clap' this week??

I'd reply,

I'll clap when you stop being a cunt....guess I won't be clapping anytime soon 👏

I love the clapping but hate the clap police.

Lots of virtue signalling on FB last night and in my timeline. Sick making and ill informed to boot.

That said, once she’s wound her neck in and it won’t give her the satisfaction, it’s a really nice thing to do. There isn’t much we can do to support frontline staff as they put their life on the line (several have died already) but I know from colleagues that this does really make a difference to their morale. It feels good too. It’s quite emotional and makes you feel connected more to each other.

Twattish comments like this make me less likely to ever do it.

@cherrytree63, to be fair, I'd be out dancing if they were on my doorstep 😂

I think we should form a dance troop and perform that dance in your cul de sac @EstuaryBird 🤣🤣 should be enough to give you a few weeks grace 😀