I’ve been named and ‘shamed’

[EstuaryBird]

Admittedly it’s only on our local WhatsApp group...

Opened it this morning and there’s a message from a ‘founder’ member of the group.

“Me, hubs and the kids were out last night making lots of noise for our NHS heroes. Disappointed to see that some of this group don’t care enough to give up 2 minutes of their time!!! Maybe you forgot..(then a list of names including mine). Will be sending you a reminder next week!!”

I know she’s a twat but I’m fuming. I’m not going to dignify it with a reply because she and her little crew of followers love a public war. I’m just going to ignore her but if she thinks she’s forcing me out next week she’s got another bloody think coming.

Tbh if I wasn’t on lockdown I wouldn’t even give it 2 thoughts but I’m winding myself up about it now!

AIBU to think that clapping is not compulsory and nobody else’s business?

And we want her WhatsApp message word for word. Not getting over involved on this one at all...

My DH (who has twatty tendencies but is amusing) when told (by me) he should go and clap, pointed out that most of the people clapping are happy to go and waste the NHS resources on a regular basis and in most cases barely or don't contribute to it. His view was that the large sum he contributes in tax each year was support enough and he didn't feel it appropriate to patronise them further. Depending on your and her circumstances perhaps a response along those lines would go down well?

Great thread. Waiting for next update.

We didn’t clap, but that’s because me and my husband are both NHS workers and he’s doing an early shift today. We were all I. Bed asleep by 7! If anyone woke him up banging pans he would have been a bit pissed odd to be honest, he’s working about 60 hours a week and needs his sleep!

OP, I am supposed to be working but I am riveted. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when hubs gets into the house...

Yesssss to mr angry and mr clap
Mrs clap is a twat of the highest order and has no right to shame anyone
What an embarrassing clown

Another thought. Message the whole group saying you couldn't clap as you were on the toilet doing a tricky Number 2.

Your family couldn't clap as they were shouting encouragement from the other side of the bathroom door.

Reminds me of the 'Minute hate' in 1984, where everyone tries to hate louder and more viciously than anyone else because others are watching - and they're afraid of being reported.

OMG now you've said this, it reminds me of it too. That's actually rather chilling.

Can't believe the treatment some posters have been subjected to by their neighbours! It sounds like this trend has already gone sour and it will only get worse from week to week. Why do people have to ruin nice things by behaving like bellends.

Another thought. Message the whole group saying you couldn't clap as you were on the toilet doing a tricky Number 2. Your family couldn't clap as they were shouting encouragement from the other side of the bathroom door.

DO THIS, OP!

Poor Mr Clap. I do feel sorry for him getting an ear full from Mr Angry because of Mrs Claps twattery.

I feel like I've fallen into a deeply inappropriate Mr Men book.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Kim Jong-Jill

I laughed until I snorted at that

It sounds as though Mr Angry and Hubs will lock this down.

Which is almost a shame (sorry, OP) as the ridiculousness is a good distraction.

Even my dp who is always for these kinds of things, and is pretty patriotic etc, said last nights clap felt a bit daft and meaningless.

Mrs Clap and Mr Angry, mr Men book of the year!

Fantastic update.
I feel rather sorry for 'hubs' having to live with someone like that.
And a big 'clap' for Mr Angry!

Wow. This is unbelievable.

I haven't been out to clap because we would be so close to our next door neighbours it wouldn't meet social distancing guidelines!

I've signed up as volunteer and donated to the ppe fund. Hopefully more useful than clapping!

This is the best thread I’ve read in ages 😂

This thread has cheered me up, united in our recognition of total bell ends. I clapped last week as I thought what a lovely one-off gesture to show our united support and appreciation of the NHS and its staff. But I won't be doing it every week. It's not really going to achieve anything. Others can if it makes them feel better. But to shame people for choosing not to...unbelievable.

Checkyspec seconding that! Loving every post.

And you could ask whether other people are having Number 2 problems due to eating too much pasta and a lack of fresh veg.

Get them chatting about gut health. If no-one responds, add a comment which implies they might be hoarders. Shame them back.

There's always a self appointed 'boss' in groups like this. This is why I hate groups, as unless they're a nice, genuine person, it can get bullying & end up a dictatorship because people are scared to challenge them. They I'd prob reply " virtue signalling is fine if that's your thing, but I'd rather not have how I support the NHS decided for me, thanks" . Then I'd leave the group.

@HollowTalk
Really? What time would their shift start if they were still asleep at 8 pm?

My shift last night started at midnight. Most of my colleagues on started at 10pm. Probably all of us were also at 8pm, I'll be asleep at 8pm tonight as well, I'm amazed you can't think of a shift time that would lead to you being asleep at 8pm to be honest

OMG that's an amazing update OP. A pp said revenge is a dish best served cold and you didn't have to wait very long for karma. Shame you didn't tell her husband that she'd been flogging hand sanitizers on ebay at inflated prices. I would have done but then again I'm a bit of a devil & you're an

^I was named and shamed on our local FB group last week and when I ignored and came off the group I then had a flyer put through my door telling me to clap this week and put stuff in my window to 'show support'. When I didn't do that I had a neighbour run up my drive last night banging a pan and yelling 'SHOW SUPPORT'. hmm
I'm trying to ignore it all but really hoping this doesn't keep happening^

@weliveincrazytimes

Wow, that's deranged. It's ludicrous and I can imagine felt quite intimidating. This clapping thing seems to be exposing a quite ugly desire to force people to into this. Quite bonkers.

She’s a fucking idiot. Leave the group. A two minute clap does NOTHING that she should feel entitled her to sneer at others. Is she volunteering as an NHS helper? If not, she should shut up.

The number of imbeciles turning clapping into a virtue signalling boast and saying that if you haven’t clapped you aren’t grateful to the NHS is absolutely ridiculous. It’s the sort of stupidity that you see from people who share stuff with ‘press like to send a prayer for this ill child’ or ‘how many of my friends will care enough to repost this?’. FUCK OFF!!!!