I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

"When your street
Leaves you feeling blue
You can clap for me
I'll be clapping for you"

"We've got to all clap together
Clapping friends there for each other
'The warden' never forgets
That I clap you, and you clap me so...."

I hate it too.
My parents keep ringing to “remind” me (read shame me) into doing it, but I refuse, even though my family are mostly all keyworkers.
I honestly can’t see the bloody benefit a bit of clapping an dancing will make.

@EstuaryBird stand at the bottom of her drive and do this

Christ. It's just like the poppy fascists.
'Y RNT U WEARING A POPPY DO U NOT SUPPORT R TROOPS?!?!!!1? Y DO U WONT R TROOPS TO DIE U SELFISH HORE??!'

Omg that's brilliant! 😝

I know of one front line worker, exhausted after a very long shift, who was woken by fireworks being set off, that set off her dog barking.
She was much more angry than appreciative of the clapping/fireworks!

@BiBiBirdie do we live in the same village?

She is batshit! I wasn't out clapping because at the time I was video calling a family member, who happens to be a NHS key worker who needed some fun distraction from the DC after a distressing day at work. Any judgemental neighbours can think what they like!

Not one of the frontline workers that I personally know give a monkeys about the clapping, they would rather we demand the gov provides them with better PPE, and that we stay the fuck home and stop spreading the virus. Of course if someone wants to claps then it's absolutely fine and I am not belittling it.

Send her this.
It'll blow her tiny mind: www.spiked-online.com/2020/04/02/why-i-wont-be-clapping-for-the-nhs

Really? What time would their shift start if they were still asleep at 8 pm?

I often have 10pm starts, so I don’t get up until 8:30pm.

@cherrytree63 ours was 8pm
@EstuaryBird God save her indeed

I literally banned that song in the end. I'm a DJ who predominantly does school disco parties and kids birthday parties. Every fecker wanted that song for years. Literal years.

Alot of primary schools adopted it for their prize giving things so I would always be asked for it.

It makes my teeth hurt.

the queens speech will be at 8 more interested in that

I definitely think what someone else out here earlier. Reply 😂😂😂

She's a prat. I've been twice shamed.

Once as part of the 'dark side of the street'(sounds very star wars), for not clapping thursday night. We were cleaning and dealing with child poorly and upsets. We clapped last week, busy this one.

The first earlier in the day by cleaning my car and blocking one side of the pavement with such a 'frivolous' activity. I suspect ny neighbour who when i called 'thank you' as she crossed the road reared back another 3 meters as if i was trying to infect her. I was trying to clean the projectile sick from under the car seat after our doctors trip and pull out the isofix base!

@BiBiBirdie that's on my local Facebook page too 👀

@cherrytree63

The nation needs to learn that one!

@Mary1935 Maybe extreme but I’d reply - Thankfully Hitlers dead but she would be in his army.

Mary, your comment would be my reply! 😂

IP, can you pm the others who were named and shamed to set up your own WhatsApp group, then leave en mass?!

Or better still set up a new group inviting everyone who is currently on it... apart from one person! 😜

Ok there is yet another clap we have to do...I’ve just been tagged on Facebook in:
“Clap for our real heroes- our children, let’s clap for them on Sunday at 3pm to show how proud we are.”

So If I don’t go out and clap on Sunday I’ll probably be accused of not loving my dc. Jesus I thought we were meant to stay inside, they’re wanting us to go in and out every two minutes to clap. Why can’t I just tell dd I’m proud of her?

Can we start a "Don't vote conservative for the NHS" for next election?

@Orangesarenottheonlyfruit
I also see it with the wearing of memorial poppy's. People are derided and torn apart for choosing not to wear them.

Wear a white peace poppy - that really winds people up, lots more than just not wearing one.
One year I had a purple poppy badge (remembering animals killed in war) as well as a white poppy, but I couldn't find it last year.

Having seen the picture about the dancing on Sunday, I do think that old MN classic response is in order here: It's an invitation, not a command.
Or you could just say fuck off :)

She sounds like an utter twat! There should be more for her to worry about at this point in her life than whether a neighbour is or isn't clapping! Frankly, I'm worried for her.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes

If anyone should be ashamed of themselves it is her for writing this appalling sentence.

No- one in our street has taken part in this.

@thetemptationofchocolate oh I will be saying fuck off to that one

From my window with my microphone so they can hear my dissatisfaction.

There's also another now that Sunday at 3pm we should clap for kiddies as they are doing so well dealing with it all.

That's the epitome of one upmanship parenting. Mine aren't dealing well with it at all. They're sodding miserable.
I have DS (12) who has Aspergers and is in the at risk group due to lung disease, so has been on lockdown for over a month now. He has been totally fixated on doing every bit of work set for weeks online and then had a huge meltdown when his maths teacher set year 10 maths. Usually after I deal with a meltdown I go for a walk or to the pub. Can't do either now. So I had to sit in the garden

Then we have DD (13) who won't get out of bed. She has been preparing for lockdown for two years since receiving a mobile phone and a pair of headphones. She categorically cannot be arsed with work at all. I had to threaten the lifespan of her mobile to get her to do 3 hours.
She won't even come for a walk round the block as apparently she is happy in her bubble of social awkwardness and doesn't want to "people" ever again anyway. She and her group of mates are in heaven.

So no, I'm not going to clap for my kids. Clapping them 80s style returns round the ear, hell yeah, otherwise no.

I agree with others tell her you were too busy hosting a garden party for those other shamed people to notice it’s was 8pm

I work for the nhs it’s nice it was touching last week but people sticking to the social distancing guidance and not thinking just this once or if I do this it won’t make a difference is whats important. Clapping on your doorstep isn't