AIBU to plan on having a BBQ

[Numptydumptyfelloffthewall]

Hi,

I've seen such conflicting advice and information on this lockdown that I'm starting to doubt my own judgement. I've tried to follow the lockdown to the letter. DH and I are working full time from home and i've been out once since lockdown for food shopping. We have 2 DC (4, 6) who are home and havent been out, they run around in the garden for exercise.

I have some BBQ coal in the shed and was wondering if it would be unreasonable/ wrong for DH, me and the 2 DC to have a BBQ on Sunday when the weather is predicted to be a bit nicer. We wouldnt need to buy any supplies or meet anyone else and it would really brighten a very stressed and difficult week but I dont want to be disrespectful or undermine the lockdown, esp as I have family both on the shielding list and working in the NHS, so I really understand how important it is to delay the spread of Covid 19.

We're in a standard 1930s 3 bed semi so we have a nice sized garden but not huge. If we do go ahead, should we go in if our neighbours also come into their garden? Or set up at the bottom of the garden? I usually keep the kids inside during the actual cooking as DD4 is asthmatic but they find eating BBQ food outside to be a huge novelty/ treat.

The two people I know who have COVID and are at home (they've been tested) wouldn't care a fig if a NDN had a barbecue. One is in bed and wouldn't even know. The other has recovered and would probably want to join in.

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h eh? If I had CV-19 I’d likely be in bed completely unaware of what the neighbours were doing. Even if the windows were open I’d maybe be able to smell it vaguely but it wouldn’t bother or upset me. Do your neighbours BBQ in jet fuel or something? Does a thick black plume of smoke pour through your windows? If so, I can see why you’d be narked.

Do your neighbours BBQ in jet fuel or something? Does a thick black plume of smoke pour through your windows? If so, I can see why you’d be narked.

Even if they don't, people could be enjoying themselves and we can't allow that. This is a time for national misery according to some!

Dyme

Exactly. My godson's wife has it. She has been poorly. But in bed and to be honest is just sleeping and getting over it. She would not be the slightest bit worried about a barbecue next door because she's sensible and rational.

Yep. We all have to be miserable. Themz the rulez

Why not?
We’re planning a garden day and BBQ for tea on Sunday as well.

When I read the dementors I wonder how they will get through this and what state they will be at the other end
This is a marathon not a sprint
Whilst living wisely within the rules we need some joy and pleasure
Making this utterly joyous and miserable will make it harder to stick to
It will also mean that in the future mental health issues will become a problem
Making this utter torture will achieve nothing
It won't make you less susceptible to Covid
It doesn't make you a better person
And I'm certain that whilst we are all finding this hard showing ourselves and our families a smidge of kindness hurts no one
My kids have lost enough joy already this year
Denying them a barbecue or some good food won't make them safer.

I’m beginning to think there is a subset of people whose inner masochistic tendencies are gleefully emerging amidst all this. The competitive quarantining, the hyper prepared hoarding, the tabulation of who hasn’t left their living room in months, the generating of a super rule book ovrrcabd above government guidance, the self flagellation, the flagellation of others - is there a brand of pleasure some people derive from punishing themselves?

The extended rule book so far I’ve seen includes but isn’t restricted to -

1. One must wash ones post
2. One must isolate into house for 3 months if one’s uncles neighbours aunt is shielding
3. One mustn’t purchase anything online
4. One mustn’t do crafts hobbies home decor or gardening
5. One mustn’t e joy camping picnics or bbq in one’s own garden in one’s own company for fear of not being sad enough
6. One mustn’t get one’s daily outdoor exercise because what if a passerby - shock horror - passes by.
7. One must be sad.
8. One must self flagellate if one lights a scented candle to lift one’s mood.

One goes to eat gruel in one’s corner whilst one contemplates sombrely one’s cellar walls.

Even if they don't, people could be enjoying themselves and we can't allow that. This is a time for national misery according to some!

🤣🤣😂 Absolutely. It is like a competition for who can be the best misery guts.

Enjoy your barbecues all those who are having them this coming weekend. I must say that I am now tempted. I'll probably be going to the supermarket on Saturday, so you never know. We just might go for it if the weather looks reasonable.

Should I also buy Easter eggs in the supermarket, or are those only there for show? I mean, let's face it, we can't have luxury like that. The joy-police on here would blow all of their fuses at once.

Wooo hooo! Barbecues AND Easter eggs! What ho!

DON'T YOU KNOW THERE'S A CRISIS ON

Tried to read this thread but couldn't get past @Bluntness100 's post at 15:09. Been a while since I laughed so much and I actually feel quite dizzy now.....

It's absolutely fine OP. Enjoy your bbq.

15:08 rather. Still a bit dizzy

I vote no, but I can’t stand barbecues, living in a city with bad unhealthy air at the best of times.

If you have a very big garden maybe it’s not so bad for the neighbours.

Seems I’m in the minority, so am dreading the weeks ahead with constant bbq smoke.

Should I also buy Easter eggs in the supermarket, or are those only there for show? I mean, let's face it, we can't have luxury like that. The joy-police on here would blow all of their fuses at once.

How very dare you even think of eating chocolate at a time like this!

(I haven't really got a Twirl and 2 Wispas in the fridge that DH bought me when he went to the corner shop for milk)

I'd like some red wine as well as the chocolate. Can I have some? Have the joy-police yet got steam coming out of their ears do you think, pinksparklypussycat?

Find to do so long as next door don't have washing drying on the line. Then it's pretty shitty imo.

I speak as someone with a disposable tray who hopes too as well. But i wouldnt with washing hanging out. grumbles remembering beautiful terry towel nappies drying amid the stink from next door.

(I haven't really got a Twirl and 2 Wispas in the fridge that DH bought me when he went to the corner shop for milk)

Assuming this isn’t a joke, then you and your DH are idiots who need to look up the meaning of essential

A trip out of the house to a shop just to get milk and chocolate is truly selfish and makes you look a bit thick.

Sorry

And right in cue, here they come!! I'm only surprised it has taken so long!

I will explain this carefully @Rebootingagain.

Nowhere does the government say you cannot buy non essentials while you are shopping. DH went to the corner shop for milk which a lot of normal people would class as essential. While he was there buying his essential items he picked up some chocolate for me. Therefore he did nothing wrong and neither of us are 'a bit thick' as you so charmingly put it.

Feel free to enjoy your isolation in utter misery, if I can do anything within the law to make it more bearable then I will.

I shall go out at the weekend for my weekly shop. I am likely to buy Easter eggs and wine too!

Will there be a firing squad of misery guts waiting to shoot me?

Wine?! Don't you know we're in the middle of a crisis?! How can you think of wine at a time like this?

I probably shouldn't mention DH got himself some lager while he was there as well!

Have people lost the ability to make rational decisions?
These endless posts of “can I do this?” are getting daft.

I’m hoping for a bbq this weekend. Why in earth wouldn’t you try to make the best of a shit situation and find small pleasures in things at home. In the same vein, I bought Easter eggs for the children yesterday and craft stuff.