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I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

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EstuaryBird · 03/04/2020 09:32

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

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peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 15:37

@TealWater I doubt it very much, they have such a minuscule understanding of the outside world and the reality that most people have to live with, they wouldn't know how to talk on this level Too High

CrazyTimesAreOccurring · 03/04/2020 15:39

I know it was hours ago somebody said this but I cant stop wondering - if the first person to stop clapping in N Korea gets shot, how does the clapping ever stop? How long does it actually go on for? My brain is whirring at this Shock

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 15:41

is this really going to be a weekly thing? if so I am going to swallow all my pills and drink 4 bottles Oramorph now!!!!!!

PussGirl · 03/04/2020 15:41

I wondered that too, Crazy

Perhaps they somehow have to do it simultaneously!

MissEliza · 03/04/2020 15:42

@CrazyTimesAreOccurring 😂

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 15:43

@CrazyTimesAreOccurring it's North Korea I really wouldn't wind myself up about it the less reds in the world the better.(oh my did I actually say that?)

em90792 · 03/04/2020 15:51

Weve had a similar message on our village facebook page but no direct aim at anyone! My littles are in bed at 8pm. And to be quite honest I felt like absolute crap and was tucked up in bed. I agree with alot of these comments. I think shes just showing herself up to be honest and I'm sure most the group, if not all think shes out of order and bloody rude!!

EssexDad85 · 03/04/2020 15:52

If you're doing it to be seen, then you're doing it for the wrong reasons. It is an optional way to show appreciation for the people working very hard to protect lives. But you could do the same by following the rules. If you clap once a week and then go out four times a day and invite your daughters round for a cup of tea every other day, then in my mind, you aren't showing appreciation.

Me and my family clapped inside our house. Why? Both me and youngest have overactive immune systems. A bad infection could cause sepsis in either one of us (or both).

I only just survived the first septic shock attack and I don't want to give the NHS an unnecessary patient. And with our neighbours standing along our shared fence, very close to our door, not more than two metre guidelines which is very easily done on our wide houses, it was silly for me to risk me and my daughter to go outside to clap.

rjebgf · 03/04/2020 15:52

This crisis has created a new wave of nosy, self righteous neighbour police. I keep worrying one of mine is going to report me for going out. I have had to go out to get an essential piece of medical equipment and do a hospital pick up yesterday and today. For my parents in the vulnerable group.

Chipperfish · 03/04/2020 15:55

peterlon1 - Not sure but the namer and shamer would be Captain Black
And the OP Major - de Coverley

mooboy · 03/04/2020 15:55

This crisis has created a new wave of nosy, self righteous neighbour police Shamefully they have put me off volunteering - I just can't listen to half the shit people are coming out with at the moment...it's giving me the rage!

whatevernext1976 · 03/04/2020 15:55

I would be saying that while you were all clapping I was turning my thanks into action by writing to my MP insisting that frontline NHS workers are tested and have appropriate PPE. That could save lives. Clapping doesn't.

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 15:56

yes have to agree @Chipperfish

Rowgtfc72 · 03/04/2020 15:57

I'm a keyworker packing food in a factory. I got up at 345am for work yesterday as they've changed our hours to allow for better social distancing. I really couldn't be arsed to shift from the sofa by that point.
Facebook here also full of which street did and didn't clap.

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 15:58

so with you @mooboy only trouble I I can't volunteer, have said though if they want to set up a nationwide testing program I will quite happily take blood as long as I have a mask. High risk croup

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 16:00

Good for you @Rowgtfc72 I hope you are appreciated where you work?

Nanalisa60 · 03/04/2020 16:00

Say sorry we were just to Sick to come out and clap!!
That will shut her up!!

peterlon1 · 03/04/2020 16:02

No No No do not give her the satisfaction of caching you out on a lie

TDogsInHats · 03/04/2020 16:05

SpratsOnParade your batman and lights in the skyGrinGrin brilliant!

Scruffyoak · 03/04/2020 16:06

We had posts on SM shaming those that didnt go out. Funny how the same people block the road from ambulances constantly with shit parking and have blocked in in too even though I'm a key worker. I dont think some of them have a clue what they are clapping for.

user127819 · 03/04/2020 16:06

[b]Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”[/b]

Have we got to drag ourselves outside every week and dutifully clap to show we support the NHS? I thought the whole point was that people cared enough to voluntarily take a couple of minutes out of their evening to clap. If it's turned into an obligation it loses all meaning.

I won't be clapping on any further Thursday evenings because it's turning into a competition of who can care the most, who can make the most noise, who can show how good they are on social media and I don't want to be part of that. The first week was so moving but it's a farce now.

rslsys · 03/04/2020 16:08

I realise I'm late to the party on this one and there has been a resolution (of sorts) to the OP's problem.
I would have dealt with it by demanding to know why I was the only one out there showing support and where the hell was everyone else? Followed up a little later by an admission that I hadn't changed my clocks the other week . . .

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 03/04/2020 16:09

I didn't clap because I didn't want to.

I'm grateful to individual HCPs rather than the NHS (a crappy religion at the best of times) but whoever decided gratitude has to equal clapping must have a mental age of about two. What about pretend clapping, if they must clap?

YouTheCat · 03/04/2020 16:15

The best way to show support is to not abuse the NHS. A and E is reported to be very quiet and I reckon this is because a lot of the usual attendees aren't going for their poorly finger, etc. because they are scared of catching the virus. It needs to carry on after all this is over. They need to stop taking the piss. I doubt it'll happen though.

Richwitch · 03/04/2020 16:17

Just leave the group. Life’s difficult enough at the moment without some controlling busybody with nothing better to do giving you grief.

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