I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

☝️ Clapping I did last night! Also watching National Theatre Live!

I was named and shamed on our local FB group last week and when I ignored and came off the group I then had a flyer put through my door telling me to clap this week and put stuff in my window to 'show support'. When I didn't do that I had a neighbour run up my drive last night banging a pan and yelling 'SHOW SUPPORT'.
I'm trying to ignore it all but really hoping this doesn't keep happening or get worse each week.

Brilliant, brilliant retorts from you and other uncuntish people in your group. Can't wait to hear what the response from the 'founder' is 😂

Oh my god @weliveincrazytimes that would make me even more determined not to do it

WHY have they picked a time when many small children are asleep or parents are trying to get them down

@weliveincrazytimes I suggest having a supersoaker full of custard diluted with vinegar waiting for anyone who runs up your drive next Thursday. Absolutely twattery.

Not a single person clapped in my street. That is because (apart from us) they are all doctors- largely because of the houses and proximity to a large hospital.

So my street is supporting the NHS by working in it.

And I am pretty sure they would all tell her to get tae fuck.

Revenge is a dish best served cold
Bide your time OP

One day and opportunity will
Come and BOOM

Thought it was lovely the first time but no one on my street did it last night . I wouldn't judge anyone for not .
It seams a bit pointless doing it every week and a bit forced .
I wonder how many of these people trying to enforce it voted labour in the last election .

Do you have a bell? I'd be tempted to get your other sinners and lead a chant of Shame! on your doorsteps.

UNCLEAN! UNCLEAN!

Tell her you're too busy setting up a petition for better pay and conditions long term for NHS and other emergency staff which I'm sure they'd appreciate more

Or that you are sewing facemasks.

I'm an nhs worker, I'm happy if you clap but don't care if you don't..

I haven't joined any local social media groups or read any papers so I could be being shamed for something and not know it !

It's brought a spring time job for the poppy police.

^This.

I couldn't go out as I wouldn't have been able to maintain social distancing. I live on a terraced street with less than a couple of feet between my front door and next doors. They are elderly. I'm not risking it.

My DH is a key worker (not NHS), I gave him a kiss and clapped through the window. Some obnoxious twat was banging a pan with a spoon and another was setting fireworks off.

It's a nice thing to do I suppose but it's not a requirement and I'm pretty sure that NHS staff on the front line would rather have proper PPE and testing and not had their funding cut to the bone for the last 10 years.

Well you can’t leave now !!! The ‘go fuck your self’ is going to cause WW4 !

Sit back and watch !!

A development. I have added a very crude diagram and yes, it does look rude, sorry! - it’s a cul de sac.

In front bedroom making bed when hear shouting. Open window and stick head out obviously.... Neighbour over road is going apeshit at a car that has come up the road to turn, man gets out of car and it’s ‘hubs’. These 2 are good friends and often work on cars together.

Long story short it appears that Mrs Angry Neighbour is one of those ‘shamed’ by Mrs Clap (thank you so much whoever came up with that, I can’t find the post or I’d send you flowers!). Mr Angry is furious (he’s a fiery little chap at the best of times) and there’s a lot of swearing.

It quickly becomes apparent that Hubs has no idea what Angry is shouting about. Hubs is not in the WA group and does not know what his wife has done.

Seizing the moment I shouted down that she’d put me on the list too. Hubs said really sorry and he’ll go and have a word and tell her to remove it and apologise....Hubs is not a happy bunny.

I am eagerly awaiting her next message...

"If I was interested in clap I'd shag your husband."

It's all kicked off on our street WhatsApp group as well. Self-appointed street warden sent out how disappointed he was that "SEVERAL" houses hadn't bothered to join in.

One of the replies was "We wanted to join in, but since SEVERAL people took it upon themselves to wander the street last week sharing homebaking and not staying 2m away we didn't feel it safe so clapped inside. #stayhome #protectthenhs"

Self-appointed street boss, his wife and MIL were the ones wandering the street last week so I'm eagerly awaiting his response

Please leave the whattsap group, that's a really awful thing for her to do. People don't clap for all sorts of reasons, no one should be made to feel they have to. I'm a key worker working from home so I clapped from my window last night but if I'd taken an emergency call I wouldn't have been able to. If someone had named and shamed me for it I'd be at their front door (keeping a safe distance) explaining this and asking for an apology. You do what you like, it's no one elses business x

I love the fact that hubs had no idea of her WhatsApp message. Hopefully it gets taken down and replaced with an apology.

OP you need to invent other type of clapping - Clap for Supermarket Workers, Clap for Bin Men or something.

Go outside and clap at a time of your choosing then circulate a list of those who didn't clap.

Put Mrs Clap at the top of this list.

There was a lot of clapping and shouting and banging of stuff round me last night our neighbours are quite distant but it still scared the shit out of my sheep. Fortunately lambing is over as there was a lot of running round the fields. I am not a good person as didn't clap. I was too busy locking the chickens in.

lol at your last update OP. Hubs is home and going to go 'sort her out' eh? Eagerly awaiting the next Whatapp message and what's going to happen next Thursday then???

weliveincrazytimes Please tell me that is a joke, for the love of God. I cannot believe people are behaving this way. My DH is an NHS worker and couldn't give two shiny shites if people clap or not. What NHS workers care about is having adequate PPE to do their work safely, if some of these extreme clappers can sort that out, that'd be great. Any bet these bullies are conservative voters that don't get the irony of their own extreme virtue signalling.

I'm also a key worker and find it all a bit twee, telling me I'm a hero for doing a very ordinary job, that to be fair, I'm there for the money, not to keep the country running.

We didn’t know the first week that you’re MEANT to go out front. Our main room is at the back of the house, so popped outside on the patio to clap. Anyone looking at our front door would not have known. Thankfully no clap police on our street

Re OP's latest update. This is getting nearly as good as the 'send 'em on Manningham Lane!' scene from Rita, Sue and Bob Too ....

And yes, I'm being an unrepentent voyeur. Haven't had this much fun on Mumsnet in yonks